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There is someone (A) I love who will never be mine, and in no way i'll get married to her. I still like her. I might get married (arranged marriage) to someone else who I might not love. Is it okay to be still in love with this A. Even if I don't act on it or commit adultery or have vile thoughts. Is it okay to be married with someone you might not fall in love or is it better to be single? 

 

Edit; I am a student (20) and I aspire to be a Man of God. 

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Is A married?   If A is single and you love her, then seek to marry her.

If A is married, then search for a girl that you love.   Put A out of your mind, if she is married.

Perhaps remain single until you find a girl you can love.   It isn't fair to the girl or yourself to enter a loveless marriage.

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21 hours ago, 0904sma said:

might get married (arranged marriage) to someone else who I might not love

Depending where you are and on your parents, you might have a small say in who you marry, or at least a chance to meet her and get to know her at several escorted social occasions.

You need to talk to your parents about this.

 

Do remember every marriage, every family you encounter in the Bible was the product of an arranged marriage.

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22 hours ago, 0904sma said:

There is someone (A) I love who will never be mine, and in no way i'll get married to her. I still like her. I might get married (arranged marriage) to someone else who I might not love. Is it okay to be still in love with this A. Even if I don't act on it or commit adultery or have vile thoughts. Is it okay to be married with someone you might not fall in love or is it better to be single? 

 

Edit; I am a student (20) and I aspire to be a Man of God. 

A born again Christian marries another born again Christian. If a person is not 100% commited to a person and is not in love with them then they should not marry that person. What would be the point?

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On 7/22/2020 at 3:59 PM, 0904sma said:

Is it okay to be married with someone you might not fall in love or is it better to be single? 

Wait with patience in the Creator and, at the right moment, He will bring the right person to you. Until there, follow the advice of Paul:

  • 1Co 7:32-35 -> "But I desire you to be without anxiety. The one who is unmarried cares for the things that belong to the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the one who is married cares for the things of the world, how to please his wife. The wife and the virgin are different. The unmarried woman cares for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your own profit, not that I may cast a snare on you, but for that which is right, and that you may attend on the Lord without distraction.".

 

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