Christian Dating Sites (to use or not to use)

[LadyRaven]

I think eventually internet dating is going to become "normal". I think it's a whole new way to meet people, and just because you aren't talking to them face to face doesnt mean a thing. Yes, it allows a new level of anonymity, but YOU HAVE NO IDEA who your neighbour REALLY is, or what your new friend at church REALLY DOES on their spare time. Life is unpredictable and risky...I guess you can make the choice to stay away from internet dating sites...but it may work for others so why bash it?

As long as one is aware that there are dangers inherent to the process of online dating which are similar to the old correspondence dating from victorian times, and different from what goes on today in normal FTF dating, there is nothing wrong with it.

With FTF dating and meeting, you see a persons clothing preferences (which do make a difference as they give information about a person's tastes), you see whehter they can meet your eye and if they can't their body language gives you hints about WHY (smooth but unable to meet the eyes means this person is at least not telling you everything if not lying, nervous most likely just means that they are nervous or have a personality complex of some sort). You see the care with which this person treats strangers, how much of a conversation he or she takes up about themselves and how much is about others, etc...

At the same time it takes a long time to learn about a persons politics or how they think about things.

With online dating it's just the opposite

[Nevella123]

Thanks everyone. I guess what it comes down to is that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. And first and foremost, I should let God be my matchmaker. Besides that, I should be very cautious if I do ever choose to eventually go on a date with someone from one of these sites. I am starting at a new church with lots of other young adults, so maybe I will just go that route. Just get involved, make friends, and maybe one day one of those friends will "click" with me, or they'll introduce me to someone. But I'm not looking for that to happen anytime soon.

Thanks again for all the responses. It has helped me a lot

[Guest richied]

i dont know a thing about dating sites infact i advice you to not put a lot of wait on it but all i can say is find a good person..you know the bible loving guy and gal in fact i think God does not want us to be alone

Ecclesiastes 4:12

And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.