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OK I need some help here. My fiance has battled some depression in the past. It appears that he is also having some Social Anxiety issues as well (the two tend to go hand in hand). My question is this. The anxiety brought on by the depression makes his ability to attend church uncomfortable and too easy to step away from completely. He doesn't enjoy crowds and while we are members of a small hometown church, the congregation is pretty hands on. They tend to crowd and hug on people which is fine when things are good with him. After much discussion we have figured out that this is the main reason he doesn't attend church as he should or even wants to. So my question is, what can we do about this aside from telling people to stay their distance? I've thought about Sunday night or Wednesday evening services and while those will help it won't solve the issue. I am going to call our minister and discuss this issue with him as well. I was hoping that maybe some of you had some ideas on how to make this as easy on my finace as possible. We are also doing Bible Study together each night but he needs to attend services and he needs to be comfortable enough to do so as well.

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Have you talked to your pastor about it?

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Disney... I can really feel for him. I also do not (NOT) like crowds of people and feeling suffocated by the closeness of a mass of humanity. I think it was an excellent suggestion to sit in the rear near the door and exit soon after the service is over to be outside. This can be so difficult to deal with. God Bless!!

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Talking with the minister I want to do anyway.

Trying a bigger church might work. I had thought about trying the smaller services like Sunday or Wednesday night to see if that helped him too. And never thought about sitting in the back. We normally sit right in the front of the church for some reason. Thank you all for the great ideas. I appreciate all of them.

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I was wondering if he is on anti-depressants. If not there are very mild forms. I don't know if you have ever listen to New Life Ministries with Steven Arterburn but they tackle depression issues alot, they are trained psychologists and think that anti-depressants are very helpful for a short time to help with therpy if that is something he is willing to do. You can find his and all of the psychologists books at the Christian Book Stores. Dr. Henery Cloud, Dr. John Townsend, etc... they will know just using these names. I so feel for him my sister is the same way and anti-depressants helped her so much while she was counseling with her pastor. Please note that I am not trying to come across as a no it all, it's just that I have been listening to this program for about 15 years or more and it is amazing the people they have helped. Good luck and God bless you both.

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I was wondering if he is on anti-depressants. If not there are very mild forms. I don't know if you have ever listen to New Life Ministries with Steven Arterburn but they tackle depression issues alot, they are trained psychologists and think that anti-depressants are very helpful for a short time to help with therpy if that is something he is willing to do. You can find his and all of the psychologists books at the Christian Book Stores. Dr. Henery Cloud, Dr. John Townsend, etc... they will know just using these names. I so feel for him my sister is the same way and anti-depressants helped her so much while she was counseling with her pastor. Please note that I am not trying to come across as a no it all, it's just that I have been listening to this program for about 15 years or more and it is amazing the people they have helped. Good luck and God bless you both.

You don't come across as a know it all in the least. Thank you so much for this information. It's very helpful. He isn't on anti-depressants right now as he has no insurance (his company is working on that we hope though). I will check out some of their messages.

I really appreciate all of these suggestions. Hopefully we can get him back on track quickly.

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