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[IslandRose]

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Now I promise you that God hears your heart cry. he's got the perfect woman planned out for you. You have to align yourself up with His Will for your life first. Then when that woman comes? WHEEEW! BOY! I'm getting ready to shout! Pretty and Loving like the Bride of Christ. Shoot the Bride of Christ doesn't know how Lovely she is?   The Lord has a life planned for you friend. Let Him tell you about it. get real close to jesus so as he can whisper right in your ear. ......

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I have to tell you that Dr. Luke has hit the nail right on the head.

I have 3 children. My elder daughter is married. I have a son, 21 and another daughter, 19. My son , like you , was talking to his Brother-in-Law about the fact that he doesn't have a girlfriend. Never has had. He's a bright, good looking, funny guy. But somehow, he's just never clicked with any girl, even at the Christian college he is going to. My son-in-law told him this. Your problem is, your focusing on the wrong thing.

Dear blank_search, go back and read your post again. Highlight the word "I". You are so focused on yourself and what you want and what you perceive you need.

You've come to a Christian board, so I am going to assume you know the Lord. If not, that is your VERY FIRST NEED. Please let us know that and we can help you there.

As a Christian, what our focus needs to be is becoming the man or woman God wants us to be. You are 20 and in college and you have no major. You need to pray for the Lord to help you find His will for your future. You need some goals in your life to work towards. Perhaps Social work of some kind since you say you take time to listen to the homeless.

Think about why you want a girlfriend. Sounds to me like once again it's all about you. Let God prepare you for the one true love of your life, instead of looking for a girlfriend, you should be surrounding your self with friends, true friends who will pray with you, help you see blind spots in your life, help you become a man of God.

Your focus is on wanting someone to fulfill your needs. When you are ready to be a good boyfriend/husband/ lover, you will be wanting to fulfill the needs of the one you love.

I pray that you will find God's will in your life. That you may have peace and joy. And that when the Lord brings that one special person into your life, that you will love and cherish her for a lifetime.

IR

[Fiosh]

Hi Search,

I have a son (20 yrs old) who is into Micro-sprint racing. Can you use that as an opportunity to meet people. My guys also hunt and we all target shoot (I don't like to kill things)

The others gave you good advice---try to focus outward. When you are around people try to actively see Jesus in them and try to find ways to "serve". You sound like you have a Jesus-like heart; you take time to listen to the homeless. God has given you a great gift in that; you just haven't recognized it yet.

I would guess that you have the spiritual gift of empathy. Use that gift to serve and God will bless your efforts. I guarantee that. It does sometimes feel that we as Christians are called to give, give, give. But remind yourself of what Jesus gave for you and it makes it easier.

You mentioned a few close friends. That in itself is a great blessing. Close friends are hard to find and even harder to keep. Thank God for them every day.

PLEASE don't give up on God. He will never give up on you.

My favorite parable is the Prodigal Son. Did you ever realize that it is the only time in Scripture that a figure representing God "runs". (Luke 15: 11 )

The Father RUNS to meet his son. I love that imagery. He is always there, watching and waiting for us to trust Him and turn to Him.

Praise Him for who He is; thank Him for the many blessings you have (the opportunity to go to school, close friends, food, shelter, family, this site); ask Him to forgive your sins and your doubts, ask Him how YOU can serve HIM, then pour out your heart to Him. Pray all this in Jesus name. You will be heard. He will never leave you nor forsake you.

In His Love,

Your sister in Christ Jesus--Fiosh