Was this mean?

[Kabowd]

My brother and sister-in-law take turns picking me up from school (my co-op) and usually my sister-in-law runs a little bit late (like 10-15 minutes). My brother, on the other hand, is either early or on time whenever it's his turn. Anywho, he has even less patience than I do and has complained about having to wait for me to come out (which at the most has been maybe 10 minutes because I'm usually talking to a friend or something). Well today, I waited a few minutes..checked to see if he was there (he wasn't) then I started talking to a friend and lost track of time. When I realized what time it was I went to look and he still wasn't there so I called him. He goes, "You missed me. I waited for you for 15 minutes and when you didn't come out, I left. Next time you need to be watching for me and ready. I won't wait more than 5 minutes, Tess" What the heck? HE LEFT ME! I had checked, I swear, and I never saw him out there! Grrrr. So I was like.."Uhhhhh..what do you expect me to do? Walk?" GRRRR.

So I ended up having to wait another 45 minutes until my sister-in-law got finished at the store to pick me up. It was so stupid! I wanted to tell him I thought it was rude for him to up and leave me like that, but I know what he would've said...he would've said it's rude for me to keep him waiting. But it's not like I've done that to him alot or anything. And he never even warned me! Grrr.

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Next time you need to be watching for me and ready.

I agree. You should be by the door, looking for his/her car to pull up. You can talk to your friends during school and at home on the phone and computer. Your brother and s-i-l are being kind to you by providing your ride and you should be accomodating, not hold them up while you chat with friends.

(Can you tell I'm a mom that has done more than my share of waiting in the car while someone takes their time, chatting with friends? )

When you see a friend you would like to talk to, why not tell them you need to wait by the door to be ready for your ride and can they hang out with you there while you wait?

[waygate]

Aye, wait outside. Also use somewhat proper english in the title?

[Kabowd]

Aye, wait outside. Also use somewhat proper english in the title?

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How is asking if this was mean not using "proper english"?

[Kabowd]

Next time you need to be watching for me and ready.

I agree. You should be by the door, looking for his/her car to pull up. You can talk to your friends during school and at home on the phone and computer. Your brother and s-i-l are being kind to you by providing your ride and you should be accomodating, not hold them up while you chat with friends.

(Can you tell I'm a mom that has done more than my share of waiting in the car while someone takes their time, chatting with friends? )

When you see a friend you would like to talk to, why not tell them you need to wait by the door to be ready for your ride and can they hang out with you there while you wait?

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Well I'll do that next time. Now I know what to expect. Don't you think he could've given me a little warning though?

[Guest shiloh357]

If it had been me, I would have gone in looking for you. I would not have left you. I used to have give my brother a ride back and forth, when he was in high school, and if he did not come out, I went in. I did tell him at one point that he needed to be watching for me in the future. I think your brother should have cut you some slack the first time but also admonished you to be outside/at the door watching for him.

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He probably should have said to you that there's a problem, address it, and then warn you that he will leave from now on.

But it sounds like he was a little fed up as, by your post, you have kept him waiting before.

And sometimes us old one's think a good shock is the best lesson for you youngin's.

Sorry you were hurt, though. And hey - that's more than my kids would get!! So enjoy the sympathy for the few seconds it lasts.

[Kabowd]

If it had been me, I would have gone in looking for you.  I would not have left you.  I used to have give my brother a ride back and forth,  when he was in high school, and if he did not come out, I went in.  I did tell him at one point that he needed to be watching for me in the future.  I think your brother should have cut you some slack the first time but also admonished you to be outside/at the door watching for him.

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Well a loooooong time ago he came inside to get me and told me he'd never do that again. But that was forever ago and it wasn't really a "warning". He has told me before to be ready and not keep him waiting, but he never mentioned he'd leave me if I didn't obey...or I would've been watching for sure

[Kabowd]

He probably should have said to you that there's a problem, address it, and then warn you that he will leave from now on.

But it sounds like he was a little fed up as, by your post, you have kept him waiting before.

And sometimes us old one's think a good shock is the best lesson for you youngin's. 

Sorry you were hurt, though. And hey - that's more than my kids would get!! So enjoy the sympathy for the few seconds it lasts. 

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Yes ma'am, and I think he had a bad day. I guess I had just forgotten how hard-headed he can be. It's been a while since he's done something abrupt like this. One time when I was 11 or 12 he left me at home because I didn't get up on time and get ready for school. He later came and got me and took me in late, but didn't give me a note to get it excused. He said if I was going to irresponsible then I'd have to deal with the consequences at school for being late. Sheesh, he's so difficult!

[Guest shiloh357]

If it had been me, I would have gone in looking for you.