When God allows divorce.

[SammySmile]

Suppose the husband had a conversion (though it has happened before ) tuly sought counseling and entered a christian program for men - though they must be seperated for a while and the wife must bear the brunt of responsibilty would it still be wrong for the wife to remain married. God allows divorce under grounds of fornication but is it written that a divorce must take place or is forgiveness and reconciliation still possible. If they did divorce could they remarry again some day down the line?

First of all, it's extremely rare that this happens. Yes, it can, but it's one in a million. It's not practical (nor Biblical in my opinion) to sentence a wife to play a waiting game for a miracle to occur. Plus, in situations where there's abuse, it's dangerous. That was the reason why the Old Testament gave clear allowance for remarriage. It prevented women from being sentenced to lives of torture.

Peace.

[kittyjo]

What about under "to put away one's wife"... Is that not abandonment? Spiritual, financial, physical, emotional, etc.. Has he not abandoned the marriage vows?

My tagline is a link to my testimony... In that thread I explain my father, the man who could con the pants off of any pastor, counsellor or psychologist, this man put a loaded gun to my head several times. He told me everyday for as long as I can remember that I was worthless, unloved and unwanted, he has lived a multitude of secret lives and is a master manipulator. His abuse was intense and I have suffered greatly for it, still overcoming the many mind games and verbal abuse. Yes, God can do miracles, but I do not believe it was ever His intent for His children to live bound in hate. The morning my mother finally left, he had put a loaded gun to her head, while she pretended to sleep, in another game of Russian roulette. She spent nearly 3 decades living in turmoil, praying and waiting for him to change, I wish she would have left him long, long, long ago, so I could've grown up in peace.

[CSLewis]

In my case I have a wife who has struggled with addiction (crack) for the past 2 years. She has been through rehab acouple of times. She has also commited adultery and even sold herself. However she has found Christ (leary about this... because she has used that in the past) but I wouldn't allow her to come home without help. Now she is in a christian rehab and though I have contemplated divorce I feel ambivalent because she was an excellent person and mother before she got on the stuff and has the capacity of love.

The children are innocent victims in this but she is there mother and I think that God can save our marriage but I am not going to be a rug or her enabler any longer - so I wait and see if she is going to change and I can tell now if she is playing a game or is for real.

I am sorry for your upbringing - know that God is the father to all and he is the perfect father.

peace

[ladypeartree]

giftie if this is you or someone that you know there can only be one answer ...get outnow and stay away. Abusers very rarely change and you are responsible for your childrens health safety and happiness The bible is very clear...he committed adultery he has sestroyed the marriage divorce is not only allowed but should happen

cslewis your case is a bit different as it is the drug that has changed your wife ...you are entitled to divorce but that is your choice as you have at least made sure that the children are safe