My Story need advice and prayers

[vcdstroyr]

I got in a relationship with a soon to be divorced woman and are living together.

The future ex husband cheated on her numorous times and is currently living with a girlfriend. He is also a Christian but his actions with his wife and his refusal to go back to her and work things out doesn't show it.

We both repented for what we did and asked forgiveness from God and the ex-husband. Yet he still refuses to go back to his wife.

I became distant, a jerk, and wasn't bonding too well with her kids and he lost interest in me romantically. We are still living together but I'm looking for my own place to live now.

I have found God again and asked forgiveness from God and her for my actions but I think I mess up bad enough that she will not take me back. I realized what I did wrong and with God by my side once again I want to make things right and have been doing so (I think) but it appears it's too late and she won't have me back.

I have prayed to God to take away the feelings of love and hope of getting back together with this woman. But I sometimes find prayers and passages leading me back to feeling love and hope in this woman. I'm not sure but I think God is keeping those feelings in me for a reason.

I need some advice and some prayers please

[Guest stevej]

I will be prayng for you vcd. The relationship sounds like it has a trap door...at least in my opinion. God has a special someone for you that is not encumbered with all of the problems that appear in your post. Keep searching and keep steady in God's word and praying. He will reveal His will to you.

[Leonard]

Praying God will end your confusion.

It doesn't sound like you would be very good for the kids......

[chicagoburbite]

I'm so glad to hear you've come back to the Lord! Maybe it's time to just build that relationship (with Jesus). You mentioned the feelings that keep coming back for this woman. Feelings (especially sinful ones) can come back very strongly when apart from the one we have feelings towards (which can include a person, cigarettes, food, ...etc)

First of all, if she's not divorced yet, then you shouldn't be dating. Secondly, it is very important that she be with someone that gets along with her kids! The kids will be there forever (even after they move out on their own). Is it worth ruining her relationship with them?

It really sounds like you should cut off all ties to her. Spend time healing. Build your relationship with the Lord, and then think about dating again. (And i think it would be really wise that it not be the woman you mentioned)

I was a divorced mom who dated and eventually remarried. It was important for me to have any last chances with my ex before someone complicated it by "being around". But I made a big mistake... there was someone I dated before my divorce was final, and he DID complicate things. (Really long story, but I won't bore you with it. lol) Needless to say, even when he was out of my life, and my ex and I attempted to reconcile (even up to the week before the divorce was final) we still ended up in a divorce.

Hope this helps!

Jenni

[vcdstroyr]

In my change I am also doing better with the kids as well. I won't lie and say I'm not physically attracted to this woman but it's not just that. I'm actually trying to have a good relationship with her and God. Her divorce will be final in March and I want to know I have a place in her heart at that time.

I think I have come on too strong in my efforts to win her back. I need to trust in God that all this will work out. Please pray for my situation.

[chicagoburbite]

I will pray for God's will to be done. Just, please be open to what His will is. Stay away from her until the divorce is finalized and THEN see what God's will is. As of right now, she is still a married woman.

Jenni