unfair....

[hopedancer92]

hey all! my sister is just getting into college , and alreddy has smashed 2 cars!!! one she almost got killed w/! we're a little low on money cuz of all this... so my mom says that if i wanna go to sum of the church things, i'd hav 2 pay 4 them since there is now 2 ppl in youth group!!! [in our family] but my sister... [not the one going to college ] didn't hav to pay 4 any of them ever til now!!!!! this is not fair!!!! and every1 is so sympathetic to the one goin' to college, but no1 seems to care about me! besides, the major crashes were just frum not using common sense, and were her fault! nobody pays attention to me anymore! i always get in trouble... 4 stuff i never did cuz my lil sis lies about them!!! y doesn't any1 care about me anymore??? pleez giv me an anser! ~nessa

Edited August 29, 2005 by hopedancer92

[PwrInTheBld]

Being a "middle child" stinks doesn't it?

If the youth events are costly for a parent, how do they expect you to pay? Do you have a job?

[BCPaolo]

hey all! my sister is just getting into college , and alreddy has smashed 2 cars!!! one she almost got killed w/!  we're a little low on money cuz of all this... so my mom says that if i wanna go to sum of the church things, i'd hav 2 pay 4 them since there is now 2 ppl in youth group!!! [in our family]  but my sister... [not the one going to college ] didn't hav to pay 4 any of them ever til now!!!!! this is not fair!!!! and every1 is so sympathetic to the one goin' to college, but no1 seems to care about me! besides, the major crashes were just frum not using common sense, and were her fault! nobody pays attention to me anymore! i always get in trouble... 4 stuff i never did cuz my lil sis lies about them!!! y doesn't any1 care about me anymore???    pleez giv me an anser! ~nessa

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Unfortunately, life is not always fair.

Sometimes some thing will happen in life that makes it seem like the world is out to get you... only to appear to be benificial to you in the end.

Sometimes things will seem too good to be true... and often, they will be, and a seemingly great situation will turn on you.

I don't know why "nobody cares about you", although I doubt that's the case, because I don't know your family. Just understand that no matter what happens in life, God is always working, and is always part of it, and no matter what the situation is, you can rejoice in that.

When I was young(er), my older brother had everything paid for him, while I didn't. I've had to have a job since I was 15. Yeah, it sucked growing up, but now I have the money managing skills that most of my pampered friends never developed while they were younger, and I've saved a lot of cash because of that, and now I'm ahead of the game compared to other 22 year olds who are neck deep in student debts and car payments. I never would have thought of that while I was applying for McDonalds at 15 years old, but it seemed to work out alright!

[Giaour]

I felt the same way. I was a middle child, my older sister got EVERYTHING handed to her on a silver platter, she wrecked 3 cars and just lied like crazy. My baby sister, being the baby, could just bat her eyes at daddy and get away with everything. Well, now that we are all adults now. My older sister has had 4 marriages, because if she doesnt get her way, she leaves them. She got used to getting everything as a child and expected it from a husband.

My baby sister is totally helpless now because as a child everyone did stuff for her when she made a fuss. He 2nd husband is getting sick of that attitude and may leave soon.

I worked hard, earned what I got, I didn't expect anything from anyone and got everything I ever wanted as an adult.

I own my own business, I have a wonderful husband of 24 years ( first and last husband) we have a wonderful son in college and is self sufficient.

My sisters kids are in and out of trouble all the time and have no dreams for the future.

I think what I'm trying to say is that your situation, although very difficult will make you all the better person for it. Your sibling may have a lot now but later on it will smack them in the face.

I think it is best summed up by the story of the poor beggar at the gates and the rich man.

In heaven the first will be last and the last will be first.

[DaniJ87]

man- you guys are harsh on oldest children!! :-)

I am an oldest daughter... wow, and I'm going to college too... I say your family shouldn't have to pay for the crashes of a college student... they're old enough to deal with their own mistakes.

In my family I always felt, when I was younger, that it wasn't fair that I was the eldest; and that rather, my little sister got everything just for her. my middle sister was always the 'angel' who never did anything wrong in the sight of my parents, (and drove me nuts because it seemed like she actually learned from ALL my mistakes... bugged me because I selfishly wanted her to have to make those mistakes too!) and my baby sister started out her life as sort of an invalid, and since she had pneumonia at age two, it seemed like my parents treated her like she was extra-breakable.

Things don't always seem fair, but you can't tell what's inside people's hearts. And other people's perspectives are different from your own.

Circumstances change, too. When I first got into our church youth group, I didn't have to pay for the activities. After my younger sister got in, we both had to pay at least half. When my youngest sister got in, we basically got to pay for all, unless my parents decided it was special enough to warrant money. I will mention as well, that none of us teens had jobs. If we decided that a certain activity was worth money, we worked for our parents around the house on something, or we tried to find a babysitting job. It also taught us that we needed to manage our money once we had it, so that we would have some when we needed it most.

It may seem like a hardship, but if you take it as something that just is, and not as something that is either good or bad, or fair or unfair, God can use it in your life.

[Guest run800mgrl]

i will pray for you!