Guest Posted November 18, 2019 Share Posted November 18, 2019 Indeed. Back to basics. Who is a woman wishing to impress through how she dresses? Maybe many never ask themselves that question. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Coliseum Posted November 18, 2019 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 14 Topic Count: 133 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 1,123 Content Per Day: 0.66 Reputation: 2,055 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/07/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted November 18, 2019 (edited) 51 minutes ago, lovethelord said: I agree. I work for a large healthcare group and one of our lead clinicians addressed a group of doctors at a meeting. He said that most patients are coming to the doctors for their knowledge and expertise to diagnose and give treatment hence is why he dresses in a nice dress shirt & tie everyday. He said that if he came to work dressed in a t-shirt and jeans he doubted he would get the same respect and trust from the patients. He then shared a story of a patient who commented negatively on his appearance when he came into work dressed casually. I am sure I will get the "axe" for expressing a different point of view, but please allow me to make my case. Once again, it depends upon the occasion. I fix computers; I go to the customer's home. I dress in shorts and thongs on my feet. Not a single customer has complained. In fact, I wind up praying with many of them before I leave. Why do I not dress the way I am "supposed" to dress? Because I am relatable. Because I have discovered that instead of appearing to be a professional computer expert, I am simply a person who goes to talk, share, discover, and be a human being who is just like them. It saddens me that so many think there is a must-dress way of life. Dress for the occasion, but we would be surprised how others view such an occasion. We are unwilling to change; we think there is some stone-hearted way that we must be "compelled" to dress like. I disagree, a lot. Would I go into a church wearing bathing trunks? No. I would be looked at and laughed at and probably discarded. But would I see an unbeliever the same way? No. In fact, I seem far friendlier to a drunk who comes into the church if I wear shorts than if I dressed impeccably. I dress to be authentic, not ritualistic. And if I disturb a brother because I come across to him as inappropriate, and he says to me, "You are inappropriate," I have been known to come dressed in a suit the following week to make him feel comfortable---and when I have, I would hear that very same brother tell me I went overboard. So I refuse to dress stoically about who I appear to be pleasing. We are just people---messy people---who if they dared, might remove their masks and let them be themselves. Yes, I dress for the occasion, but not to make myself appear to others who I am not. God bless you, sister. btw, if you are pleased to dress the way you dress, and that is you at the heart-level, then that is how I will welcome you. Jesus did not dress in a suit; he dressed for the occasion that helped draw others to him so that His Gospel could be preached. Edited November 18, 2019 by Coliseum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Revlori Posted November 18, 2019 Group: Senior Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 635 Content Per Day: 0.39 Reputation: 843 Days Won: 1 Joined: 10/31/2019 Status: Offline Author Share Posted November 18, 2019 2 hours ago, lovethelord said: I agree. I work for a large healthcare group and one of our lead clinicians addressed a group of doctors at a meeting. He said that most patients are coming to the doctors for their knowledge and expertise to diagnose and give treatment hence is why he dresses in a nice dress shirt & tie everyday. He said that if he came to work dressed in a t-shirt and jeans he doubted he would get the same respect and trust from the patients. He then shared a story of a patient who commented negatively on his appearance when he came into work dressed casually. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and personal story,may God bless you ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovethelord Posted November 18, 2019 Group: Senior Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 667 Content Per Day: 0.38 Reputation: 1,540 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/17/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted November 18, 2019 2 hours ago, Coliseum said: I am sure I will get the "axe" for expressing a different point of view, but please allow me to make my case. Once again, it depends upon the occasion. I fix computers; I go to the customer's home. I dress in shorts and thongs on my feet. Not a single customer has complained. In fact, I wind up praying with many of them before I leave. Why do I not dress the way I am "supposed" to dress? Because I am relatable. Because I have discovered that instead of appearing to be a professional computer expert, I am simply a person who goes to talk, share, discover, and be a human being who is just like them. It saddens me that so many think there is a must-dress way of life. Dress for the occasion, but we would be surprised how others view such an occasion. We are unwilling to change; we think there is some stone-hearted way that we must be "compelled" to dress like. I disagree, a lot. Would I go into a church wearing bathing trunks? No. I would be looked at and laughed at and probably discarded. But would I see an unbeliever the same way? No. In fact, I seem far friendlier to a drunk who comes into the church if I wear shorts than if I dressed impeccably. I dress to be authentic, not ritualistic. And if I disturb a brother because I come across to him as inappropriate, and he says to me, "You are inappropriate," I have been known to come dressed in a suit the following week to make him feel comfortable---and when I have, I would hear that very same brother tell me I went overboard. So I refuse to dress stoically about who I appear to be pleasing. We are just people---messy people---who if they dared, might remove their masks and let them be themselves. Yes, I dress for the occasion, but not to make myself appear to others who I am not. God bless you, sister. btw, if you are pleased to dress the way you dress, and that is you at the heart-level, then that is how I will welcome you. Jesus did not dress in a suit; he dressed for the occasion that helped draw others to him so that His Gospel could be preached. Hi Coliseum, Thanks for sharing your perspective. When I go to church I usually wear a dress or skirt, even knowing that most of the congregation and our Pastor dresses casually. I'm sure the way I dress is from my old school days when my parents had me dress up when going to church. I let my daughter wear her torn jeans and a t-shirt and don't have a problem with that. When I posted earlier, I was actually thinking of Christians who wear very sexy clothing to church that just doesn't seem appropriate for the occasion. But then again, this is a good reminder for me that I shouldn't judge them. Maybe they were going somewhere special right after church. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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