Guest jeremiek Posted November 3, 2005 Share Posted November 3, 2005 I just wanted to say that I was once addicted to porn and in the process lost my wife and with that any desire to live. She did'nt leave me because of the porn, but because of the bad decisions we were making. We started out in church, but after a few years we fell away and then started back into our old habits, hers was smoking pot and mine was porn. I was so involved keeping my sin hidden from her that I missed out from seeing what was really going on in both of our lives. SATAN was destroying us. If we let him distract us with our own sin then he can do and cause almost anything he wants to. Don't let you husband believe the LIES anymore. He needs to wake up and see the plan of SATAN. My prayers will be with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christ's Free Servant Posted November 4, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 197 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 2,461 Content Per Day: 0.35 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/18/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/31/1949 Share Posted November 4, 2005 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?(I Co 7:10-16 NIV) I believe this is saying that we should not divorce someone just because he/she is not a believer or is not behaving like a believer, because we never know but that the person might be won to Christ. We must pray for this person and believe that God can change his/her heart. Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InternalFlame Posted November 4, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 77 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 422 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 5 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/30/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/24/1985 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I do have some understanding about how you feel, because my last boyfriend admitted to me he had a problem with porn. The question is, does your husband actually veiw it as a problem to be overcome? Or does he do it because he feels he deserves it? Maybe the stress of having a small child drove him to it.There are MANY reasons that a guy can get hooked into porn. I would suggest you talk to your husband about it in a frank but gentle manner and try to get down to the root cause of him looking stuff up. Once you figure that out you can perhaps help him to overcome it. Whatever you do, don't push him too hard about it, be supportive of him. You may feel like he is looking up stuff because you are not attractive enough or something like that. This is very rarely true. The problem is not with you, but with him. This is a problem both you and your husband can defeat together. Most importantly, pray with him and for him. I agree about "Every Man's Battle" this book helped a lot when I was trying to understand my ex's problem. Good luck, and God bless. I will be praying for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest murrayskeeter Posted May 21, 2010 Share Posted May 21, 2010 (edited) You shouldn't dive into divorce right away. I agree that counseling may be the answer to this one. If you don't have the budget now, then you can resort to free counseling. One of the best places to find free marriage counseling is through your local community help center. Edited May 21, 2010 by murrayskeeter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheya joie Posted May 21, 2010 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 2,054 Content Per Day: 0.29 Reputation: 351 Days Won: 2 Joined: 03/15/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted May 21, 2010 Wow, thread resurrection (from 2005)! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MorningGlory Posted May 21, 2010 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1,022 Topics Per Day: 0.16 Content Count: 39,193 Content Per Day: 6.10 Reputation: 9,977 Days Won: 78 Joined: 10/01/2006 Status: Offline Share Posted May 21, 2010 Wow, thread resurrection (from 2005)! That's what I was thinking! After all this time I'm sure they've probably either divorced or solved their problem. The OP hasn't logged on in over five years! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enoob57 Posted May 21, 2010 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 35 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 41,309 Content Per Day: 7.99 Reputation: 21,513 Days Won: 76 Joined: 03/13/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/27/1957 Share Posted May 21, 2010 Wow, thread resurrection (from 2005)! That's what I was thinking! After all this time I'm sure they've probably either divorced or solved their problem. The OP hasn't logged on in over five years! Don't ya'll believe in miracles Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anitarose Posted May 21, 2010 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 65 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,066 Content Per Day: 0.16 Reputation: 26 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/15/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/02/1961 Share Posted May 21, 2010 There is no valid reason for divorce. The Bible doesn't give one either. Now, with that being said I'd suggest that you pray for the blessings that God has in His hands for you right now. Ronnie, There ARE valid reasons for divorce. It's called fornication, and in a sense, that's what the OP's husband is doing. She has a Biblical right to a divorce if she wants it. However, that being said, the power of God is the only thing that can redeem him, and I've seen men delivered from porn several times. I know quite a few. OP (original poster), if you want to save your marriage---PRAY. Let God tell you what to do, don't listen to man; they will lead you down a garden path that is so wrong. PRAY for your husband, that the power of God comes on him. a. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MorningGlory Posted May 21, 2010 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1,022 Topics Per Day: 0.16 Content Count: 39,193 Content Per Day: 6.10 Reputation: 9,977 Days Won: 78 Joined: 10/01/2006 Status: Offline Share Posted May 21, 2010 Wow, thread resurrection (from 2005)! That's what I was thinking! After all this time I'm sure they've probably either divorced or solved their problem. The OP hasn't logged on in over five years! Don't ya'll believe in miracles Yes, I believe in them (can't speak for anyone else). I just figure, if they haven't posted here in five years, they probably aren't coming back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest man Posted May 21, 2010 Share Posted May 21, 2010 Let God tell you what to do, don't listen to man; Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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