i am going through a divorce of my own, so certainly relate to all who have to deal with this subject. this is the sixth time in 11 years that my wife has threatened, but this time she filed as of april, and for the first time, i made no attempt to talk her out of it. i did of course suggest marital counseling again, as i have for the last 11 years, but she is bitterly opposed to that, and because of that, i cannot continue to go through this every other year.
we have a 12 year old daughter who is having a difficult time with this, for me that is the hardest part. she is the reason that i tried so hard to make this work, but have come to realize that the homelife provided is more harmful than good. i do not want her to grow up thinking that the way her mother treats me is acceptable for any wife. it sets a poor example, and makes me shudder to think of how this could affect her future happiness if she marries someday.
i have tolerated verbal abuse for the duration of the marriage, which has intensified over the years, and lately has turned to physical abuse as well. mostly it comes in the form of objects being hurled at me, but on several occasions she has also punched me, and often pushes me as well. i know this may seem silly for a man to complain about, because as long as i am aware, she cannot actually hurt me. but i do fear what she might do when i am sleeping, which has only added to an already existing problem with insomnia.
i have slept on the couch since christmas of 2007, and only have 3 more months before the divorce will finally be settled and i can begin to rebuild my life. i ask for any prayers that can be given, not only for my daughter and wife, but also for myself. thank you all for your love and support, and i will be praying for you and yours as well. God bless.