lora Posted January 11, 2018 Group: Newbie Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/11/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted January 11, 2018 I was raising my nephew while his mother was on drugs and in and out of jail. He was with me for almost 7 years. Last year he moved out. 2 weeks later his cousin ( my niece to another sister) confessed that he had raped her when he was living with me she was 14 he was 16.. he has been arrested and there will be a trial I know she is telling the truth.. but I love him and want to forgive him but he is not remorseful and denies the rape happened. it has torn the family apart.. Should I forgive him if he doesnt admit the crime? If I do forgive him.. what if it happens again and what about how my niece will feel.. please I need guidance.. 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aimes Posted January 11, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 26 Topic Count: 35 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 6,734 Content Per Day: 2.77 Reputation: 8,345 Days Won: 21 Joined: 08/29/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted January 11, 2018 13 hours ago, lora said: I was raising my nephew while his mother was on drugs and in and out of jail. He was with me for almost 7 years. Last year he moved out. 2 weeks later his cousin ( my niece to another sister) confessed that he had raped her when he was living with me she was 14 he was 16.. he has been arrested and there will be a trial I know she is telling the truth.. but I love him and want to forgive him but he is not remorseful and denies the rape happened. it has torn the family apart.. Should I forgive him if he doesnt admit the crime? If I do forgive him.. what if it happens again and what about how my niece will feel.. please I need guidance.. As believers, we have no choice but to forgive. That doesn't mean we forget or fail to see that the action was wrong. Scripture is clear though that we must forgive others as we have been forgiven by Him. Sometimes that is a process. I will be praying for you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johny Posted January 11, 2018 Group: Removed from Forums for Breaking Terms of Service Followers: 1 Topic Count: 5 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 33 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 5 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/10/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted January 11, 2018 I think if you truly forgive, you are setting yourself free more than them 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estrella Posted January 11, 2018 Group: Senior Member Followers: 25 Topic Count: 33 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 813 Content Per Day: 0.24 Reputation: 1,002 Days Won: 1 Joined: 03/11/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted January 11, 2018 21 hours ago, lora said: I was raising my nephew while his mother was on drugs and in and out of jail. He was with me for almost 7 years. Last year he moved out. 2 weeks later his cousin ( my niece to another sister) confessed that he had raped her when he was living with me she was 14 he was 16.. he has been arrested and there will be a trial I know she is telling the truth.. but I love him and want to forgive him but he is not remorseful and denies the rape happened. it has torn the family apart.. Should I forgive him if he doesnt admit the crime? If I do forgive him.. what if it happens again and what about how my niece will feel.. please I need guidance.. Forgiving him doesn't mean, he escapes from the consequences of what he has done or he would not face justice if he had committed the crime. Rape is a serious matter and both were minors at the time it happened (below 18 is considered minor where i live). So let the trial or etc proceed. Forgiveness isn't easy. It will take time n at time to forgive doesn't really mean to forget, especially in this case. Yet we were told to forgive and thats what we ought to do. Obviously, your niece would need ample of support during this time. Talking or thinking about forgiving him, for the time being is kinda....you know .... This can be a very confusing moment for both of you or the family, especially her. So i suggest take one step at a time. Hopefully he will somehow come to his senses and seeks for forgiveness. Then you'll know what to do and let time heal. Meanwhile, pray for the change of hearts. i m praying for you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted January 11, 2018 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,991 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,689 Content Per Day: 11.80 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted January 11, 2018 21 hours ago, lora said: I was raising my nephew while his mother was on drugs and in and out of jail. He was with me for almost 7 years. Last year he moved out. 2 weeks later his cousin ( my niece to another sister) confessed that he had raped her when he was living with me she was 14 he was 16.. he has been arrested and there will be a trial I know she is telling the truth.. but I love him and want to forgive him but he is not remorseful and denies the rape happened. it has torn the family apart.. Should I forgive him if he doesnt admit the crime? If I do forgive him.. what if it happens again and what about how my niece will feel.. please I need guidance.. The man has serious problems which should be addressed by a professional. God asks us to forgive. It is healthy for ourselves to forgive so we do not carry around anger and bitterness. You need to pray for your nephew that his heart will be opened to Jesus Christ and he will ask Jesus Christ into his life to be his Lord and Savior. You have a choice after you have forgiven him to continue to have a relationship with him or not.Ask God for guidance and direction. You might want to be on the cautious side if you choose to continue to have a relationship with this man. God knows if your nephew is guilty and he will have to answer to God for what he has done. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wayne222 Posted January 13, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 32 Topic Count: 476 Topics Per Day: 0.17 Content Count: 6,559 Content Per Day: 2.28 Reputation: 7,638 Days Won: 9 Joined: 06/12/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted January 13, 2018 This world has gone crazy. It's porn that men and women are watching. Its leading them to terrible things. Pray for the holy spirit to lead you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BK1110 Posted January 13, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 22 Topic Count: 87 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 6,874 Content Per Day: 2.42 Reputation: 9,614 Days Won: 4 Joined: 07/18/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/10/1986 Share Posted January 13, 2018 Forgiveness does not mean forgetting. It also doesn't mean that you can't be there for the niece and want to prioritize helping her. Forgiveness is just as much for our sakes as it is for those we forgive. Without forgiveness, bitterness and resentment sink into our bones like a poison. I'd advise you look up Voddie Baucham's teachings on forgiveness on Youtube. Very powerful. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Igor Evgen Posted January 13, 2018 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 168 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 182 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/15/2017 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/18/1951 Share Posted January 13, 2018 (edited) Shalom Iora, I is written, Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him. (Luke 17:3-4) Even so, don't forgive blindly & spinelessly. Rather pray, for Lord's Rod of Correction, for the sinner to repent & ask a forgiveness, first of GOD, second of those he offended. Then you can surely forgive & forget. May GOD bless you. Igor Edited January 13, 2018 by Igor Evgen Scripture 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ytLiJC Posted January 14, 2018 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 3 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 357 Content Per Day: 0.15 Reputation: 65 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/21/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted January 14, 2018 (edited) On 1/11/2018 at 4:02 AM, lora said: I was raising my nephew while his mother was on drugs and in and out of jail. He was with me for almost 7 years. Last year he moved out. 2 weeks later his cousin ( my niece to another sister) confessed that he had raped her when he was living with me she was 14 he was 16.. he has been arrested and there will be a trial I know she is telling the truth.. but I love him and want to forgive him but he is not remorseful and denies the rape happened. it has torn the family apart.. Should I forgive him if he doesnt admit the crime? If I do forgive him.. what if it happens again and what about how my niece will feel.. please I need guidance.. unfortunately we live in a world where sex has been demonized, sex drive — overamplified toward sexual immorality, conscience and consciousness — corrupted, and spiritual lawlessness has worked even in the holy place, which brought all that mess, including pandemics of mental deviations and disorders - i am not surprised that even children raped children (especially when a six-year-old boy was wanting me to show my p---s to him (and who knows what else he could do and want me to do) when i was witnessing to the word of God once in the park - the same spirit of homosexuality worked also in him - he spoke and acted like a coquette) hardly the true God has made them be born with such consciousness - rather the problem is spiritual and it's not their fault they had to live in a world in which not a few people commit spiritual lawlessness and thus bring stumbling blocks, temptations, seductions, delusions, defilements and corruptions for humankind; on the other hand, a person is guilty if they cause evil to their neighbor and see that other person is hurt because of their actions, but nevertheless don't stop doing it if they are not victims, they may be perpetrators, but we the religious worshipers/spiritual servants are the ones who should forgive and sanctify them, because whether they are victims or perpetrators, they are all victims of one satanic system of spiritual lawlessness, for none of them ultimately had the chance to avoid being born in this world under the conditions of sin and death - and i can say, albeit with a risk of self-condemnation, the spiritual servants/religious worshipers are the ones who have had to sanctify the creature and creation of God while He has (since the seventh day) been in a state of incomplete wakefulness for many humans/souls to be able to take full care of all - they are the ones who have had to do what He has not been able to do and they have had to do Blessings Edited January 14, 2018 by ytLiJC Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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