OneLight Posted September 5, 2014 Group: Royal Member Followers: 22 Topic Count: 1,294 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 31,762 Content Per Day: 5.23 Reputation: 9,762 Days Won: 115 Joined: 09/14/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted September 5, 2014 May I suggest that you find another female Christian that is willing to walk with you through this time? Asking the world is one thing, but having someone face to face is far better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle8327 Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 53 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 10 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/04/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/06/1981 Author Share Posted September 6, 2014 Hi Belle It's interesting we the same age and I've been down this road myself. Hosea is a great place to start in the bible for an answer Hosea managed to get his wife back and sorted out her lust for prostitution...but what I can tell u, it would appear ur husband is addicted to crystal meth and it is one of the worst drugs to get addicted to... I don't know the full dynamics of your custody situation...but if I was u learn what Hosea had to do to his wife...cut him off from seeing the kids for a year and get him into a proper rehab...finally understand your enemy...find out everything u need to know about crystal meth do ur research. Keep the faith Hi inChrist Thank you for response. I am unsure if it was crystal meth or not but he def needs help. All I can do is pray for him. I have tried telling his mom and she doesn't believe me and now she won't talk to me and she hasn't for quite some time because she believes that her son would never do something like that. God Bless Belle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle8327 Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 53 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 10 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/04/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/06/1981 Author Share Posted September 6, 2014 Hi Belle Firstly I want to say that I hope you know that you are a beautiful daughter of the Father. He loves you so much and nothing will or can ever change that. Roman's 8:35-39 tells us that nothing can ever separate us from the love of God. I think the only thing I would like to add is from Roman's 8:28 - And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. You may not see it but its a promise you have to claim and believe. Even though the circumstances you find yourself in may dictate otherwise. Jesus offered to exchange his burden for yours. Yours is heavy his is light. Claim that too. He is your strength and your shield. Trust in him he is not a liar. It is God's responsibility to change your husband and not yours. Just pray for wisdom and trust in him and his promises even if your head tells you otherwise. Hello WRG Thank you for your kind reponse. You are right...I worry way to much about everything and instead I need to hand this all over to God. I will continue to pray for my husband though and will never stop. I believe he needs all the prayers and I am sure that God is right there listening. Thank you and God Bless you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle8327 Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 53 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 10 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/04/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/06/1981 Author Share Posted September 6, 2014 May I suggest that you find another female Christian that is willing to walk with you through this time? Asking the world is one thing, but having someone face to face is far better. Hi OneLight I do have several Christian friends that have been helping me for the last 2 years. They have got me through the hard times, and all but I wanted to reach out and make other Christian friends that can help me through this as well. Most of my Christian friends are also friends with my husband and they don't like to be in the middle of things but they all see where I coming from and what I have been through. They have been with me though through all my bad times, however I know that they get tired of having to hear me constantly go on about my husband and I can understand. It's nice to have this website here to be able to get good advice and have a support system. God Bless Belle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle8327 Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 53 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 10 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/04/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/06/1981 Author Share Posted September 6, 2014 Blessings Belle,,,,, Sweet Sister it doesn't really matter what he is shooting in his veins,in my opinion,,,,it is a substance that is mind altering a tool of the enemy & a way to contract the aids virus & or hepatitis C,,,,don't ever let an addict tell you that they would not or have not shared needles,push comes to shove ,,,if that is all that is available then that is w4hat they will use......you have children that need you ,your life is a precious gift from God,,,,,your ex may not value his life but to gamble with yours as well is a crime,,,,,,,you cannot even consider being with this man as long as he does not have some good sobriety TIME under his belt They usually speak half truths as the enemy is known to do ,& he is bound by this strongman,oppressed & lead to do what he is told ,,,,just like a puppet i know it all too well & was married to a man in bondage,a Christian man (or so he said).......it was pain killers & steroids,,,,your husband probably is telling the truth about the pain killers as they can sometimes be very functional on these type of drugs & it can be very hard to tell if they are high .....when you described how he punched the wall in a rage because of your accusations it brought back awful memories,It started out just like that for me & ended up with such an altered personality that he turned that rage towards me.I will never forget how I finally asked God to show me a neon sign ....I could not see a sign or hear Gods voice in all of it yet i knew He must have been guiding me,I knew I was either in denial or the enemy was blinding me to Gods truth...............I vowed to God that if He would show me as plain as day,as plain as the nose on my face,what to do that i would follow Him ,,,,with my husband or without him ,,,,,,,I believe I finally committed fully to God before everything & everyone......The next morning my husband broke my nose & my rib....there was my neon sign,that very moment I felt Gods loving arms around me telling me He was with me & would not let him take my life.......Belle,he went to prison & I never looked back I am not telling you to move on ,I am telling you to keep God first in your life & seek His Will for you......you needn't keep asking God to fix your ex,,,,,,pray for him of course but ask God to show you want he has for YOU,with or without your ex,,,,,,,sometimes we keep praying that God deliver & heal someone else because we want that for ourselves,,,,,,,do you know what I mean?God bless you Beloved,just follow Gods direction,,,,,,,,,nothing is impossible for God but let his Will be done,it will always be for our good & to give Him Glory With love -in Christ,Kwik Hi there dear Kwik It brought tears to my eyes to know what you had to go through. My husband has never hit me luckily and I won't ever let it get to that point. He came over one night and got into another rage and smacked his phone down over my bed post and it was smashed. I called the police to have him escorted out because he wouldn't leave and he kept yelling and calling me horrible names in front of our children and they were crying and upset. I even asked him to calm down so we could go in the bedroom and discuss this like adults and he said no the children need to be in the middle of this. It was horrible and I felt so bad for having to call the cops to my house. It's just so embarrassing. But I had to do it because he wouldn't leave and I was afraid of what else he might do. I will continue to pray for him...but he will not be welcome to my house until he can get his drug addiction and his anger under control. Thank you for sharing your story with me. I know that having to relive something like that must be horrible and for you to share your story with me means a lot. Thank you! I am glad to know that you are no longer in that relationship. God Bless you! Belle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle8327 Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 53 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 10 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/04/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/06/1981 Author Share Posted September 6, 2014 Dear Belle, Welcome my dear sister in CHRIST!!! I'm going to join my voice with those of Hippie & {{{{Alien}}}]}, sometimes tough love is the only road open to us.....I have heard it said & it bears out to be true... You can take the bottle out of an alcoholics hand,BUT if he isn't ready to take the bottle out of his own hand then it's all for nothing... In other words {{{Belle}}},it's got to be his choice...if he's not ready to do this..then you need to do what is best for your kids and yourself. continue to pray for him,but don't allow him access to you or your children. GBU Sweet Sister!! ~~~Miss~~~ Hi Miss Thank you for your response. You are right about that. He won't quit until he is ready. I am just going to continue to pray like I have been for the last 2 years. Thank you and God Bless you! Belle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kwikphilly Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 96 Topic Count: 307 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 18,136 Content Per Day: 4.63 Reputation: 27,817 Days Won: 327 Joined: 08/03/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 6, 2014 Blessings Belle.... Sweet Sister,,,,,no,it is not difficult at all,just a faded memory but well worth it if it gives someone like you the strength to carry on & let God direct your footsteps.....I said the same thing,it couldn't possibly get to that point & it was not something that ever happened before ,,,,,just that morning ,no argument ,,,we were getting along fine & in a stupor ,I am not sure he even knew who I was ,,,his eyes were blank.Drugs can do strange things to a person ,that is why the devil loves to use them ,they open up the doorway for him,,,,,,,,be wise,be careful & walk in spirit & in truth by the Power of the Holy Spirit,in Jesus Name Much love,Kwik Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneLight Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Royal Member Followers: 22 Topic Count: 1,294 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 31,762 Content Per Day: 5.23 Reputation: 9,762 Days Won: 115 Joined: 09/14/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted September 6, 2014 May I suggest that you find another female Christian that is willing to walk with you through this time? Asking the world is one thing, but having someone face to face is far better. Hi OneLight I do have several Christian friends that have been helping me for the last 2 years. They have got me through the hard times, and all but I wanted to reach out and make other Christian friends that can help me through this as well. Most of my Christian friends are also friends with my husband and they don't like to be in the middle of things but they all see where I coming from and what I have been through. They have been with me though through all my bad times, however I know that they get tired of having to hear me constantly go on about my husband and I can understand. It's nice to have this website here to be able to get good advice and have a support system. God Bless Belle I offered this suggestion without reading the whole thread, so I am not sure if what you said had been offered up before. I am glad you have those around who support you. That makes me feel a lot better knowing this. I am not suggesting that you do not seek advice from your brothers and sisters here There are many here who will be more then willing to offer a hand. One of my concerns is that it may be best for you to find one or two females to talk with. We males can offer support and scripture, while another female will understand the deeper feelings you are going through pertaining to your marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Belle8327 Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 53 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 10 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/04/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/06/1981 Author Share Posted September 6, 2014 May I suggest that you find another female Christian that is willing to walk with you through this time? Asking the world is one thing, but having someone face to face is far better. Hi OneLight I do have several Christian friends that have been helping me for the last 2 years. They have got me through the hard times, and all but I wanted to reach out and make other Christian friends that can help me through this as well. Most of my Christian friends are also friends with my husband and they don't like to be in the middle of things but they all see where I coming from and what I have been through. They have been with me though through all my bad times, however I know that they get tired of having to hear me constantly go on about my husband and I can understand. It's nice to have this website here to be able to get good advice and have a support system. God Bless Belle I offered this suggestion without reading the whole thread, so I am not sure if what you said had been offered up before. I am glad you have those around who support you. That makes me feel a lot better knowing this. I am not suggesting that you do not seek advice from your brothers and sisters here There are many here who will be more then willing to offer a hand. One of my concerns is that it may be best for you to find one or two females to talk with. We males can offer support and scripture, while another female will understand the deeper feelings you are going through pertaining to your marriage. Thank you for your kind thoughts. I have several female friends who I do speak with often and I have also found some female friends on here as well that have been going through the same thing as I am. It kind of helps to have someone that knows exactly what you are going through. My friends luckily do not have the same problems in their life that I am facing so it is hard for them to relate. So I am indeed glad that I have found this site and am looking forward to making more friends here. It is nice to be able to talk to someone who has been through the same things that you are going through. I think God brought me to this site for a reason as he knows all of the pain that I have been going through. Thank you for reaching out and caring as you have. God Bless! Belle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Macs Son Posted September 6, 2014 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 8 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 261 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 79 Days Won: 1 Joined: 06/07/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted September 6, 2014 I am a soon to 33 year old woman that is currently seperated from my spouse. He started off lieing to me about doing drugs and I ended up finding several different things in my house. I had to choose between my kids and my husband at that time as he was on drugs and I his ex wife had been calling dfs on him. The officer told me that if drugs were found in my house that I would lose my children. I ended up moving into a house by myself with me and my children. We have now been seperated for 2 years but I still love him very much and we still spend time together every now and then. He still hangs out with the people that does drugs though. I am at my end of the rope. I have prayed non stop for something to happen to where we can have our family back together again. I am however scared that he is still using and I just can't let him move back in only to do drugs and be in the same situation I was in before. Please someone tell me what Jesus would do in these circumstances. I am at a loss here. I read my Bible constantly but I am still searching for an answer to this question. Any Christian advice would be greatly appreciated.Hi again Belle,I just responded to you on another thread and will add this to my payers for you. There is great reason for the body of believers here to pray for you. I would just encourage you that you should not feel alone in your struggle for if you are abiding in Christ then be assured He is in your struggles. I am glad these forum Christians are praying for you, that is the bond of Christian love for one another, but you should also confide with others in your church because that physical community of saints can and should help you and be a source of collective strength to you. With drugs you certainly are right not to enable their disease and their poor life choices. Sin's power is to enslave us towards ungodly things and I have seen first hand, with respect to drugs and alcohol, things I believed people would never do. It is the ruin of sin on steroids, that will continue to corrupt the beautiful mind, heart and soul that God initially created. The devil comes to steal and destroy but remember Christ has overcome all enemies and frustrated the will of the evil one and so you too, through faith in Christ, shall be able to overcome all evil adversity launched against you.John 10:10“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.Isaiah 54:17No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn.This is the heritage of the servants of the LORD, And their righteousness is from Me,”Says the LORD.Again sister rely on the Lord for every decision, protecting your family as a mother, and being faithful and true to look to Him and His Word in following the right path for you and your children. There is still hope God could turn it all around so I would encourage you to wait on the Lord.May God Bless you, Pat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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