In silent fight with Christian Friend

[KatieK]

A Christian friend of mine is really mad at me. I kind of know why but don't at the same time. This friendship is very close to ending right now. she won't talk beyond a few words at the places we have friends in common as to be civil. I want to be reconciled with her and be friends again but I don't know how. How can when she won't talk and I don't know what to apologize for.

Well maybe it'd help if I shared a little of what did happen. We always talked about deep stuff on the bus to school(about the only place we see each other) stuff like what we are struggling with in our lives, Bible questions, Right and Wrong, great stuff that God's been doing our lives,ect. Well recently two topics have been coming up. The first is Honoring Parents. As some of you may know I was struggling with this alot. My friend was struggling with the same issue. She's got it alot harder at home and she got really mad that I kept asking her how she was doing with honoring them. She was mad when I said really just had to do it. The second thing is she's dating a non-Christian. Doesn't seem right to me. She mentioned that she was convicted by the Spirit to break up with him but she didn't. I don't nag her about it (I don't think so anyway) but when it comes up I'm not good at hiding my dislike of the situation. This makes her angry.

I really don't know what to do to restore this friendship. I really don't know what I'm doing so wrong to anger so much.

Does anyone see this fault of mine that i'm to pridefully blind to see?

Any ideas on how to get her forgiveness and friendship?

[ice--eyes]

Maybe this will help you: http://www.worthyboards.com/index.php?show...=0entry521588

Look to the last post, this is something I wrote to someone else who was having friendship troubles. I hope it helps.

God Bless.

[felix]

Keep praying for this friend. There's something there that we don't see yet so the wisest thing to do is just let God reveal this to you. Stay in Spirit and keep living out Christ. Eventually God will reveal to you all things concerning this matter...for the spiritual man judges or discerns all things (1 cor 2:15).

The convictions you are getting on behalf of her actions seems to be normal; however, it's the way we go about expressing them that determines whether we're judging them with out natural eyes or whether by spiritual eyes. Judging by our natural eyes (or by our own mind) is in danger of "removing a speck from a brothers eye while there is a plank in your own eye". Basically you can be in danger of passing on hypocritical judgement. This seems to be your concern.

On the other hand, judging by our spiritual eyes is what God would say and do. What's a good way to go about this?...

The next time you talk to her, when you get those convictions about what she is doing (such as the situation of honoring her parents or dating non-christians), before you say anything pray and ask God to reveal the truth to you. It is simply through prayer that we can be spiritual men that judge all things. It is through fully denying ourselves (our own concepts, ethics, thoughts, biases etc) and just relying on God's power. God may do many things when you do this...just trust God and deny yourself.

When you do this Christ will shine through you. You can win this silent fight because this does not take any words, just the power of God.

I believe your relationship with this girl has a purpose in the Lord.

[Leonard]

Perhaps when she sees you she is reminded of her conviction from the Holy Ghost, and of her disobedience to God's revealed Word ("NO! DO NOT DATE NON-CHRISTIANS!!!!). This is what makes her uncomfortable and hostile.