tigger398 Posted May 13, 2018 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 562 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 2,074 Content Per Day: 0.31 Reputation: 648 Days Won: 2 Joined: 11/01/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 05/31/1966 Share Posted May 13, 2018 (edited) I know it's mothers day and your supposed to miss your mom after they pass. I don't, she was a drunk. Most of my life spent with her was a drunk. Is it wrong to feel this way. I do forgive and I try to forget my past. Edited May 13, 2018 by tigger398 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
warrior12 Posted May 13, 2018 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 54 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,428 Content Per Day: 0.88 Reputation: 1,516 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/05/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted May 13, 2018 Boy, that's tough. As the saying goes, we are not all cut from cookie cutters, so everyone has their own experience in life that is theirs. How can one tell you how to feel. You forgive and that's the most important thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deborah_ Posted May 13, 2018 Group: Senior Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 790 Content Per Day: 0.25 Reputation: 878 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/07/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted May 13, 2018 How you feel is neither right nor wrong; it's just a reflection of the nature of the relationship you had with your mother. We're all different, and there's no rule that says you have to feel a certain amount of grief at certain times. I never missed my Dad (because he had severe mental health problems). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tigger398 Posted May 13, 2018 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 562 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 2,074 Content Per Day: 0.31 Reputation: 648 Days Won: 2 Joined: 11/01/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 05/31/1966 Author Share Posted May 13, 2018 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Butero said: She is still your Mother. Was she abusive to you? Did she feed and cloth you? Was she really all bad? Perhaps you have unresolved issues. You never had a alcoholic parent. Sometimes she cloth and fed me, but you do not want to get in car with a drunk driver either. Do you want to go to a restaurant and have a drunk serve you or make your food. There was no birthdays or holidays or graduation. Only a drunk on couch. Couldn't take her out on mothers day, to drunk. Edited May 13, 2018 by tigger398 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Widor1 Posted May 13, 2018 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 140 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 105 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/10/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/20/1987 Share Posted May 13, 2018 Praying ❤ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mike Mclees Posted May 13, 2018 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 158 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 1,915 Content Per Day: 0.80 Reputation: 910 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/15/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted May 13, 2018 I feel your pain. You are not alone. I pray the Lord will give you strength to find love and forgiveness that goes beyond our own ability. Remember Jesus loved the unlovable even as he suffered for us God be with you One day soon there will be no more pain no more sorrow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted May 14, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 953 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,579 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,055 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted May 14, 2018 4 hours ago, tigger398 said: I know it's mothers day and your supposed to miss your mom after they pass. I don't, she was a drunk. Most of my life spent with her was a drunk. Is it wrong to feel this way. I do forgive and I try to forget my past. It is okay to miss your mom before she passed. And it is okay to be hurt because she did harm to you personally while she lived. Her influence on your environment will also continue to hurt you for at least as long as you let that awful situation that existed be what guides your feelings in any of your relationships today. Better to try to rejoice. You have survived, and you know God today. You have opportunity to further learn in your own sanctification process if you can and if you will decide to actively forgive your mom, if you have not already done so, and then move on with a lighter load to carry and perhaps a happier countenance than might otherwise be carried about today. ------------------------ Today a waitress just automatically said to my wife "Happy Mother's Day". My wife lost the only child she ever carried. People can say some rather insensitive things,while meaning well enough. People can also be overly sensitive to what is said or done to them. -------------------------- At some point we each face our own folly, and our own need for the covering by the shed blood of Jesus. Personally I find that if Jesus has forgiven me personally my own sins against God the Father and all of the creation of Jesus, I should endeavor to imitate His grace to me and forgive all others, leaving all sin to the Holy Spirit to Jesus and to God the Father to tend to cover to forgive and or to hold account of in each soul. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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