Upsetting what should I do?

[felix]

Hello lasere,

sister, just open yourself to the Lord and fellowship with Him. He will make things clear to you. When you set your mind on the Son and Spirit, you have life and peace. The Lord will make things right if you just let Him. It is beyond what our minds can comprehend.

[buckthesystem]

I don't have a problem paying mean people I have done so before but if someone raises their voice and is abusive to me I cannot think straight and feel threatened and have a panic attack since I have PTSD. I was not rude to them I was simply surprised that I had a completely different colour to the one I asked for and wanted to see what I or they could do (have had to work things out with hairdressers many times before as they often get it wrong but are willing to work with me to get a reasonable result),but they immiediately became agressive vocally and I had to get out of my chair . I think there has to be a place where you draw the line, people cannot walk all over you and be completely abusive and rude and expect me to smile and be polite in return, I will not condone their behaviour towards me as they made it impossible for me to be there. I was extremely clear at the beginning as to what I was wanting and if they were not capable of giving what I asked should have said so not just do any old job and expect me to not comment.

Yeah, sorry, Lasere, I guess I was the one being judgemental.

We all have to learn how to treat other people and we cannot go around yelling and screaming and grabbing them. Verbal abuse of someone is bad enough, but resorting to physical abuse is over the top.

I know how you feel really because I try to avoid places like courthouses because I tell myself that "I don't suffer fools gladly" but the truth is that I cannot handle the attitude of the employees who might be "officious" and I still register any motor vehicles by mail because I cannot handle what might be the attitude of a person who would be involved in this.

I realise of course that the other posters are right though. Every one of us is going to come up against people that we'd rather not have to deal with, but praying to God for advice on how to handle it, will help.

The phrase I had heard that says "cast your problems on the Lord" always seemed totally unrealistic to me, but I have found that it is actually true. About a year and a half ago I had so many problems with my son that I just prayed to the Lord "I just can't handle this anymore, you have a go" and virtually over night things began to improve. It was almost as if the Lord was saying "see you should have let me handle it a long time ago.

Best of luck and I hope that another hairdresser (don't even go near the original hairdresser, you'll only get "stressed out") manages to get the colour right.

[mrcorey]

I am writing this to hear what advice people have as I am upset. I went to a hairdresser and what they did was completely different to what I asked and looked terrible. It looked shocking!! I was in shock and upset but then this totally mean person that owned the salon came over to me and was verbally very rude to me. I felt very threatened by her. I couldn't stand it and walked out without paying. Is this wrong when they were so rude and abusive and weren't willing to talk to me clearly about choices I could make with my hair to get the results that I was wanting. I just had to get away from those awful people and their yelling but they came after me and I threw papers at them. But then they grabbed me and I screamed at them.

It was absolutley shocking. If people are rude and abusive to me I yell and scream I can't stand them (I would not harm them) but I yell and throw things that wouldn't cause physical harm just light things in their direction. This is me confessing

I am sorry you got gilted and had such a bad experience. However, I believe you need to pay for the haircut you got. I would write a check and put it in an envelope and mail it to them. I of course would never go back and I would tell all my friends that frequent the place about what they did to you. {Not gossip, but warning}. Pray & follow the promptings of God.

in Him;

corey