$teven Posted September 4, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 12 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 22 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/28/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted September 4, 2019 44 minutes ago, ReneeIW said: If you are going to suggest that forgiveness is the actual foundation of salvation(instead of Christ’s work on the cross, grace, believing on) then at least define forgiveness so that victims don’t believe that forgiveness means remaining silent. ReneeIW, Salvation is only possible if your sins are forgiven by God. I cannot say this any other way. The mechanism that God put in place to make Salvation possible is the sacrifice of His Son Jesus. Jesus died so that the sins you committed before accepting Christ as your saviour are forgiven. However, once you accept forgiveness of sins through Jesus Christ, you are no longer a sinner but a child of God. As such, there are standards you have to live by. You do not continue to live as though you are still a sinner but as a child of God. It is not you forgiving someone's sins that make salvation possible but God forgiving you of yours. However, scripture says if you do not forgive a brother or sister of their sins then God will withhold forgiveness of your own sins. I do not make the rules but simply share them so you do not fall afoul of God's expectations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
$teven Posted September 4, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 12 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 22 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/28/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted September 4, 2019 44 minutes ago, nzkev said: You dont speak of salvation And slip that in at the end, Beware So, is it possible to receive salvation if God chooses not to forgive you of your sins? Salvation is not a right but the gift of God through Jesus Christ. That is why we are having this discussion. We've been given a precious gift that most of the world do not have. There are many ways to demonstrate we've received this gift, the capacity and ability to forgive being just one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blood Bought 1953 Posted September 4, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 48 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 6,726 Content Per Day: 2.88 Reputation: 6,258 Days Won: 5 Joined: 12/03/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted September 4, 2019 59 minutes ago, ReneeIW said: This statement is so scary to me because I know this is what priests are telling the boys they have raped. I have witnessed professional athletes tell this to women they have beaten to a pulp. Men who have raped tell this to their victims and the list goes on and on. The victim forgives and the offender goes on and harms another. But somehow we are to believe that Christ, who came to give us rest and a life more abundantly, doesn’t care about people being harmed, but only cares about the offender being “forgiven.” The abused person is not only physically, sexually, mentally, and emotionally traumatized, but after all that, they are in danger of hell while their offender is on their way to heaven. If you are going to suggest that forgiveness is the actual foundation of salvation(instead of Christ’s work on the cross, grace, believing on) then at least define forgiveness so that victims don’t believe that forgiveness means remaining silent. A woman is brutally raped, what is forgiveness in this situation? Btw, who did the thief on the cross forgive? Or the jailer? Btw, who did the thief on the cross forgive? Or the jailer? Brilliant ! .......never fear ,though.....some are damned and determined to find a way to ignore what Jesus paid such a terrible price for......Grace! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GandalfTheWise Posted September 4, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 24 Topic Count: 40 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,459 Content Per Day: 0.60 Reputation: 2,377 Days Won: 2 Joined: 08/23/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted September 4, 2019 10 minutes ago, ReneeIW said: A woman is brutally raped, what is forgiveness in this situation? Unilateral forgiveness and bilateral reconciliation are two entirely different things. Unilateral forgiveness is what goes on inside of us. Bilateral reconciliation is what the relationship or future interactions might look like and depends on the other person. Forgiveness is part of the healing process where what was done no longer affects us. It means being able to sleep comfortably at night or not falling apart when we are reminded of what happened. It means being able to see most men without seeing the face of the rapist and fearing them. It means being able to unabashedly hug and hold and be intimate with a spouse without flashbacks or nausea. It is something that is entirely for our benefit. It does not mean forgetting but it does mean that it is not festering inside of us. It has nothing to do with what does or does not happen to the other person. I'll emphasize again that often in cases of severe emotional or spiritual trauma that forgiveness will end up being part of or a result of the healing process. To some extent, a part of that process might be under our control but a large part of it will be what God does Himself in our hearts and the counselors and other people He may use as part of that process. The fruit of forgiveness is our personal freedom from fear and anger and shame. The seeking and fulfillment of vengeance is no replacement for forgiveness and indeed might hinder forgiveness and healing because it places conditions on our healing. To require a sufficient amount of pain and suffering in the rapist's life to be satisfied before forgiving means that our healing has conditions depending on other people to take certain actions and for certain things to happen. Such things can perhaps make us tangibly safer or give a brief satisfaction, but probably do not make us freer but perhaps put us in deeper bondage because we are tying our emotional and spiritual freedom to things we may have little control over outside of us. What our interaction or relationship with someone looks like going forward is dependent on the other person. Some people will never be safe to be around and we shouldn't. Some people need to be stopped and perhaps it is our role to help do so. Some people (probably not the case here) indeed deeply change and perhaps some type of relationship on different terms going forward is possible (usually speaking of family or relatives here). There are some people we should never interact with again for our own safety (which could include such measures as legal protections or moving to a different location and simply never responding to them in any way). To forgive someone does not mean pretending and acting as though nothing happened. It means being free inside our hearts from that person and what happened. Our interactions with them in the future depend on them. Forgiving someone does NOT mean you ever have to trust them or pretend something didn't happen. Trust is something that is earned through consistent behaviors over time. When trust is violated, it is something that has to be reconstructed slowly and safely. If we have forgiven someone, the possibility of future interaction, a restored relationship of some type, and trust exists, but would be a long process and would depend on the other person indeed having changed. In some cases, the best course of action is to never have an interaction with someone again. In the long run, forgiveness is about our being able to walk forward in life free from the emotional and spiritual bondage. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blood Bought 1953 Posted September 4, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 48 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 6,726 Content Per Day: 2.88 Reputation: 6,258 Days Won: 5 Joined: 12/03/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted September 4, 2019 (edited) 2 hours ago, $teven said: ReneeIW, Salvation is only possible if your sins are forgiven by God. I cannot say this any other way. The mechanism that God put in place to make Salvation possible is the sacrifice of His Son Jesus. Jesus died so that the sins you committed before accepting Christ as your saviour are forgiven. However, once you accept forgiveness of sins through Jesus Christ, you are no longer a sinner but a child of God. As such, there are standards you have to live by. You do not continue to live as though you are still a sinner but as a child of God. It is not you forgiving someone's sins that make salvation possible but God forgiving you of yours. However, scripture says if you do not forgive a brother or sister of their sins then God will withhold forgiveness of your own sins. I do not make the rules but simply share them so you do not fall afoul of God's expectations. This is great stuff if you are under the Law......unfortunately for Legalists Jesus That He was THE END of the Law for those that TRUST in Him alone for their Salvation.....You claim you do not make the rules ......Great......there are no rules in Christianity, except to Believe and Love......If , by the help of our “ Helper”—- The Holy Spirit That is, we can forgive somebody out of love , that is what God desires......not some pretend “ forgiveness” conjured up out of fear Of going to Hell, that is not heartfelt .God hates phoniness regardless of the intentions.God understands your hesitation in forgiving. He knows it is not natural .Put your reluctance to forgive on the Cross Of Jesus with the rest of your sins , thank God for His Grace and continue in this Walk of Grace and let God deal with the mess......give it to Him.....simply because “ He cares for you very much”. God bless. Edited September 5, 2019 by Blood Bought 1953 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blood Bought 1953 Posted September 4, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 48 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 6,726 Content Per Day: 2.88 Reputation: 6,258 Days Won: 5 Joined: 12/03/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted September 4, 2019 1 hour ago, $teven said: Forgiveness is God blotting out your sins and salvation is the end result, being saved from God's wrath. This is God's 'natural' response to sin, what we know as death. This is why Christ came, to die for the sins of all. It is through his sacrifice that we have a path to redemption. Salvation is not passive but proactive; which means we have to live our lives observing the principles underpinning it. You are right, in that this is possible only by the power of the Holy Spirit but you have to bear those fruits that validate the presence of the Spirit, or else, as John said in Matthew 3: [8] Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance: [10] And now also the axe is laid unto the root of the trees: therefore every tree which bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. Also, recall the differentiation Jesus himself made about those who come to the Lord in the parable of the sower. They did not all meet the same fate. Our fate is determined by how effectively we apply the principles of salvation. One of those principles is that we have to proactively forgive others in order to received God's forgiveness. Do you imagine God attaching such importance to forgiveness that He sacrifices His only Son, only to then treat it with contempt by allowing those whom Jesus died for to dismiss it as unnecessary? There is a parable from Jesus himself in Matthew 18: 23-35 that perfectly encapsulates this principle. Keep in mind as well that the whole point of salvation is gaining entry into Jesus' kingdom at the end of this age. Why would he allow anyone who does not observe the same principles he did while on earth to share in his inheritance? If this wasn't a central issue he wouldn't have uttered "Father, forgive them..." as he was being put to death by those who mocked him. Why would he allow anyone who does not observe the same principles he did while on earth to share in his inheritance? Thats an easy one....it’s called Grace......The same way anybody gets to Heaven without meriting it....Jesus had many principles that we do not live by .......Will you give me anything of yours That I ask for ? If so, please give me your car (I am not picky, just give me a good air- conditioner and a great music system, so I can listen to Led Zeppilin as I am doing now). If I slap your cheek, will you offer me the other? Yeah, I thought not......Why continue to dredge up an Old Testament performance - based way to Salvation. Why not graduate into the Age Of Grace which is where we are now .Anything we bring to God’s Judgement Seat other than our Faith in the Shed Blood to justify oneself is going to end up bad—- REAL bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ReneeIW Posted September 4, 2019 Group: Senior Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 42 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 944 Content Per Day: 0.54 Reputation: 780 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/06/2019 Status: Offline Author Popular Post Share Posted September 4, 2019 (edited) 2 hours ago, GandalfTheWise said: It means being able to sleep comfortably at night or not falling apart when we are reminded of what happened Trauma can affect sleep the same way pain from an injury can affect sleep. I’m not sure it’s a spiritual issue. I think part of the reason I fall apart when I see his name is because I am reminded of his hypocrisy. Hypocrites made Christ very angry as well. Remember, we are talking about a married Christian leader who ran the most powerful men’s ministry and taught about pure living and healthy marriages. He was married when he hurt me and other women. And wanted me to sleep with another woman for his viewing pleasure(I did not!! This is one of many things he doesn’t want getting out) all the while preaching against homosexuality. Tried to turn me on to cocaine (I did not try it!) and forced me to drink, all the while praising Bill Wilson and Alcoholics Anonymous. Forced me to do unspeakable acts and then would go home to three little girls that I know he wouldn’t want doing the same things. And none of the above mentions the actual crime. Obviously things he did to me pop in my head, but I would never wish the harm he did to me on him or anyone else. I love Christ, so of course I want to forgive in a way that is Biblical and makes Christ happy. And He will get me there because He is the author and finisher of my faith. But I don’t want to be duped into believing forgiveness means you don’t report crimes, warn others or speak out against hypocrisy or leaders who are not qualified to lead in the church. Edited September 5, 2019 by ReneeIW 1 2 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jostler Posted September 5, 2019 Group: Mars Hill Followers: 25 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 2,679 Content Per Day: 1.39 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 16 Joined: 01/19/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted September 5, 2019 (edited) I would like to point something out here. There was a thief on a cross right next to Jesus, whose eyes were opened to the reality of just Who Jesus is. He didn't pray any sinners prayer but his words DEFINITELY reflected a heart change, as evidenced by his rebuke of the other thief's mocking, which he had previously done himself: Quote Mat 27:44 ¶ Even the robbers who were crucified with Him reviled Him with the same thing. Shortly after, one of the thieves had a complete change of heart: Quote Luk 23:39-43 ¶ Then one of the criminals who were hanged blasphemed Him, saying, “If You are the Christ, save Yourself and us.” ¶ But the other, answering, rebuked him, saying, “Do you not even fear God, seeing you are under the same condemnation? And we indeed justly, for we receive the due reward of our deeds; but this Man has done nothing wrong.” Then he said to Jesus, “Lord, remember me when You come into Your kingdom.” ¶ And Jesus said to him, “Assuredly, I say to you, today you will be with Me in Paradise.” The thief's words reflected a heart that had gone through all the elements necessary for his eyes to truly see Jesus for Who He is. He clearly confessed his sin and acknowledge that he deserved punishment. He recognized that Jesus was pure, not guilty, and in that is repentance strongly implied, as well as the understanding that Jesus was his hope. He turned to the One he had just recently mocked and asked for something from Him .... favorable "remembrance" of the King he now recognized Jesus to be. And a belief that these crosses were not the "end" for either of them. Jesus instantly forgave the personal offense of having been unjustly mocked just moments before, and then spoke to the fact that as the Messiah He would also deliver him from the consequences of his whole LIFE of sin and deliver him from the power of death...the just wages of sin. The SECOND death....spiritual death....eternal separation from the person, presence and goodness of God. But please note this one thing carefully. Jesus did NOT deliver him from the consequences of his sin IN THIS LIFE. Do any doubt He had the power to had He chosen to? Yet He did not....and there is a world of revelation in the answer to the question "why not?". Renee, i'd like to encourage you to reflect on that and ask Him to begin showing you "why not". The point I want to make at first is simply that escaping from eternal consequences, IN THE PRESENCE OF DIVINE FORGIVENESS AND CLEANSING by the blood, does NOT mean we can escape the temporal consequences of sin, AND, that lack of escape DOES NOT mean forgiveness was incomplete or withheld. The fact the thief still died physically for his sin, does not in any way imply Jesus' forgiveness of him was insufficient or incomplete. Your own forgiveness of your abuser, IS NOT insufficient or incomplete because you are being led to expose this sin! Gandalf made a post above I want to refer back to in another post here soon. I'd encourage you to reread that one as well. A bit later i hope to ADD a context to the point Gandalf made about the HUGE difference between LEGAL forgiveness, and reconciliation .... restoration of relationship. I'm sorry I'm long winded, I don't mean to be but before I get to the "legal lens" i also want to point this out: In 1st Corinthians Paul was forced to deal with an astonishingly vile sexual sin parading openly in the midst of the Corinthian assembly, and the way he did it is quite sobering. Quote 1Co 5:1 ¶ It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and such sexual immorality as is not even named among the Gentiles—that a man has his father’s wife! And you are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he who has done this deed might be taken away from among you. Please notice two things here. Sexual sin of a nature so despicable it wasn't even acceptable to the horrifically corrupt, socially acceptable mores of the pagan culture this assembly was embedded in (evidently this guy was sleeping with his step-mother, or even God forbid his natural mother) and Paul's first response was a REBUKE of the Corinthian believers for tolerating this sin in their midst. And even DEFENDING IT....."puffed up" about it. Paul unequivocally states that their reaction TO this sin should have been to REMOVE this man from their midst. And the rebuke strongly implies they should have KNOWN that was God's solution and ACTED on it. Later Paul explains in more depth as we will see: Quote 1Co 5:4-7 In the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, when you are gathered together, along with my spirit, with the power of our Lord Jesus Christ, deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus. ¶ Your glorying is not good. Do you not know that a little leaven leavens the whole lump? Therefore purge out the old leaven, that you may be a new lump, since you truly are unleavened. For indeed Christ, our Passover, was sacrificed for us. I think the implication in Paul's words is clear. This is a VERY tough love in view but Paul's counsel was to deliver this one to physical death, BUT not out of spite or a desire for vengeance...the PURPOSE was correction so that a BELIEVER might be spared eternal, spiritual loss. As i understand this the implication is that if this sinner failed to address the sin in his life and repent and STOP IT....it would eventually lead him to commission of the one unpardonable sin, blasphemy of the Spirit, and end up losing his eternal life. This "tough love" of consciously, legally turning this man over to satanic authority was and is an expression of God's grace, not in any way related to vengeance. The good news in this case is that this tough love DID have the desired result in this sinner's life. Paul mentions this again in 2nd Corinthians and from that mention we can conclude he DID repent, stop sinning, and the way for restoration of relationship was opened up...and Paul encouraged the Corinthians to do exactly that. But the cart must follow the horse.... For the sake of brevity I won't cite those verses but i trust they are available to any who choose to find them. There is a difference between forgiveness and restoration and there is a legal basis for it and it is for the GOOD of the sinner. There is a difference between the first and second death that impacts the whole issue and the legal spiritual realities that impact both. I hope to expand on that in another post....i'm sure it will be long too and sorry for that in advance. I do pray this can somehow begin to give you a foundation for release from the confusion between legal forgiveness and how we FEEL about the circumstances. And I'll express my conviction now that it is the Lord Who has been encouraging you to expose....NOT some remnant of desire for vengeance on your part as others have implied. He is grieved when His Body is polluted by the unrighteous leaven of sin, and grieved by His own people's averting their eyes from it and tolerating it. If left untreated, it WILL spread and defile many, and His rebuke will fall on US if we tolerate it. Edited September 5, 2019 by Jostler 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GandalfTheWise Posted September 5, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 24 Topic Count: 40 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,459 Content Per Day: 0.60 Reputation: 2,377 Days Won: 2 Joined: 08/23/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted September 5, 2019 2 hours ago, ReneeIW said: I love Christ, so of course I want to forgive in a way that is Biblical and makes Christ happy. And He will get me there because He is the author and finisher of my faith. But I don’t want to be duped into believing forgiveness means you don’t report crimes, warn others or speak out against hypocrisy or leaders who are not qualified to lead in the church. In the interest of clarity (since words in posts and a forum sometimes fail to convey nuances correctly), I did not in my post intend to imply or say that forgiveness necessarily means letting things go unpunished but rather that forgiveness is a unilateral issue we work on in our hearts for our own well-being. The separate issue of what actions to take in self-defense, protection of others, and the like is something to follow God's leading on and will be different in different situations. Sometimes God fights the battle and keeps us out of it; sometimes He empowers us to take part in it. 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ReneeIW Posted September 5, 2019 Group: Senior Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 42 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 944 Content Per Day: 0.54 Reputation: 780 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/06/2019 Status: Offline Author Share Posted September 5, 2019 10 hours ago, Jostler said: Renee, i'd like to encourage you to reflect on that and ask Him to begin showing you "why not". The point I want to make at first is simply that escaping from eternal consequences, IN THE PRESENCE OF DIVINE FORGIVENESS AND CLEANSING by the blood, does NOT mean we can escape the temporal consequences of sin, AND, that lack of escape DOES NOT mean forgiveness was incomplete or withheld. The fact the thief still died physically for his sin, does not in any way imply Jesus' forgiveness of him was insufficient or incomplete. Your own forgiveness of your abuser, IS NOT insufficient or incomplete because you are being led to expose this sin! Gandalf made a post above I want to refer back to in another post here soon. I'd encourage you to reread that one as well. A bit later i hope to ADD a context to the point Gandalf made about the HUGE difference between LEGAL forgiveness, and reconciliation .... restoration of relationship. Thank You Jostler. You gave me a lot to think about and I thought your entire post was brilliant. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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