Zol Posted July 24, 2007 Group: Removed from Forums for Breaking Terms of Service Followers: 0 Topic Count: 11 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 23 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/17/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted July 24, 2007 Im socially inept. For example, I go to cafes a lot...what is one supposed to say to the cafe people? Because i go there a lot so I feel like Im supposed to say something- but what do I say? I mean, when i go up to order my drink, what is one sposed to say? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetycakes Posted July 24, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 162 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 7,844 Content Per Day: 1.13 Reputation: 2,105 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/21/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/23/1964 Share Posted July 24, 2007 Im socially inept. For example, I go to cafes a lot...what is one supposed to say to the cafe people? Because i go there a lot so I feel like Im supposed to say something- but what do I say? I mean, when i go up to order my drink, what is one sposed to say? Maybe 'I'd like a large orange juice, please' would serve the purpose? Sorry.....I don't mean to belittle your plight. I am socially inept myself as well. I feel as if I don't really fit in anywhere, so I'm just trying to make light of the situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canadasuzi Posted July 24, 2007 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 8 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 29 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/13/2006 Status: Offline Share Posted July 24, 2007 im sorry i dont understand your question...are you unable to talk to strangers period or just conversation making? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leonard Posted July 24, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 115 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 8,281 Content Per Day: 1.12 Reputation: 249 Days Won: 3 Joined: 03/03/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/30/1955 Share Posted July 24, 2007 Smile and say: "Good morning! How are you today?" The reply will either be "I'm going very well thankyou, and how are you" or "Well, it's a trying day, because................" Depending on the answer you will say: "I'm doing well, thank you for asking," or "Oh I'm sorry to hear that." You might add: I hope your day gets better (or I hope the situation improves," or "We'll mention that in our Evening Prayers.") "May I get a table (or booth), please?" "Please" and "Thank you" go a long, long way toward being socially 'ept!' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KeilanS Posted July 25, 2007 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 158 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,763 Content Per Day: 0.27 Reputation: 7 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/14/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/23/1990 Share Posted July 25, 2007 I was for awhile, but now I work at a deli counter in a grocery store where I am not allowed to be socially inept. In fact, I must make sure the customers leave my counter smiling and wanting to come back. Basically you just make small talk. "How are you today?" "I really am addicted to this coffee" "This weather sure has been trying" etc. Oh, and smile a lot, and laugh where appropriate. It doesn't matter what you say if you have a winning smile to go with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shepherdsgrace Posted July 25, 2007 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 880 Content Per Day: 0.13 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/28/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted July 25, 2007 The answer to leaving shyness behind is simply to think of others rather than yourself. Shyness causes us to dwell on how everything effects us or myself. But when we look out of ourselves with a little bit of kindness and caring it is an entirely different world. We find we can speak and smile and get a smile back sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
7thseal Posted July 25, 2007 Group: Senior Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 825 Content Per Day: 0.13 Reputation: 186 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/13/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted July 25, 2007 The answer to leaving shyness behind is simply to think of others rather than yourself. Wow I had been praying over this issue....because I'm shy in person and the Holy Spirit has really been pouring it on me to open my mouth and speak everytime He leads me to when around total strangers. The Lord just used you to answer my prayer! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shepherdsgrace Posted July 25, 2007 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 880 Content Per Day: 0.13 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/28/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted July 25, 2007 The answer to leaving shyness behind is simply to think of others rather than yourself. Wow I had been praying over this issue....because I'm shy in person and the Holy Spirit has really been pouring it on me to open my mouth and speak everytime He leads me to when around total strangers. The Lord just used you to answer my prayer! Well, that is just wonderful! Thanks for sharing.........and may you be blessed as you reach out to others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nosoulleftbehind Posted July 25, 2007 Share Posted July 25, 2007 Smile and say: "Good morning! How are you today?" The reply will either be "I'm going very well thankyou, and how are you" or "Well, it's a trying day, because................" Depending on the answer you will say: "I'm doing well, thank you for asking," or "Oh I'm sorry to hear that." You might add: I hope your day gets better (or I hope the situation improves," or "We'll mention that in our Evening Prayers.") "May I get a table (or booth), please?" "Please" and "Thank you" go a long, long way toward being socially 'ept!' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nosoulleftbehind Posted July 25, 2007 Share Posted July 25, 2007 Im socially inept. For example, I go to cafes a lot...what is one supposed to say to the cafe people? Because i go there a lot so I feel like Im supposed to say something- but what do I say? I mean, when i go up to order my drink, what is one sposed to say? ..Used to be this way, until I relized it's okay to 'not worry what others might think... Please accept yourself the way God made you...Be sure to let 'Him know you accept what 'He has done with you.. & certainly include 'Him in all your concerns.. as well as this!! We are in Christ.. We are heirs of a royal priesthood!.. Confidence in God, is confidence in who you really are!!! ...Rlax, ... Your just as important as the next person God has a purpose for!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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