homosexuality

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Lately I've been toying with the idea of homosexuality. I know in my head that it's wrong but I'm still struggling. I'm not really sure what kind of advice I'm looking for but I've gotten to the point where I just need to tell someone.

I really need help on how to deal with this whole issue.

[disconnected]

Most people do not realize how the devil uses our little unclean thoughts to begin his work of evil in our lives. Just as it is the little foxes that spoil the vines referred to in scripture, so it is the little thoughts of folly and wickedness that destroy men's lives. A thought is only an idea but if it is dwelt upon long enough it becomes an action. On the positive side this can produce much good. It is not sinful to have an evil thought as this is the way that we are all tempted by the devil. However, the sin comes into play when we dwell on the evil thought (or any thought that is against the Word of God). As that thought takes root in our heart (our spirit) it will eventually bear its deadly fruit.

Galatians 5:19-25: "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit."

link to full text: http://www.bible.com/answers/aunclean.html

Just to let you know that you are not the only person plagued by such an issue. I have dealt with this same issue before and it is Satan trying to cause you to lose God's blessings in your life! You are in my prayers.

[Bolts]

Ink_spot

I think it is wonderful that you have taken stock of this situation. At 15, that is a very mature thing to do. Were you brought up in a christian home? I'm asking because I have an idea that you take salvation seriously and with responsibility.

The quote that disconnected gave you is a really good one. Perhaps God is teaching you a new area in your christian walk? The Deceiver works to break up brotherly love by trying to pervert it - He can but try!!!

Firstly, you haven't done anything wrong so don't go beating yourself up O.K!

Secondly, what is it about this area that stands out for you?

Is it the kinship? the idea of having a partner - any partner?

Curiosity? Feelings of being left out?

You don't have to reply to those questions, I just want you to give it a little thought so that when you go into your closet you can tell your heavenly Father what it is you need.

God Loves You, He Will Never Abandon You Or Forsake You

[Guest Mow (Morgan W)]

Lately I've been toying with the idea of homosexuality. I know in my head that it's wrong but I'm still struggling. I'm not really sure what kind of advice I'm looking for but I've gotten to the point where I just need to tell someone.

I really need help on how to deal with this whole issue.

Nov. 1, 2005, 3:30 PM

I am also young and have dealt with this issue. God has put you in this situation for a reason and he will be there to help you deal with your thoughts. PRAY ABOUT IT! He won't abandon you. There was a story I read that dealt with a homosexual couple that felt overwhelmed in their relationship and one of them had an encounter with Christ. He still struggled with his thoughts and emotions, but he knew what was right. An earthly relationship, especially a homosexual one, will not cure a lonely heart. Only God can complete you. Let God be your light, and ignore YOU! Put your sinful emotions aside and listen to the Voice of Truth, for he will always know where to lead you. I will pray for you to deal with your issue, God Bless You all of your days! PS...Let me know how it's goin' sometime!

[caldog]

Lately I've been toying with the idea of homosexuality. I know in my head that it's wrong but I'm still struggling. I'm not really sure what kind of advice I'm looking for but I've gotten to the point where I just need to tell someone.

I really need help on how to deal with this whole issue.

I truely believe that Jesus lives, and is God and hears you.

[kodischild]

It is common for teens to feel this way at one point or another. Not common for them to admit it, but common for them to feel it. Don't assume that just because you are struggling with it now you will have to deal with it for the rest of your life. Ok, so it is possible that it will be a temptation for you later, but now isn't the time to worry about it.

For now, just keep your mind turned to other things. When temptation strikes, or you find your mind wandering, spend that time focusing on God.

Avoid things that make the temptation worse like certain tv shows, music, pictures, or certain attractive people. We each have certain temptations that we have to be more careful than other people about. For example, I can't be around alcohol or in any place that serves drinks. For me it is just best to avoid that temptation, you may find that there are situations you shouldn't put yourself in, either.

Finally, be careful who you tell. Teenagers can be cruel, you know that. The can be especially cruel when something scares them, and the idea of a homosexual in the locker room might just scare them. Also, I'm sorry to say that a lot of pastors don't know how to deal with homosexuality. They put it on a different level than other sins. I know when I was going through the same thing all I got was judgment and hatred, with nobody who wanted to help me because they seemed to consider me below them, or dirty, or an especially bad sinner.

Feel free to pm me if you want to.

You'll be fine. With God's help you can get through this!

[melissa528]

please take my advice

if you are only thinking about it ...toying with the idea....then leave it at that....

unless you want to be caught up in that lifestyle for the rest of your life dont go there

i have had many gay friends most if not all were sexually abused as children and grew up thinking feeling they were gay

i dont doubt that their 'feelings' of attraction to the same sex is real....and for many it doesnt feel like a choice...

but if you feel you have a choice then dont...

it is a hard thing to get out of and many never do....

and trust me i have literally lived in this 'gay' lifestyle for many years now and ive never seen anyone truly happy

it is a world of sexual addictions and users and games

i guess this could be said also about heterosexuals also but to me it seems the difference is choice

heterosexuals seem to at least have a choice

homosexuality is like bondage because the choice to be heterosexual is taken away

most if not all the gay friends i know are hiv positive and or have other infectious sexually transmitted diseases

ive seen a lot of curiosity seekers like yourself get caught up and believe me they have no idea what they are in for...

so if you havent indulged then my advice is dont

this is a powerful ancient spirit....and a convincing one....it is not hopeless but if you get into it you will feel it is...

you will feel there is no way out and that this is just you and you must have been born that way

i dont think it is so unusual to notice the attributes of the same sex but believe me to take it further is like being lost at sea

sometimes we are attracted to same sex because we are trying to connect with some part of ourselves...

i once thought i was gay...my attraction and desire for men ceased and i found myself only extremely attracted to women

thank God my attraction for men returned and the appeal of women left me....for me it was like a light switch turning off and on...to me it was a state of mind but it was a real one just as real as anything ive ever felt

but i know that had i indulged ...i may not have been able to pull myself out of it....many never can...even though they tire of it and want out...and believe me ...many want out

does God love homosexuals ? ..... of course he does

this is not about judgement because we all have sinned and come short of the glory of God...

this is about how the devil comes to steal , kill and destroy...

ive even seen very masculine 'normal ' acting men get into this lifestyle and begin to change

next thing you know they go from saying "oh i still like women" to ' Im gay im not attracted to women" to dressing up like a woman and getting 'cilicone' in their face and breast to change thier features and look more like a woman..

it is a confusing dark world ...ive seen it first hand...and it may seem fun at first...but it is treacherous and deceiving

before you know it...you start out with one 'special' man thinking this is the bomb ...and before you know it you end up being sexual with so many...then you may get stuck with hiv

be careful...

seriously....

i'll be praying for God to send you something else more healthy to 'toy' with...because you are litterally playing with fire and i promise you ...you will be burned...

but no matter what

remember God loves you still no matter how you feel or what youve done

[mrcorey]

Lately I've been toying with the idea of homosexuality. I know in my head that it's wrong but I'm still struggling. I'm not really sure what kind of advice I'm looking for but I've gotten to the point where I just need to tell someone.

I really need help on how to deal with this whole issue.

Dear Inkspot;

I'm not going to write out a bunch of do's & don'ts at this time. But I would suggest you find my testimony titled "Gay Overcomer" posted in the testimony section of this board. PLease read my testimony, then, if you have any questions, please, please feel free to write and ask me. You can write in a thread like this one, or better, PM me. I will tell you this, homosexuality is a deadly game you don't want to play. I am 44 years old and have struggled with homosexuality my whole life. I lived the gay lifestyle, I left 11 years ago. It was hard, extremely hard to leave it all behind. But the reward Fellowship with Jesus Christ is so much more.

I would like to know how old you are? Do you live with both parents? Any siblings? If you have siblings, where do you fall in, 1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc.

May God Bless & Keep You.

in Him;

corey

[poetically_taken]

I'll be praying for you hon, I feel your confusion. Trust me, you don't want to go down that path, it looks appealing but once you're down there it hurts, it hurts really really bad. A couple of verses that really helped me were....

"When you are disturbed, do not sin; ponder it on your bed. Offer the right sacrifices, and put your trust in the Lord."~Psalms 4:4-5

"As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried: he is a shield to all those that trust in him.' Psalm 18:30

Those might help might not, but just know that it isn't how you feel at the moment, it's what God intends for you to do, hand this over to Him and I promise, He'll lead you in the right direction even if you can't remember where you were going.

Peace,Love and Happiness,

ALEX

[Guest merricat]

I'll be praying for you hon, I feel your confusion. Trust me, you don't want to go down that path, it looks appealing but once you're down there it hurts, it hurts really really bad. A couple of verses that really helped me were....

"When you are disturbed, do not sin; ponder it on your bed. Offer the right sacrifices, and put your trust in the Lord."~Psalms 4:4-5

"As for God, his way is perfect: the word of the LORD is tried: he is a shield to all those that trust in him.' Psalm 18:30

Those might help might not, but just know that it isn't how you feel at the moment, it's what God intends for you to do, hand this over to Him and I promise, He'll lead you in the right direction even if you can't remember where you were going.

Peace,Love and Happiness,

ALEX

For GOD is not of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.

1Corinthians 14:33

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding. Proverbs 3:5