Christian Marriage

[IreneMcg]

Christian marriage is a three way relationship.

Husband , Wife and God.

QUOTE

Genesis 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Matthew 19:5

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Men and women who marry in Christ share a mutual trust.

They can be sure of their relationship because

it rests on God's covenantal faithfulness.

They also know that through His Word of marriage,

God brought them together and keeps them together.

James H. Olthuis

Choosing to love means:

# I choose to Love my husband/wife

# I choose to be patient with my mate

# I choose to be kind to my mate

# I choose to please my mate

# I choose to forgive my mate

# I choose to honor my mate

# I choose to trust my mate

# I choose to be understanding to my mate

# I choose to grow with my mate

# I choose to encourage my mate

# I choose to help my mate

# I choose to be truthful to my mate

# I choose to be faithful to my mate

# I choose to be unselfish with my mate

# I choose to be hopeful with my mate

# I choose to speak in love to my mate

# I choose to be my spouse's mate the rest of my life!

Even a Christian marriage needs to be worked at, I know that, we have had our stormy times , but we are now twenty-four years down the line. Gulp, I've got a Silver wedding ahead. Help, it makes me feel old.

Should a wife submit to her husband if he is going against Scripture. I do'nt think so.

Husbands love your wives- love, cherish, respect

Wives submit to your husbands- the husband is the head of the household in the Lord.

We are to love and respect one another.

That is my worth on this.

have been married for twenty four years now, and yes even Christian marriages have their bad patches,I am no expert, we have had our problems over the years but we still love each other and still love God, and you know sometimes God uses the trials and tribulations we face through life to bring us closer together.

Marriage is the union of two lives, possibly from very seperate backgrounds

Gen 2:18 And Jehovah God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.

Marriage is desired by God, although it is not for everybody.

The weddiing day is a day of love's consumation..

Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

I always find that powerful- to become as one flesh, by cleaving together. Two totally different people have become as one through the bond of marriage. Personalities may clash, there may be a lot of independant thinking, so how do we overcome those things?

As Christians we have the Holy Spirt indwelling us, so we have a bond assuming we are not unequally yoked that surpasses the bonds of human flesh. If we focus first on

the Lord and pray together and are ready to share things with each other and take heed to observe what the Lord would have us do, the relationship can only become stronger.

Eph 5:22 Wives, be in subjection unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, and Christ also is the head of the church, being himself the saviour of the body.

Eph 5:24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their husbands in everything.

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it;

Eph 5:26 that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word,

Stephen Olford stated the ideal marriage is desired by God, determined by God and defended by God.

Mat 19:4 And he answered and said, Have ye not read, that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female,

Mat 19:5 and said, For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh?

Mat 19:6 So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

A strong marriage is built on love, mutual trust and respect.

I am not suggesting that couples should stay together when differences are irreconcilable . I am just giving heed to what the Bible says our marriages should be.

My husband and I have not had it all plain sailing, but you not what problems have occured when one or both of us have taken our eyes off the Lord.

Firstly and foremost anyone contemplating marriage should marry a fellow Christian. They should not be unequally yoked. Now I know there are some of you who have become Christians after marriage but that is an entirely different situation.

2Co 6:14 Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers: for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? or what communion hath light with darkness?

Basically that is advice for anyone currently contemplating marriage and or even courtship.

[SDAinFLA]

This information was very good. I just recently got married. (January 16 2005!)

I'm only 27 and am still wet behind the ears! My wife and I always try to have family worship in the morning and we always try to pray together at night before we go to bed. We try to make Jesus the center of our relationship.

Being equally yoked is very important! Keep us in your prayers...and if the Lord doesn't come soon, we hope to have as many years in marriage as yourself!

[Arthur Durnan]

Christian marriage involves one man, one woman for a lifetime....& the Lord Jesus Christ as Head over all. The ONLY sexual relationship ever sanctioned by the Lord was male-female sexual relations within the bonds of holy matrimony.

http://arthurdurnan.freeyellow.com

[Kabowd]

Should a wife submit to her husband if he is going against Scripture. I do'nt think so.

Just wanted to share this...

"Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives." ~ 1 Peter 3:1-2

[papasangel]

Tess we are still commanded to submit to our husbands UNLESS he is going against Scripture (ie blatently forcing us to do what he KNOWs we cannot do according to the Bible) A Godley woman is to show obedience, according to the scriptures and her actions speak loudly than words. By her action the husband may one day come to Christ and repent. We are not to use this scripture to disobey an request because we don't want to.

[Kabowd]

There is a difference between a husband who isn't obeying Scripture, and a husband forcing his wife to go against Scripture. I agree that we obey to the point that we are asked to go directly against God....but that's not what she said.

She said we shouldn't obey a husband who is going against Scripture..I disagree. If he is lost or unbelieving, he is clearly going against Scripture, yet the verses I showed testify that a woman can lead an unbelieving husband to the Lord through her submission.