creativemechanic Posted July 10, 2018 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 414 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 1,273 Content Per Day: 0.36 Reputation: 518 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/22/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted July 10, 2018 i heard this illustration at our schools graduation and found it intriguing. The speaker was advising the kids to continually progress and gave this supposedly true story to illustrate. A man's girlfriend started to attend university. so every evening he dutifully leave playing dominoes with his friends to take her to class and return. Eventually, she graduated but he didnt progress academically in any way . Eventually she started to gravitate away from him because he wasn't at her academic and conversation level anymore and went towards towards men who were. This led to some jealousy from him. Eventually they broke up. Two school of thought from the village where they lived. ??♀- She real cruel. Imagine she left him after he put her through school. ??♂-Its his fault that she left. While she was developing he kept at the stage of playing dominoes and didn't step up to her level Ive actually heard of this happening before too. where women leave their boy friends who theycwerecfine with after finishing a course of study saying they we're no longer compatible. I even heard a woman say she doesn't want a man woth a lower degree if she gets her Masters. while all the examples are femaleit's not meant to woman bash . it could be both make it female. My qns are-is such a break off justified and how abt if they were married Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jayne Posted July 11, 2018 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 107 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,820 Content Per Day: 1.30 Reputation: 4,806 Days Won: 2 Joined: 03/31/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted July 11, 2018 1 hour ago, Yowm said: How'd he 'put her through school when all he was doing was slappin down dem bones'? LOL That's exactly what I thought. If all he is doing is playing dominoes, he didn't do anything for her except act as a taxi driver. She put herself through school. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jayne Posted July 11, 2018 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 107 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,820 Content Per Day: 1.30 Reputation: 4,806 Days Won: 2 Joined: 03/31/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted July 11, 2018 Seriously though, people grow and change. And that sometimes does affect a relationship. There's nothing wrong with a person - I'm talking about marriage here - who wants to experience personal growth in terms of education, spiritual awakening, artistic endeavors, and more. As long as that person stays grounded in the marital relationship and keeps that front and center, things should be fine. It's when the "growing" spouse becomes self-absorbed that things can crumble. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willa Posted July 11, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 68 Topic Count: 186 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 14,242 Content Per Day: 3.33 Reputation: 16,657 Days Won: 30 Joined: 08/14/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted July 11, 2018 Sometimes it is the pride of life that causes a person to think they have surpassed their spouse. You can also call it the pride of education. Instead of understanding that they compliment each other they start thinking one is superior to the other. I had people stop speaking to me because they graduated from a private college and I from a state college. But I know many guys that had their wives put them through college and then dumped them as soon as they graduated. It had more to do with using people. It takes as much effort to make a marriage work as it does to graduate from college. Marriages take time, communication, appreciation, and they need to be cultivated. I have to admit that I went back to college after our kids were in grade school and it felt awfully good to communicate in multi syllable words. But I never felt that way toward my husband. He had excelled in math and I in languages. We complimented each other. We need to value and appreciate each others gifts. My dad had a masters degree and my mom a high school diploma. But their marriage was till death as was mine. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Willa Posted July 11, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 68 Topic Count: 186 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 14,242 Content Per Day: 3.33 Reputation: 16,657 Days Won: 30 Joined: 08/14/2012 Status: Offline Share Posted July 11, 2018 1 minute ago, Yowm said: A husband's one-syllable vocabulary to his wife..."yes dear". LOL I just wish our pre school sons had learned to say that instead of "no!" They were a hand full, but well worth the effort. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frienduff thaylorde Posted July 11, 2018 Group: Mars Hill Followers: 17 Topic Count: 18 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 13,256 Content Per Day: 5.33 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 62 Joined: 07/07/2017 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/25/1972 Share Posted July 11, 2018 19 minutes ago, Willa said: Sometimes it is the pride of life that causes a person to think they have surpassed their spouse. You can also call it the pride of education. Instead of understanding that they compliment each other they start thinking one is superior to the other. I had people stop speaking to me because they graduated from a private college and I from a state college. But I know many guys that had their wives put them through college and then dumped them as soon as they graduated. It had more to do with using people. It takes as much effort to make a marriage work as it does to graduate from college. Marriages take time, communication, appreciation, and they need to be cultivated. I have to admit that I went back to college after our kids were in grade school and it felt awfully good to communicate in multi syllable words. But I never felt that way toward my husband. He had excelled in math and I in languages. We complimented each other. We need to value and appreciate each others gifts. My dad had a masters degree and my mom a high school diploma. But their marriage was till death as was mine. PRAISE THE LORD WILLA . I AM HAPPY you all stayed married the whole time . You loved sister . Throw those hands up and praise the LORD . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted July 11, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 952 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,573 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,054 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted July 11, 2018 (edited) 11 hours ago, creativemechanic said: i heard this illustration at our schools graduation and found it intriguing. The speaker was advising the kids to continually progress and gave this supposedly true story to illustrate. A man's girlfriend started to attend university. so every evening he dutifully leave playing dominoes with his friends to take her to class and return. Eventually, she graduated but he didnt progress academically in any way . Eventually she started to gravitate away from him because he wasn't at her academic and conversation level anymore and went towards towards men who were. This led to some jealousy from him. Eventually they broke up. Two school of thought from the village where they lived. ??♀- She real cruel. Imagine she left him after he put her through school. ??♂-Its his fault that she left. While she was developing he kept at the stage of playing dominoes and didn't step up to her level Ive actually heard of this happening before too. where women leave their boy friends who theycwerecfine with after finishing a course of study saying they we're no longer compatible. I even heard a woman say she doesn't want a man woth a lower degree if she gets her Masters. while all the examples are femaleit's not meant to woman bash . it could be both make it female. My qns are-is such a break off justified and how abt if they were married This was part of a speakers presentation at a school graduation story? ??? What was the underlying message- The guy that brought you to the dance owns you? Duty does not make for ownership. If one chooses to dutifully do something, it should be in the name of Christ Jesus to bring glory to God, and that is its own reward. It does not carry with it the purchase price for another person's being. It is silly to think one owns another person for being kind to them, even if they are dating. Moving on is probably the safest thing for the partner being the target of such an attempt at dominating possession. Edited July 11, 2018 by Neighbor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Patriot21 Posted July 12, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 28 Topic Count: 338 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 15,710 Content Per Day: 2.46 Reputation: 8,526 Days Won: 39 Joined: 10/25/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/27/1985 Share Posted July 12, 2018 Well, theres some truth to be learned for this. For a couple to stay together they need to have something in common. For some people its education. My wife has a far higher level of education then i do, and continues to increase it. I on the other hand have no interest in further education. But, on the same note i have a solid idea of what shes talking about from self study. Couples do need to have common ground....and for some education is important, and is that common ground. In the above scenario its probably best for both parties that she left, a further relationship probably would have ended disastrously. Now they are both able to seek partners who share common goals. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Patriot21 Posted July 12, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 28 Topic Count: 338 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 15,710 Content Per Day: 2.46 Reputation: 8,526 Days Won: 39 Joined: 10/25/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/27/1985 Share Posted July 12, 2018 Well, theres some truth to be learned for this. For a couple to stay together they need to have something in common. For some people its education. My wife has a far higher level of education then i do, and continues to increase it. I on the other hand have no interest in further education. But, on the same note i have a solid idea of what shes talking about from self study. Couples do need to have common ground....and for some education is important, and is that common ground. In the above scenario its probably best for both parties that she left, a further relationship probably would have ended disastrously. Now they are both able to seek partners who share common goals Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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