youth group

[cutiepie1497]

okay so i havent been back since 2 weeks before valentines day. They started purity and everyone was into boyfriends while i basically sat in the corner alone listening to them laugh and stuff about boys and what its like to be in love, ive never felt that and it just really made me feel worse about myself. So I havent been back at all. What really kills me is that no one in the youth group has even called to see if somethings wrong or anything....and it is devestating, i figured one of the leaders would care? Do they, no. We have had at least 10 people call from church but they only asked about my parents no one mentioned me which isnt so bad because they weren't leaders of my youth group! I don't know, I haven't felt connected to anyone in the youth group for months anyways and I would love to just be included on like the inside jokes and actually have true friendships. I guess it hurts the most knowing my youth pastor and kis wife don't care because we used to be really close like 2 years ago and now there is nothing at all we have to say to one another really. but i still love them to death and it just hurts, ya know? I guess this is more of a vent than anything.

[kittylover0991]

Hey Cutiepie,

Let me say, I know exactly where you are coming from.. seiously.. I do..

I didn't stop coming to youth group because I knew my parents woudl probably never get saved... but...

I know what is it like to have so many people around me talking about how great love is.. etc... Before my first boyfriend, it irriated my so much and I got sick of it. I basically kept ot myself all the time. After my first boyfriend(we jsut broke up two weeks ago becaue of religious difference), I still feel the same way.. I long to know what love is like. However, those people in your youth group probably have no idea what love is. I know that when I was iwth my boyfriend, I thoguth it was love. In all actuality, it was only my sexual desires kicking in .... the high in the clouds type feeling... They probably dont know real love but rather, have been decieved by the world's thinking as to what love truly is.. which in their mind.. is probalby sex related.

As for no one calling you, I wish i could truly help you with that... I would say you should take that step and call your youth pastor and tell him what is going on and how feel... I had actually thought abotu doing that once, but my pastor was soon called to be missionary to Thailand and we have new youth pastor. As a church family, we should definitly care abotu each other and pray for each other.. be calling each other when they aren't in church...

I will defintily be praying for you. By the way, you can "vent" as much as you want It is hard to talk about such things, especially when they are so dear to your heart..

I hope this helps... "There is a friend taht sticketh closer than a brother" .. take your cares to Jesus. he wants to know ALL about them.. he knows what is in your heart better than you do Just sit down.. on your bed or something.. alone..and just talk to him

With love in Christ Jesus,

Crystal

[cutiepie1497]

I just hate loving them so much and then not seeing it back you know? And I am truly sick of crying about it....I mean I love my youth group and leaders so much and all but I can only take so much before I am worn down...

[kittylover0991]

(((((((((((((((((((((((((Cutiepie)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) I'll be alright.. I am so sorry you are going through this... it will be over soon enough...

I think I failed in my last post to explain something... definitly nothing compared to what you have said but...

In my youth group, I cared about just about everybody and my youth pastor.. but they never really talked to me.. ever... Everyone always had their little "clicks" and let's just say I wasn't one of them... That really hurt a lot because it seemed that no one cared for me... and I seemed to be the "lease spiritual" in the youth group... maybe that was just in my mind, I don't know but... I was saying I couldn't take it much more... I prayed about(one of the few times I had ever prayed then)... I prayed about the situation.. I wouldn't say that this is the result of me praying, and my old youth pastor was so amazing, but, he became a missionary to Thailand.. and we have a new youth pastor... no, a lot of people in the "youth group" don't like me, but I don't really care about that.. their interests are not the same as mine because they came only for the fun, and not for the preaching. However, because of the pain we felt in losing our youth pastor(just that he was leaving and we had to have someone new) actually ended up bringing us together.. or at least, the ones who cared about him and were in the youth group at the time.

My point in saying all this is that God has a plan and everythign will work out for the better. My advice to you is pray about this... and defintily seek God's Word. As a teenager in a youth group, I kind of understand where you are coming from. But they key is not to give up but keep going. The Lord might want you in another youth group, I dont' know, or maybe he wants you to stay right where you are and continue spreading his love. In a youth group or a church, if someone has a problem with someone else, they either need to talk to those people(and/or the pastor), or show love to them and just spread the joy of Jesus.... I'll continue praying for you... It will all work out It may take time, but it will always work out.

And if you ever want to talk, I am on the boards just about everyday, so just drop me a pm ... Through good times and bad, stay close to the Lord.. he is the only one you can depend on becuase man fails...

With sisterly love in Christ Jesus,

Crystal

[Iryssa]

I think communication is very important in situations like this. People aren't mind readers, and they're not usually even very good face readers. Talk to the pastor about these things, talk to the leaders, talk to the other students. Very little gets resolved by internalizing it.

[darkest_red]

I know what is it like to have so many people around me talking about how great love is.. etc... Before my first boyfriend, it irriated my so much and I got sick of it. I basically kept ot myself all the time. After my first boyfriend(we jsut broke up two weeks ago becaue of religious difference), I still feel the same way.. I long to know what love is like. However, those people in your youth group probably have no idea what love is. I know that when I was iwth my boyfriend, I thoguth it was love. In all actuality, it was only my sexual desires kicking in .... the high in the clouds type feeling... They probably dont know real love but rather, have been decieved by the world's thinking as to what love truly is.. which in their mind.. is probalby sex related.

I'm glad you mentioned this! Most of the ones who are talking about being in love, I can pretty much guarantee, have never been in love and are more than likely just in love with the idea of being in love. I know plenty of people who are like this!