Wedding woes

[traveller]

This advice is all good...but is there anyone out there who had to deal with the same problem?? Any more ideas for how to make everyone happy??

Talk to them - jsut sit down and have a heart to heart with them and tell them what you've told us. You can't truly know what they're thinking, so just talk to them about it. Their answers and reactions should help you to decide.

BTW - congrats!!

[Trinity]

Im not preaching do not drink, But i am simply showing you something to keep in Mind as you plan your wedding.

Romans 14:21

It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother to fall.

If serving Wine offends the other Party then BE SAFE, You know that where this is wine served it will be over used by someone, potentually causing someone to stumble.

If it where My wedding i would say no wine, because i know that those people will be very Offended, and there is no reason to Offend anyone if it can be ovoided. Besides, I've Never seen anyone at any Non-wine serving wedding that people got offended that there is no wine.

In the end, it is your decision that was just my 2 cents

[Guest richied]

romans 14 verse...

13Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother's way. 14As one who is in the Lord Jesus, I am fully convinced that no food is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for him it is unclean. 15If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died. 16Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil.

i say non alcoholic wine... why.... because its better your hubbies family not see your family as sinners its.... better that way

[sierra21]

romans 14 verse...

13Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother's way. 14As one who is in the Lord Jesus, I am fully convinced that no food is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for him it is unclean. 15If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died. 16Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil.

i say non alcoholic wine... why.... because its better your hubbies family not see your family as sinners its.... better that way

Umm i do not consider my family as "sinners" because they drink. We are a good christian family and just because we choose to have a social drink does not make us any less.

[LadyRaven]

This advice is all good...but is there anyone out there who had to deal with the same problem?? Any more ideas for how to make everyone happy??

You may not be able to m ake everyone happy, regardless of what you decide.

[LadyRaven]

romans 14 verse...

13Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother's way. 14As one who is in the Lord Jesus, I am fully convinced that no food is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for him it is unclean. 15If your brother is distressed because of what you eat, you are no longer acting in love. Do not by your eating destroy your brother for whom Christ died. 16Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil.

i say non alcoholic wine... why.... because its better your hubbies family not see your family as sinners its.... better that way

Umm i do not consider my family as "sinners" because they drink. We are a good christian family and just because we choose to have a social drink does not make us any less.

Nobody said they were, it was insinuated that the non drinking family might regard them as such simply because of the alcohol. That to me is really not a reason, because if they can't see past their judgement, then that's their problem. However, you need to decide a few things as a couple.

The weaker brother we're not supposed to offend is not someone who knows via scripture that it's ok to drink but has decided that they can't or won't. the weaker brother is either someone who doesn't know about christian liberties, or someone who is in a critical place in a recovery program. If you have either of these then youre obligated to take them into account when planning your wedding. If you don't have any of these to consider, just someone who thinks they are better christians because they don't drink or someone who has made a lifestyle choice, then really the only choice you have to make is what YOU and YOUR HUSBAND want, since you two are the ones getting married.

You also never said how you were planning on having your reception, if it was a sitdown dinner, or if it was one of those things where you mingle alot and maybe dance...these things make a difference. If you are having a sitdown meal where there is a choice of entree, the person should be able to choose leaded or unleaded wine for the toast when they rsvp. IF I were paying for this, I wouldn't pay for more than one drink anyway, the cost of getting married is about as bad as going to college...

If you are having a more mingly thing, things get more complicated. You could opt for an open pay as you go bar left off somewhere, however, the chances that someone might accidently drink too much and offend someone is greater this way.

Next time I get married, if I do, I'm doing a theme wedding (medieval or rennasissance) and I will be able to say this has to be such and such way because of the theme....

[AndrewA]

Probably a lot of worry over nothing. I know a few vegetarians and teetotallers although they are very clear and vocal about their way of life they have no problems what so ever sitting down with people who do drink or eat meat.

Talk to the family! That

[sierra21]

My fiances family has said that they do not want alcohol at the wedding. They haven't given a real reason other than the fact that they're Christain and they have chosen not to drink. I just don't understand why their choices must dictate the choices of others. I would really like to have wine and a bar, as well as offering some non-alcoholic options (punch, pop, etc.). I just wish that I wouldn't have to worry that someone will be offended and blah blah blah! I want everyone to have a great time although this seems impossible!

[LadyRaven]

My fiances family has said that they do not want alcohol at the wedding. They haven't given a real reason other than the fact that they're Christain and they have chosen not to drink. I just don't understand why their choices must dictate the choices of others. I would really like to have wine and a bar, as well as offering some non-alcoholic options (punch, pop, etc.). I just wish that I wouldn't have to worry that someone will be offended and blah blah blah! I want everyone to have a great time although this seems impossible!

You're a big girl and it's ya'lls wedding and not theirs. You decide. You might decide to have a dry wedding and you might not. Your inlaws will have to get used to the idea that you don't think it's wrong to drink alcohol once in a while. This is something you need to discuss with your fiance alone and then stick with whatever you decide.

[tah]

Can you get by for a couple of hours without a drink?

can your friends?

Do you need booze to have a good time??

I do not need it and I would especially not have it if it offended by spouses family...

for whatever reason they gave...I would not have to understand their reason but their feelings...

If you all want to get together and go drinking do it after the reception where you can just get as happy as you need to be without offending those who are opposed to such behaviour...