my church

[cutiepie1497]

So, my parents figure out 2.5 years later after joining our current church that they do not like it. So they went to a new church this morning and both love it, and thats great, but I am happy with my current church. The youth pastor at this new church leads worship and they love him, but that doesn't matter because they won't be dealing with him as much as the youth does. I do not want to leave my youth group, my youth pastor ,the other youth leaders, my friends. There are too many memories, too many good times, the leaders know me personally and that took awhile for me to get to know them and trust them. I cannot go through this again, at a new church. I do not like meeting new people, building new friendships, knowing the leaders on a one to one basis, etc. Its hard for me, and I am happy where I am for the most part. I do not have a say so in regards to changing churches. They have youth group on sunay night and I hate going to church on sunday night because I usually have a ton of homework. On Wednesday night they have supper and the adults have class, well what am I going to do? I would love to continue on with my current youth group on Wednesday nights but doubt that will happen. I don;t know, this is too much for me. I know all these people very well, if I didn't it wouldn't be this hard, why did they wait 2.5 years to tell us they don't like it?! I am so frustrated, angry, saddened by this whole thing. I cannot leave my youth group.

[Fr Chuck]

I am sorry this is happening, but there is most likely a reason ( perhaps bibical teaching) or some other issue that is important enough to them to make them move to a new church.

And yes we often get stuck in a rut and don't like to change, but change will be a part of your life from now on. You did not say your age but at some point you will graduate and have to move off to college or go to work, And within the work world, you will get new jobs, new positions, you will move from apartment to apartment and perhaps buy a house or two making new friends and neighbors thoughout the years.

And you will meet new friends and make friends over the years.

Of course they may allow you to keep going to a different youth groups on Wed unless there was another problem at the church they belive is best not to be around.

My son often goes to vacation bible school and even youth classes at another church ( different denomination) because we don't offer much of a youth program.

[cutiepie1497]

well as of june 3rd i am 16.5 lol, sorry couldn't resist myself. Sounds lame doesn't is 16.5? It usd to work at 12...lol. Umm, my mom, sister, and myself were pentecostal and this church is Baptist and she feels its a dead church. Nothing is being taught thats weird, it just isnt pentecostal or as lively, your lucky to clap your hands once lol. I think thats the only reason. The church they visited today was non-denominational. Maybe change isn't a bad thing, but I love the people at my current church....I hate leaving them, especially my youth pastor and his wife.

[darkest_red]

Can you get to your old church okay?? Or could you arrange to get there if necessary?

Maybe you could arrange to stay at your old church but maybe go with your parents to their new church once a month or something??

If they want to move, they must be feeling like they're not getting anything from the church anymore but if you still want to go and if you still feel like you are getting something from there, maybe you could arrange something mutually beneficial.

If not, maybe you could keep in touch with people at your old church and meet up for a coffee or whatever regularly?

Sorry if this isn't any help, it's early and I'm tired!

[shepherdsgrace]

Hi There,

At the age of 16.5 you definitely know how you feel. However as a Christian you know that you must honor your parents who are obviously Christian and are trying to follow God and want your best welfare also.

Without being demanding!! .........ask your parents to talk to you about this issue. Share your feelings and then suggest you going to both churches...at different times. This will give you time to see what is going on at the new church and also enable you to see your friends. Please do remember that in the end it is CHrist that we are wanting to please. Christ is more important than our ease. I think your attitude is what is really important. To say that you just cannot do something is truly an attitude that is only looking at self. As a Christian There is God's will involved and the commandment of honoring your parents and THEN your desire.

Let us know how it goes!

[Guest healed]

I have been to many different churches. The last two was very difficult to leave, especially the last one. I still MISS my last church very much. My parents made me leave on the two occasions. Anyway, the church I left and the church I went to are both Pentecostal and the teachings are basically the same. Yesterday, I went to church and was thinking of my old church, and then the thought came, any thing that is living usually moves and grows, so maybe it is God's way of putting me to grow in my walk in Christ. Plus I was obedient to my parents. It is hard but that is the way it is. I know exactly how you are feeling because I still feel the same way. But look forward to seeing the good that will come out of it. Everything always works out for good. He will give you the grace and strength, the same way he gave it to me.

Healed

[cutiepie1497]

I am so glad you understand where I am coming from! no one else does and its getting very old lol. I should get my license by the end of july so then I can drive myself.....I dont think they would have a problem with that. If they do then they are just being mean. I will probably go to their church on sundays and mine on wednesday for youth group.