Annette Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.38 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 16 hours ago, 4LdKHVCzRDj2 said: Receiving me with sincerity seems to be good enough. By sincerity I mean that if you cannot receive me, do not lie or invent excuses; it is heart breaking when I discover people lied just to avoid me. Another thing I appreciate is to respect and value my decisions, like: When you offer me something and I say: "I do not want it, thanks!" or "I do not like it, thanks!" and people insist and say: "It is obviously you want it... Don't be shy and take it." or "Are you sure you do not want it? (more than 2 times)". Then I would feel welcome whenever I was in your house. God bless you! Hi 4L, Thanks for taking the time to share. It is something we all have to work on, and that being what we say and how we feel is one and the same. My husband was just saying something along those lines the other day, about how he can take just about anything a person has to say, provided they are willing to say it to him, and not talk about it afterward or behind his back. I hadn't given thought to how a person feels when I ask a question a couple times just to make sure that they are alright. I am probably guilty of that myself. I find myself asking people a couple times trying to make sure that they are all okay. Hope you have a great day. Blessings 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.38 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 15 hours ago, warrior12 said: just do not ignore my presence there and keep running off and back . It is better to say come back later or i am in the middle of something right now. I dislike when you go to meet someone and they one the phone half the time and although they may entertain you with their condiments ect, if the focus is not on our meeting, then i loose interest. Show the person that you are paying attention to their person and you appreciate their presence. Hi Warrior12, Thanks for taking the time to share. What you have said is so true. I think we can tend to get so busy in our lives that we find it hard to stop and give one another time. Even if we do not have a lot of time to spare, I think we can make an effort to give people our attention when we are with them. Having said this, the cell phone, though a great way to connect with people, has been something I have battled with, seeing people preferring to communicate with people that way, rather than taking the time out for the people that are right there with them. Blessings Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.38 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 14 hours ago, Yowm said: When pe0ple are just relaxed and are not putting on airs...they can put on some coffee if they want, it's neither here nor there. Hi Yowm, Have you ever watched a television show called Keeping Up Appearances? What you said reminded me of Mrs. Bucket in the show. So often we are so focused on how we will come across to others that we forget to just be ourselves. A couple months back, while over visiting at a friends house, she told a story of a family who had guests coming, and did not have time to clean up. So, they hid a lot of the mess in the bath tub and closed it up. I remember wondering what the people would say if someone had looked in the bath and seen what was there, that was being hid away Hope you have a great week. Blessings Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.38 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 14 hours ago, TheAimes said: I'm an odd duck - I rarely actually feel comfortable at other peoples homes (introverted extrovert here lol). But when I venture out to someone's home I would feel most comfortable if they don't make a fuss. Let's just sit around and talk, offer me some water if you want, go on with your normal activities. Now when people come to my home, I usually put on coffee or offer them a soft drink (I keep a few around for guests). Try my best to focus on them and just make them comfortable. I don't mind having people over in my home ever, I actually enjoy it. If we're watching a movie or TV, I'll offer them popcorn and a blanket, tell them to kick off their shoes and be at home. Hi Amy, Thanks so much for sharing It was interesting to see how you feel when you go somewhere in contrast to how you feel when you are having people over at your place. I think it is something to think about, when trying to make someone feel welcome, that we make them feel comfortable being around, without feeling that too much attention is being put on them. I forgot about popcorn... that is a big hit in our family Hope you have a good week. Blessings 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.38 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 13 hours ago, enoob57 said: I have found that love ... genuine love makes paths to comfortability. In very little time people warm to me cause I love people and they sense it.... Hi Steven, Thank you so much for taking the time to share. I agree, how we respond to people is so important. And if they feel that you are happy to have them around and that you care about them, it does make a difference. Our actions often speak louder than our words. It reminded me of the saying, “Preach the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words.” Hope you have a great week. Blessings Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.38 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 7 hours ago, Gary Lee said: I cannot think of the last time my wife and I went to friends with just two couples. Used to get with several friends and play cards or dominoes, then came the new life situation games the ladies liked. Most times, when we visit or have friends to our house, barbecue is a given, there's several family's represented, and there's always somebody to talk to, and a lot of noise. And a flock of kids underfoot or being chased out of my shop. Whether one or many guests, food and drinks are available, with a pot of coffee. And plenty chip dip jalapeno stuffed pepper poppers, home made pico.. Something. Sitting out doors at picnic table or porch creates a relaxed atmosphere. Usually the ladies get together at the dining table and talk babies,kids, grand kids or where to find more unneeded stuff at a bargain. Us guys hang out side, usually in the shop, discussing tools, tractors, then our jobs/businesses. Always informal. It took us a while to finally build our house, the kids already left. We feel the Lord blessed us mightily, with a neat home, and we enjoy having guests. We try to be hospitable. I think were too lay back to create any awkward moments. Our kids decide to have birthday parties for their children at our house often, inviting all their friends, and I find strange little babies taking a nap in my bed. The kids room hundred toys are usually spread around the house, and sometimes on top. I wouldn't want it any different. I think being enthusiastic at someones coming to our house sets the mood. And letting them know how they blessed us to come. Thanks so much for taking the time to share Gary Lee, I loved reading that your kids would come over and have birthday parties at your house. I love it when a house is more than just a house, but a home! A place where people feel welcome and want to keep coming back to. In your case, not only your children can come back to, but your grandchildren too! I think it was also an encouragement to read what you wrote about us being blessed by having visitors come and spend time with us. Hope that you have a great week, Blessings Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enoob57 Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 35 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 41,248 Content Per Day: 7.98 Reputation: 21,496 Days Won: 76 Joined: 03/13/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/27/1957 Share Posted October 18, 2017 20 minutes ago, Annette said: Hi Steven, Thank you so much for taking the time to share. I agree, how we respond to people is so important. And if they feel that you are happy to have them around and that you care about them, it does make a difference. Our actions often speak louder than our words. It reminded me of the saying, “Preach the Gospel at all times. When necessary, use words.” Hope you have a great week. Blessings I sure admire your work here ... I think it the same draw as God's Word has on humanity >that will invest themselves into it's content<! Real Love 'IS' ATTRACTIVE To the born again we have The Spirit in these matters and when we are not receiving such from those around us we still have the resource to expel the resource from within... True freedom is to not be controlled by those around us but to be controlled from within. Love ya sis, focus and nearness my hope for the busy mother! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warrior12 Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 54 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,435 Content Per Day: 0.88 Reputation: 1,525 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/05/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted October 18, 2017 9 hours ago, Gary Lee said: And letting them know how they blessed us to come. Loved you reply Gary. Reminds me vividly of my younger days. Imagine my father had eight siblings and the cousins enormous amt. In those days, the pack was usually big, not the two like today. But very nice description. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.38 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 4 hours ago, Neighbor said: Well first there is the Infinity Zero Gravity Inversion Massage Chair.... It pretty much says WELCOME if you dare go for it. Once one does, all others visiting seem to follow in turn filling in waiting time with stories of life, busy schedules, and of aches that they hope the chair will relieve. Repeat guests just kick off their shoes, plunk on down, hit the massage program they want, and then grunt a lot as the chair does it's thing knocking the aches out and relaxing the body. After that they don't care whose house they are visiting, they're fine, and just want to try another massage program on the selector. Though my house used to be headquarters for family get togethers, having been a widower for six years I had encouraged it to change to the next generation's homes, so that they can build their own sense of tradition for get togethers. When family plus a couple of their friends do gather here,the place can allow for assembly of about 24 to 30 of us for dinner and spread out afterward at this old now oversize home; or even better now the family have come to enjoy going to a great local buffet at the beachfront restaurant and just feasting there, so no one has to clean up afterward! We eat, talk, run through the never ending buffet, walk the beach hang out on the pier walk and chat at the large table we take for 20 to 24 of us. Truth is I miss the old gatherings, but also appreciate the need for the process of it having moved on. Plus, that I am now the old geezer of the family, honored and good for saying grace at the tables of the next generation's food feasts. If life here continues for me I suppose next step is that I become the one that needs assistance getting to the food table at gatherings- ha! Hope not, but hey life its what it is eh? Sometimes I think, well is it time for the assisted living facility package, those live here till you rot, but happily, facilities and be offered rice pudding or red Jello for dessert each day. Then I rethink, ah nope, God has blessed greatly to date, so no. If fact let's go find a summer place where it is cool, a retreat, and we will travel some and become "the visitors", might even just become one of those short notice drop ins. Got lunch or is it late enough go go do early bird dinner somewhere before it gets too dark to drive? Ha life it is grand - when it isn't hurting too much. Even then, well it is wondrous what God has provided each day sufficient for my further sanctification and always just right, whether I see it at the time or not, just right, like that last shrimp taken from the buffet table feast on Thanks Giving day. Hi Neighbor, I could relate to the chair being a focal point for people coming to the house... And knowing that there is more than one option to try out as you sit in and relax. It is amazing how a family grows over the years. It is great that you are able to all still get together and spend that time together, be it at home, or somewhere that you can go and relax without any clean up after. Time goes by, and there may indeed come a day when having Jell-o is a treat A reminder to enjoy each day that we have on the journey till we reach that day. Blessings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Posted October 18, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.38 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 18, 2017 1 hour ago, enoob57 said: I sure admire your work here ... I think it the same draw as God's Word has on humanity >that will invest themselves into it's content<! Real Love 'IS' ATTRACTIVE To the born again we have The Spirit in these matters and when we are not receiving such from those around us we still have the resource to expel the resource from within... True freedom is to not be controlled by those around us but to be controlled from within. Love ya sis, focus and nearness my hope for the busy mother! Thank you, Steven. I agree with what you say, that we do not always get the encouragement from those around, and it is great that we do have one that we can draw that strength from. You have been a real encouragement to me too. It has been great to connect with some of our eternal family here on earth. Much love and appreciation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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