The importance of respecting the partner (Part 1).

[Leonardo Von]

The importance of respecting the partner (Part 1).

One of the causes of breaking up is the incapacity of figuring out the partner. Of course, it is extremely difficult to assent with somebody that have concepts and values different from us. Both think they are correct.

Nevertheless, we should to exert to achieve an accord because Jesus was clear: 

•    “Again I say to you that if two of you shall agree on earth as regarding anything that they shall ask, it shall be done for them by My Father in Heaven.” (Mat 18:19).

Of course, it is easier to seclude from the person or, if the person is weaker, force upon our ideas. It is very hard to turn down and much harder and toilsome to reach an agreement.

Even if we are correct, how far is the solution of a problem worth more than our friendship? Many times, Jesus let something come about us so that He can make us one in Him. After all, He draw us with human cords, with bands of love (Hosea 11:4).

Many people know Revelation 3:20. Nevertheless, how do you think that Jesus stand at the door of our life and knock? Through people that circumscribe us. And behold their profile:

•    “Then He also shall say to those on the left hand, Depart from Me, you cursed, into everlasting fire prepared for the Devil and his angels. For I was hungry, and you gave Me no food; I was thirsty, and you gave Me no drink; I was a stranger and you did not take Me in; I was naked, and you did not clothe Me; I was sick, and in prison, and you did not visit me.” (Mat 25:41-43).

It comes the question: why do the sheep helped the needy and the goats not, once both of them couldn’t recognize Jesus in them? The characteristic of the goats is that they like to go before the flocks (Jeremiah 50:8).

That is to say: the goats think on results, and make works and more works. They focus on efficiency, realization. The sheep, on the other hand, focus on relationship, to achieve things together, as a family.

We will find many people who: 

•    are hungry for hearing the Words of the Creator, but we only care about swelling our self (1Cor 8:1) with more ken (many times for greedy gain – see 1Peter 5:2) instead of share it and multiply the talents that Jesus granted us (Mat 25:21,23);
•    are thirsty for the Living water, but we only worry about filling ourselves of the Holy Spirit. Although it is important to do it, although we shouldn’t share our unction with people that have engagement with Christ (since never the unction of the Holy Spirit is sufficient to us – hence the reason for which the five prudent virgins didn’t share their oil with the fool ones – Mat 25.9), we need to ask wisdom to Jesus so that we can have discernment to help those who really need our help. After all, remember that, the more vessels there was in the house of the widow, the more the olive oil multiplied (2Kings 4:6).  
Jesus only anoints our head with oil and make our cup runs over (Ps 23:5) when there are enemies to be reached in the valley of the shadow of death (Ps 23:4).

So, have a good week hearing and respecting your partner. Don’t pass over him/her! Don’t slight his/her opinion as they were garbage.