LIFE PROBLEMS

[Guest gracyb]

Again today, I drove from work crying. I get so down. It seems as though my whole life is a failure. I'm 55, just a half year of college, worked at the same company for 29 years, divorced twelve years now...I'm a secretary who's been given more responsibility than I can bear. I never ever an able to handle all that's given to me. I report to one man who has me doing quite a difficult workload in addition to all secretarial duties....and I told that I have to do whatever anyone asks me to do. In other words, I've turned into the office admin. After all of the years in the company, I would have at least thought that I would have been given more respect than that. I make good money, but the pressure is not worth it. It seems that all of the ladies I knew when I first started have been given positions of honor.

When I'm not able to perform the work, I'm made to feel that I'm stupid. I don't know what to do. I can't make what I'm making anywhere else. I'm so exhausted when I come home that even my home has become a place a disorganized mess.

I feel that most all areas of my life I'm a failure. I think of the potter and the clay....and wonder if I'm a vessel for dishonor? I have a child-like excitment when I think something good might be happening in my life. Then....it falls apart. I've been disappointed so many times, I'm so afraid that I'll loose the trust that the Lord will turn things around to my good.

I'm so down. I hate my job. I need to realize who I actually work for.....but when things go this badly....I remember the potter and the clay...and wonder.

Anyone out there who can give a little help....it would be so appreciated.

This is my first attempt at a chat room. Just this last year, I realized that my friend at work was just my friend so she could get ahead with my boss. The few others around me who love me would be hurt by me hurting so I can't ask them how to cope....they actually have a harder time coping than I do.

I'm a Christian and love the Lord. Days/weeks like these are getting to me. Any suggestions?

[Guest Thomas I believe]

Gracy, Welcome to Worthy boards and although i may not have a specific answer to your problems, there is One who does. I can honestly tell you that here you won't feel like you do at work. There is a nurturing caring Love here and that is the love of the Lord. Hang in there keep coming here and trust in the Lord and although you may not see it yet , things will get better. We are all here to help each other and love each other and grow together in Christ Jesus. I think you will be pleasantly surprised and I am glad your here. May God bless you abundantly and again welcome...

[IslandRose]

I haven't been in the work force for years, but when I was, I had a job description that laid out exactly what my duties were, what I was responsible to do. My first job was to concentrate on those duties and then to be willing to help out in other areas IF I was able. Do you have any kind of a job description or would your boss be willing to sit down with you and write up a such a document so that you could prioritize your efforts? None of us can do it all, but there are some things that must be done in every work situation. If you could find out the priorities of your job and do them well, that might give you more of a sense of satisfaction in your work.

I realize that you have been there a long time, but it sounds like your job has lost it's focus and your boss has taken you for granted. A fresh start is needed.

Also, try to spend time in the Word and Rest in the Lord. He can give you refreshment in times of trouble.

IR

[O'Dannyboy]

Hello Gracyb and salutations. Welcome to Worthy boards.

I beg your forgiveness. Please indulge me to show you what I see.

Again today, I drove from work crying. I get so down. It seems as though my whole life is a failure. I'm 55, just a half year of college, worked at the same company for 29 years, divorced twelve years now...I'm a secretary who's been given more responsibility than I can bear. I never ever an able to handle all that's given to me. I report to one man who has me doing quite a difficult workload in addition to all secretarial duties....and I told that I have to do whatever anyone asks me to do. In other words, I've turned into the office admin. After all of the years in the company, I would have at least thought that I would have been given more respect than that. I make good money, but the pressure is not worth it. It seems that all of the ladies I knew when I first started have been given positions of honor.

When I'm not able to perform the work, I'm made to feel that I'm stupid. I don't know what to do. I can't make what I'm making anywhere else. I'm so exhausted when I come home that even my home has become a place a disorganized mess.

I feel that most all areas of my life I'm a failure. I think of the potter and the clay....and wonder if I'm a vessel for dishonor? I have a child-like excitment when I think something good might be happening in my life. Then....it falls apart. I've been disappointed so many times, I'm so afraid that I'll loose the trust that the Lord will turn things around to my good.

I'm so down. I hate my job. I need to realize who I actually work for.....but when things go this badly....I remember the potter and the clay...and wonder.

Anyone out there who can give a little help....it would be so appreciated.

This is my first attempt at a chat room. Just this last year, I realized that my friend at work was just my friend so she could get ahead with my boss. The few others around me who love me would be hurt by me hurting so I can't ask them how to cope....they actually have a harder time coping than I do.

I'm a Christian and love the Lord. Days/weeks like these are getting to me. Any suggestions?

Luke 22:27

[Leonard]

Gracie: The Scriptures also tell us EXACTLY how to be a vessel of honor, I Tim. 2:21-26.

The Lord bless you.

[Guest Bintheredonethat]

i too have had many tears shed on things in my life but through all i have grown closer to god in these times because i am weak he is strong. also remember he will never give us more then we can handle. some times i just sit down with a piece of paper and let my emotions out by writing.

[Kabowd]

How are you being spiritually fed? It sounds like you're totally depleted. If you aren't seeking God to fill you up, and getting into the Bible to "feed" yourself..then all you're doing is constantly emptying yourself out to other ppl and you'll starve. If you aren't in a good church or don't have close godly friends (or even if you have both) I'd suggest spending some good quality time with God and letting Him just love on you and fill you up. You need it, we all do.

Read Zephaniah 3:14-17 by the way.

[Guest gracyb]

Again today, I drove from work crying.  I get so down.  It seems as though my whole life is a failure.  I'm 55, just a half year of college, worked at the same company for 29 years, divorced twelve years now...I'm a secretary who's been given more responsibility than I can bear.  I never ever an able to handle all that's given to me.  I report to one man who has me doing quite a difficult workload in addition to all secretarial duties....and I told that I have to do whatever anyone asks me to do.  In other words, I've turned into the office admin.  After all of the years in the company, I would have at least thought that I would have been given more respect than that.  I make good money, but the pressure is not worth it.  It seems that all of the ladies I knew when I first started have been given positions of honor.

When I'm not able to perform the work, I'm made to feel that I'm stupid.  I don't know what to do.  I can't make what I'm making anywhere else.  I'm so exhausted when I come home that even my home has become a place a disorganized mess.

I feel that most all areas of my life I'm a failure.  I think of the potter and the clay....and wonder if I'm a vessel for dishonor?  I have a child-like excitment when I think something good might be happening in my life.  Then....it falls apart.  I've been disappointed so many times, I'm so afraid that I'll loose the trust that the Lord will turn things around to my good.

I'm so down.  I hate my job.  I need to realize who I actually work for.....but when things go this badly....I remember the potter and the clay...and wonder.

Anyone out there who can give a little help....it would be so appreciated.

This is my first attempt at a chat room.  Just this last year, I realized that my friend at work was just my friend so she could get ahead with my boss.  The few others around me who love me would be hurt by me hurting so I can't ask them how to cope....they actually have a harder time coping than I do.

I'm a Christian and love the Lord.  Days/weeks like these are getting to me.  Any suggestions?

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[Guest gracyb]

Gracie:  The Scriptures also tell us EXACTLY how to be a vessel of honor, I Tim. 2:21-26.

The Lord bless you.

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Thank you for your words. It just seems that....when I think of the potter and the clay....I think that maybe I was created as a vessel for dishonor. Especially when everything around me go so wrong.

Even attempting this chat room.....I tried to send an email to everyone as a group, but I don't see it so I must not have sent it correctly.

I appreciate everyones words so much....they've meant so much.

Gracyb

[Guest gracyb]

Gracy, Welcome to Worthy boards and although i may not have a  specific answer  to your problems, there is One who does. I can honestly tell you that here you won't feel like  you do at work. There is a nurturing caring Love here and that is the love of the Lord. Hang in there keep coming here and trust in the Lord and although you may not see it yet , things will get better. We are all here to help each other and love each other and grow together in Christ Jesus. I think you will be pleasantly surprised  and I am glad your here. May God bless you abundantly and again welcome... 

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