Fear

[Guest LiLamofGod04]

Hi, I am wondering if anyone knows how to get rid of the fear of men. I have a problem with looking at men in the eyes. I don't know why i am afraid of men. I am wondering if it is because of what happened when i was about 13 years old. I was nearly raped by a boy who I thought was a friend. Ever since then i guess its been hard to get close to a man. I want to be able to date but i haven't been able to get over this fear.

Thank you for your help.

God Bless You All!!!!

[RGR]

Hi, LiLamofGod04 and welcome to Worthy. I'm sure someone else might can give some better advice, but remember this-God didn't give us a spirit of fear, but of love, joy, peace, and a sound mind. With that being the case, it stands to reason that Satan is trying to keep you in bondage. A good place to start would be by reading, and confessing, the 23rd Psalm. Trust in God and if necessary, find some good Christian counseling!

[UndecidedFrog]

Dear LiLamofGod04,

This is just my opinion. You don't have to accept it if you dislike it. DISCLAIMER: I am not a christian.

I would advise you to get a referral from your primary care doctor to a specialist who treat phobias. Therapy of this sort is not a one shot deal, it will require concerted effort. But I am sure that the effort will be equal to the desire to overcome your fear.

Good luck,

UndecidedFrog

[darkest_red]

It isn't surprising that you feel that way. I've been through something that wasn't as bad as that and to a certain extent I feel the same as you (though not as generalised).

Looking for counselling is a good idea, though it isn't for everyone. My brother started counselling (for completely different reasons, obviously) and it didn't suit him at all, he didn't gain anything from it. Saying that however, a lot of people do find it helps. It's worth a shot at least.

[Dad Ernie]

Hi, I am wondering if anyone knows how to get rid of the fear of men.  I have a problem with looking at men in the eyes.  I don't know why i am afraid of men.  I am wondering if it is because of what happened when i was about 13 years old.  I was nearly raped by a boy who I thought was a friend.  Ever since then i guess its been hard to get close to a man.  I want to be able to date but i haven't been able to get over this fear. 

Greetings Lil,

Welcome to Worthy. I am sorry to hear of your plight. Do you have a good number of girl friends? How about church, do you go to one? I presume you are not an old maid yet, and for some, it is better that they wait awhile before tackling dating. I would advise you get into a fellowship where there is a mixture of guys and gals, one perhaps that one of your girl friends attend that you respect. Try to get to know guys on the same basis you would get to know your girlfiends. Even in church they are all not so perfect, but you stand a better chance there of getting over your phobia than out in the world. Find a good Christian mentor from whom you can learn and which you feel comfortable.

Counseling is not totally out of the question, and if your phobia persists then definately find a good Christian counselor. I pray God guide you in this and blesses you.

Blessings,

Dad Ernie