Marriage

[carant2000_2001]

Ink Spot,

You've been given some very wise and sage advice.  I know Rusty and Constant well enough that what they say is certainly true. 

I was just like you when I hit 20 yrs. old.  I had 3 couples I was close to get married and here I was not even dating.  On top of that, I was hanging around another couple who were married, so I go the itch.

All of a sudden, the "perfect" person came into my life and I didn't wait on getting married-married her one month and 10 days after I met her.  This "perfect" has henceforth left me once, cheated on me, I have to hide my wallet from her, I have to keep my dress clothes locked behind closed doors or else they get grease stains put on them, and other generally miserable things.  I'll be honest and say if it were not for my kids, I would have left a long time ago.  I said all of that to say this-don't be in a hurry.  It's better to wait for the right person than to jump for the wrong person and spend years in misery.

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ink spot,

not sure if i am qualified to give advice but this i do know at 15, i think you should be praying for Gods guidance in life. and dont worry when that special person God has in mind for you comes along you'll know because you eyes are on the lord above. some look at what we want in life not what God wants for us, give it time you need time to grow in the lord, and be willing to wait upon him. know that God knows you are his child and he wants good things for you. may God bless you

[kodischild]

I know how you feel. Sometimes I feel the same way. I know the ache of watching two married people who love each other deeply, wishing I could be in a realtionship like that, going home and crawling into bed all alone. You want that other person who will complete you and make things feel good and who will give you complete love.

I also know the pain of getting married too young, getting divorced too young, and being alone now.

I suggest that for now you focus on letting Jesus be that special someone. Ok, it sounds weird, but have those long, intimate chats with Him in prayer. When you crawl into bed, imagine Him sitting near you rubbing your back. Learn to lean on Him and learn to live with yourself before you try to love someone else like that.

You want that other person who will complete you and make things feel good and who will give you complete love. That perfect man doesn't exist. The perfect relationship doesn't exist. I have yet to meet the married couple that managed to complete each other if they were not complete in the Lord first.

Love is not like math. In love 1 man+1 woman+God=1 great marriage

1/2 man + 1/2 woman = an unhappy marriage where each partner wants more than he/she can get.

[Kabowd]

Jerry Maguire made the line famous "You complete me"...but as romantic as it is, it's a false idea of marriage. The only man who'll ever complete you is Christ.