Abuse

[Monny]

Here's the story. I woke up and I was really tired from studying all night long... So I decided I wouldn't go to school and take all 5 tests on one day. I remembered I had to pick up one of my friends today and so I called her to let her know that I wasn't going to school. When she picks up she tells me she wasn't either. Her and someone in her family got into an argument. Needless to say this is wrong. However she's no angel but the person that hit her was an adult and someone who should be responsible. They've always gone at it WITH WORDS it's never gotten to this point before. The worst part about all this is that the person that hit her is a "Christian" that spends a lot of her time worshipping praying and telling others of the word. I stayed on the phone and let her just talk. I started to say some things to her about the Devil and how he trys to steal your happiness and destroy your family. But she's heard all that before. She knows the Lord too but for some reason decides not to turn to him on continually ignores him. I don't know what to tell her. I said I was gonna go over and be there for her. But when I get there I don't know what to do.

What do I say?

I don't know I think the reason that she hasn't come to Christ is because she sees what this person does and maybe says, "What's the difference?" if that's what a Christian is then why even turn to Christ I can be like that on my own. You knwo what I mean? She's a very proud person one of those people that if you do something she'll do something back you know?

What can I do?

[tah]

Is she a child ?

were her parents disciplining her?

If it was let her parents and her work it out and ...

Pray for them all...

[Trusting Jesus]

This sounds like a unhappy situation. You have left out many important points - her age, who the adult was that hit her, was it a "spanking" or was she beaten? There is a big difference between a spanking for discipline and a beating in anger. If it is more than discipline and she is a minor, she needs to contact authorities. If she is an adult, she needs to stay away from this person.

You may not be much help to your friend if she is judging all Christians by this one person. We are all sinners saved by Grace, but we need to be careful that we represent our Saviour in the best way we can. Try to help her to understand this. Does she go to church? If not, invite her to go with you. Try to help her, too, to control herself - control her angry words and her own attitudes.

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Nathele

[Guest Biblicist]

Here's the story. I woke up and I was really tired from studying all night long... So I decided I wouldn't go to school and take all 5 tests on one day. I remembered I had to pick up one of my friends today and so I called her to let her know that I wasn't going to school. When she picks up she tells me she wasn't either. Her and someone in her family got into an argument. Needless to say this is wrong. However she's no angel but the person that hit her was an adult and someone who should be responsible. They've always gone at it WITH WORDS it's never gotten to this point before. The worst part about all this is that the person that hit her is a "Christian" that spends a lot of her time worshipping praying and telling others of the word. I stayed on the phone and let her just talk. I started to say some things to her about the Devil and how he trys to steal your happiness and destroy your family. But she's heard all that before. She knows the Lord too but for some reason decides not to turn to him on continually ignores him. I don't know what to tell her. I said I was gonna go over and be there for her. But when I get there I don't know what to do.

What do I say?

I don't know I think the reason that she hasn't come to Christ is because she sees what this person does and maybe says, "What's the difference?" if that's what a Christian is then why even turn to Christ I can be like that on my own. You knwo what I mean? She's a very proud person one of those people that if you do something she'll do something back you know?

What can I do?

From the two highlighted statements above it does not sound like she was "abused" rather it sounds like your friend is a bit spoiled and not used to submitting to authority. It is not right for you to question the person's relationship with the Savour simply because you heard one side of a story from your friend.

I agree with tah. Let her work it out with her authority figures and pray that she learns submission. If your friend truly knows the LORD, He will deal with her in these matters, as He sees fit. Do not support her rebellion against the authority in her life.

[Bubba4J]

[Richard_yaash]

Here's the story. <snip>

What do I say?

What can I do?

Hi Monny,

Sometimes it is not what you say, but what you do that makes the difference.

Simply be there for her.

[woden]

Here's the story. I woke up and I was really tired from studying all night long... So I decided I wouldn't go to school and take all 5 tests on one day. I remembered I had to pick up one of my friends today and so I called her to let her know that I wasn't going to school. When she picks up she tells me she wasn't either. Her and someone in her family got into an argument. Needless to say this is wrong. However she's no angel but the person that hit her was an adult and someone who should be responsible. They've always gone at it WITH WORDS it's never gotten to this point before. The worst part about all this is that the person that hit her is a "Christian" that spends a lot of her time worshipping praying and telling others of the word. I stayed on the phone and let her just talk. I started to say some things to her about the Devil and how he trys to steal your happiness and destroy your family. But she's heard all that before. She knows the Lord too but for some reason decides not to turn to him on continually ignores him. I don't know what to tell her. I said I was gonna go over and be there for her. But when I get there I don't know what to do.

What do I say?

I don't know I think the reason that she hasn't come to Christ is because she sees what this person does and maybe says, "What's the difference?" if that's what a Christian is then why even turn to Christ I can be like that on my own. You knwo what I mean? She's a very proud person one of those people that if you do something she'll do something back you know?

What can I do?

If it happens again you must tell someone. If it was a one off, let it go for now. However get together sometime and go out for a walk, a meal or somewhere and talk. Be open and honest. It seems she will open up to you. She may let you into her world where others are shut out. If she reveals a history of abuse, either verbal or physical then that is a whole new ball game. Such a thing is not acceptable for any Christian. Someone needs help before it gets worse. The most important thing is confidentiality. It needs to be heard by only those who need to know. That could be a senior person in your faith who you trust without exception. She needs Spiritual help and guidance even if she has heard it all before. This may be a one-off, and if so then all will benefit with Spiritual healing from the Scriptures. All the best.

[AndrewA]

Your profile says you are 16 years old, I therefore assume the young lady in question is also 16. Here is my advice to you as a parent to a 19 and 12 year old.

First do not post allegations, even if they are indirect, regarding people who are unable to defend themselves or have given permission for you to do so. You rightly point out how Satan is out to destroy families. Satan had a good go at my family and I have seen first hand how a false lie or allegation can destroy and harm.

How do you know she was actually hit? I had lies told about me which ended up with a police investigation, thanks be to God it was over within a day , but even so, there are plenty of families who have been destroyed through the lies of a family member.

If she was hit then again what was it a hard slap? At 16 you should know better and have actually learnt what is correct behaviour so that physical punishment is not at all needed. However you also mention how she