Children and Conception

[Gerioke]

My wife had an abortion and 2 miscarriages before our first child came along. Against the odds, God's will prevailed. My wife still struggles with the loss of previous pregnancies, but the children that survived are amazing people. Samuel, our 6 year old son often teaches us about the profound wisdom of God. Nothing is impossible. Everything has a purpose.

[bgoalie35]

Thank you for the replies. The answer to my dilemna was simple, and I already knew it, but I had a mental block between me and belief. I appreciate all of your insights,

bg

[jmwhalen]

bold is my emphasis:

"And Mary arose in those days, and went into the hill country with haste, into a city of Juda; And entered into the house of Zacharias, and saluted Elisabeth. And it came to pass, that, when Elisabeth heard the salutation of Mary, the babe leaped in her womb; and Elisabeth was filled with the Holy Ghost: And she spake out with a loud voice, and said, Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb. And whence is this to me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? For, lo, as soon as the voice of thy salutation sounded in mine ears, the babe leaped in my womb for joy.

Luke 1:39-44

In Christ,

John M. Whalen

[justme7]

bgoalie35

i am sorry that you know the pain of losing a child. i cannot fathom it. my very closest friend just lost a baby that she had prayed to have. i have never seen her face covered in grief as it was that day.

as for your questions i honestly think that we are not to know all things. i have no clue why some die young and some die old, or why some die before they even say hello to the world. i don't think we can know. sometimes the question why? can seem to be a blockage to acceptance. i know my friend must have asked atleast once inside herself, 'why LORD?'. i don't see how she couldn't have. i myself have asked why a billion times of hard or hurtful situations. i think the answer to these hard why questions is always...HE knows...HE has a plan...HE is still taking care of you.

i know it seems cliche to say that sometimes things happen to strengthen our trust in GOD and cause us to lean on HIM alone. that may not be the answer to why in reality, but still the circumstance gives opportunity to be totally surrendered and reliant upon HIM. i hope that you find peace in this and a way to not be plagued by not knowing why.

as for the biological aspect of your question, yes, scientifically there are xamount of sperm and only one makes the cut. that could seem like a lottery. the thing is that the LORD alone knows each life before the womb. no life comes to be without HIS having said so. science can help us understand the physical process of the body, but it cannot begin to touch on the miraculous and amazing workings of our CREATOR. i believe whole heartedly that not a soul living is alive by chance or lottery, but by the divine will of our LORD alone.

i have no idea if you will find any comfort in this at all, but i hope that the HOLY SPIRIT does comfort you and quide you through this hardship.

amber

[bgoalie35]

bgoalie35

i am sorry that you know the pain of losing a child. i cannot fathom it. my very closest friend just lost a baby that she had prayed to have. i have never seen her face covered in grief as it was that day.

as for your questions i honestly think that we are not to know all things. i have no clue why some die young and some die old, or why some die before they even say hello to the world. i don't think we can know. sometimes the question why? can seem to be a blockage to acceptance. i know my friend must have asked atleast once inside herself, 'why LORD?'. i don't see how she couldn't have. i myself have asked why a billion times of hard or hurtful situations. i think the answer to these hard why questions is always...HE knows...HE has a plan...HE is still taking care of you.

i know it seems cliche to say that sometimes things happen to strengthen our trust in GOD and cause us to lean on HIM alone. that may not be the answer to why in reality, but still the circumstance gives opportunity to be totally surrendered and reliant upon HIM. i hope that you find peace in this and a way to not be plagued by not knowing why.

as for the biological aspect of your question, yes, scientifically there are xamount of sperm and only one makes the cut. that could seem like a lottery. the thing is that the LORD alone knows each life before the womb. no life comes to be without HIS having said so. science can help us understand the physical process of the body, but it cannot begin to touch on the miraculous and amazing workings of our CREATOR. i believe whole heartedly that not a soul living is alive by chance or lottery, but by the divine will of our LORD alone.

i have no idea if you will find any comfort in this at all, but i hope that the HOLY SPIRIT does comfort you and quide you through this hardship.

amber

He has, and your post has provided comfort. Thank you very much for the thoughtful and insightful post. why? can often be a barrier to accepting what has happened and moving on with your life. I think sometimes you just have to look forward and resolve to make the best of what you have, instead of wondering or pining for what could be.

All of your prayers and thoughtful comments are appreciated. The doctors see no reason why my wife and I cannot have a child, it just hasn't happened yet. Deep in my heart, I truly believe that God is holding this child back for the right time, that He has a special purpose for him/her, just like He has a special purpose for everyone. Please pray that we have the patience and acceptance to wait for that time. Thank you all,

Brian