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my husband was 40 when we married 5 yrs ago ..i had spent 26 with a man who abused me and our 3 children daily in some form or fashion.i prayed for this man but it never changed. when i finally let and let God handle things,we spilt for good.when i meet my current husband ,he had never been married and never had a relationship that lasted for more than a couple months.he wasn't a christian either,never attended church.he is kinda nerdy,reads a lot of history books. i had an ad on yahoo personals. he responded and i told him i was 45 i was the mother of 3 and had 2 grandaughters,if he was looking for *cindy crawford* look else where,i am overweight,and i was looking for a *christian man* well he wasn't a christian but we dated a couple time and,then i started pulling away from him(guess i couldn't handle nice).he asked me one day what was up with women like me,who had been treated like crap all our lives and then when we meet someone who would treat us right we ran,mmm i thought to myself.well we married 4 months later and he is my best friend, my partner and he gave is life to Jesus,he is spirit filled and loves to go to church and my grandchild love him more than their *real* grandfather..

my point is....are you looking for a model or are you looking for what GOD will. my husband tells everyone his story,he was alone and God sent me to him. do i believe his story? you better believe me, i do.

i'll be prayinf for God's will and show you who HE has for you.

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my husband was 40 when we married 5 yrs ago ..i had spent 26 with a man who abused me and our 3 children daily in some form or fashion.i prayed for this man but it never changed. when i finally let and let God handle things,we spilt for good.when i meet my current husband ,he had never been married and never had a relationship that lasted for more than a couple months.he wasn't a christian either,never attended church.he is kinda nerdy,reads a lot of history books. i had an ad on yahoo personals. he responded and i told him i was 45 i was the mother of 3 and had 2 grandaughters,if he was looking for *cindy crawford* look else where,i am overweight,and i was looking for a *christian man* well he wasn't a christian but we dated a couple time and,then i started pulling away from him(guess i couldn't handle nice).he asked me one day what was up with women like me,who had been treated like crap all our lives and then when we meet someone who would treat us right we ran,mmm i thought to myself.well we married 4 months later and he is my best friend, my partner and he gave is life to Jesus,he is spirit filled and loves to go to church and my grandchild love him more than their *real* grandfather..

my point is....are you looking for a model or are you looking for what GOD will. my husband tells everyone his story,he was alone and God sent me to him. do i believe his story? you better believe me, i do.

i'll be prayinf for God's will and show you who HE has for you.

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Hi "womanafterGod",

u normally dont say much, do u?

God bless!!!

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my husband was 40 when we married 5 yrs ago ..i had spent 26 with a man who abused me and our 3 children daily in some form or fashion.i prayed for this man but it never changed. when i finally let and let God handle things,we spilt for good.when i meet my current husband ,he had never been married and never had a relationship that lasted for more than a couple months.he wasn't a christian either,never attended church.he is kinda nerdy,reads a lot of history books. i had an ad on yahoo personals. he responded and i told him i was 45 i was the mother of 3 and had 2 grandaughters,if he was looking for *cindy crawford* look else where,i am overweight,and i was looking for a *christian man* well he wasn't a christian but we dated a couple time and,then i started pulling away from him(guess i couldn't handle nice).he asked me one day what was up with women like me,who had been treated like crap all our lives and then when we meet someone who would treat us right we ran,mmm i thought to myself.well we married 4 months later and he is my best friend, my partner and he gave is life to Jesus,he is spirit filled and loves to go to church and my grandchild love him more than their *real* grandfather..

my point is....are you looking for a model or are you looking for what GOD will. my husband tells everyone his story,he was alone and God sent me to him. do i believe his story? you better believe me, i do.

i'll be prayinf for God's will and show you who HE has for you.

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Hi "womanafterGod",

u normally dont say much, do u?

God bless!!!

i do when i feel i should? :o:24:


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First off I was unmarried for 27 years. I got married a year ago to a wonderful girl. Anyhow, all of my friends got married by the time they were 23. Some even by 21. I was ALWAYS the single guy with all the couples which made it worse. Finally, after YEARS of prayer I did get married but it took WORK. I did have to pray. I did have to actively search for my future wife. She did not fall out of the sky or anything. I made the effort to meet girls and was lucky enough to meet her. Although God did arrange that meeting!

Anyhow, I do know that I had anger towards my situation when I was single. I was mad at God sometimes because I was so alone. But I stopped. I started focusing on Him and most importantly became content with my life. It was then that I met my wife. You see, its not always our timing. Its God's. I know this sounds like garbage from a married guy but its true. God truly knows whats best for us. I think that is what was being mentioned earlier. Not that you lack faith and you are not as holy as others. Its that anger for what we don't have that gets in the way. God has given us so much already. Be happy with your life and salvation. You may be surprised how He blesses you. Peace and love.

Chad

Hello Chad. I'm not sure if you noticed...but God was able to bless you with a wife because you first sought God and made Him the content of your life. It was then that you met your wife. I don't think it was timing but that you first focused on Him.

Many of the things we seek we do not find because we do not seek the Lord first. But if we seek the Lord first and His righteousness...then all other things will be given to us. This is God's promise...he knows what we need and will give them to us if we seek Him above all things.


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Gentleman...Repeat after me!!!!!!!

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Godliness with contentment is great gain

Taking a scripture and repeating it for a day or two is called AFFIRMATION

Try it ....... it works!!! you'll notice great changes

Bless you all in Jesus Name :blink:

Godliness with contentment is great gain


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Godliness with contentment is great gain!!


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i too am sorry for your lonliness and i can identify with it to some extent... it seems as though lonliness and unhappiness are synonomous to me... i have a friend who is searching for the one ...i dont understand the last 8 years of my life. i too have wondered if im being punished or something because the two men i have truly loved have both been unavailable to be with me...one was gay and i prayed and believed God would somehow deliver him and he would love me and be with me like i wanted and needed...it was all i wanted...i fasted...i prayed...i had faith...but only to have my heart broken a thousand times then finally crushed...for a long time i couldnt even pray...i hurt too much and yes i felt like God wasnt hearing me...so what was the use...

the next man i fell in love with was so wonderful to me as a friend he spoke life to my wounded soul...yet he was married...

now im in a state of uncertanty...i dont know what to feel ...think ...say or do...

i felt God once said to me "did you want ________ delivered from homosexuality for him or for you?" and it shocked me and i cried the only answer that i knew God already knew ... "for me God , it was for me"

i then said i loved and wanted my knew friend ...God said "dont let your wants hurt you"

at the time i thought it sounded quip but those words have gotten me thru a lot of hard days of disappointments...i have tried to learn to be content and just trust its in his hands...

God also once said to me..."all these love affairs pass away...but the love affair with Me is eternal..."

i remember crying one night and praying telling God how i did love Him but i needed human love human touch...i thought it was an honest prayer...and then i read in the Bible where the children of israel complained and asked God for a king...and He gave them one but the still found the king flawed and were yet unhappy...

i think your feelings are human and you are not alone...but that doesnt help...your pain is real to you...and i dont think its wrong to pray for someone special in your life or to want that ...i think it is instilled in us from creation to want and seek relationships with others...even God seeks a relationship with us and we are made in His image

but even if you are too hurt angry and tired to pray...just remember that even with a relationship in your life you will still need God... there will still be problems and disappointments..

but as a sister in Christ ...i will agree with you in prayer that God sends you a relationship thats good for you and that makes you happy...

if you are wondering "what is 'wrong' with you or what is it that is standing in your way of a relationship....then ask God ...ask Him for wisdom...ask Him to help you see ...what is standing in your way...but be prepared for the answer and it may cut deep but if you can learn from it then things will change for you...

perhaps its as simple as you 'trying to hard' maybe you are so desparate for a real relationship that you over accomodate the women in your life and unfortunately causes a loss of interest....

you said you are in tears all the time...you are very vulnerable emotionally... and you dont feel strong...ask God to restore or give you more self esteem and heal the wounds that these failed relationships has caused you..

as far as the pornography goes...we all hate our vices...and this can be a serious issue for some and less serious for others only you and God know that...but you know esp when you are lonely and try not to do something that is the thing you do the most to fill a void...

i dont think that God is punishing you or cursing your for your pact/promise to Him...but remember the bible says that WE snare ourselves with the words of our mouth...you may have inadvertently spoke this over yourself...

ASK GOD TO FORGIVE YOU...ASK GOD TO RELEASE YOU FROM THAT PROMISE....then walk in confidence that He has...

He is not a God of bondage...that is a trick of the enemy...

"where the Spirit of the Lord is there is LIBERTY...'

please remember that...

God does love you ...talk to Him i mean really talk and LISTEN...Be honest with God ....He knows anyway...tell Him you feel angry and disillusioned with Him... ask Him to give you peace and understanding,

sometimes we as humans get stuck in our own ruts ya know...

thats why i say listen for His instructions and direction...He will show you truth...

it may be that you are in a needy place right now emotionally...and its undersandable...when you heal and become stronger within yourself...i bet things will turn around for you..

stay encouraged

with love in Christ...


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Well I am not a man, and truly don't understand why men feel they have to have pornography anyway.

Lonliness, I do understand. I have had problems in my life with men. And the reason is, the way they have treated me.

I am a Christian, and want to be treated as one. I want to be treated as a human being, not a thing.

I want to be loved and want to love back. But if that never happens then I am ok there too.

I don't really know why you are still alone. I am sure there is someone out there for you somewhere.

You have to just stop looking.

Just like me.

Then God will place someone in your life. The exact and right one just for you.

I believe that.

Maybe it is just a man thing, on how he treats the lady he is with. I don't know. I am just trying to help a bit.

You are probably a good man. And just need some male advice.

But remember God knows your situation. And he loves you very much.

God bless :emot-highfive:

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