How do I get out of this rut?

[darkest_red]

Ok.. for the past 8 months or so, I've been at a college i hate, doing a course i dont really want to do and at a job where i feel worthless and like no matter what i do in it, i will always just be 'that girl that sits in the corner' and nothing more. I'm not asking for big things, i just want to gain a little recognition for the work that i do and feel that i am actually being noticed.

I've been looking for a new job for a while but there is nothing available where i live which i am qualified for (it would appear that no one wants an office monkey at the moment) and i cant leave college until i have a job.

The majority of my friends/family think i am happy at college (which im not) and at work (the truth being i like the job i just dont like feeling as if i could not bother turning up and they wouldnt notice) and i find it quite hard to talk to them about this for various reasons.

At the moment i wake up every morning dreading going in to work/college and come home every evening grateful that another day is over but dreading having to go back the next day and it is really bringing me down. I feel like i'm trapped and there is nothing i can do about it.

I've prayed a lot but it doesnt seem to be getting me anywhere.

[Ovedya]

How many times have you changed your major?

Seriously, I don't know how much I can help you, but I think I can at least give you some idea of how to get out of your rut. You know what the simplest way to touch the Lord is? Just call on His name!

If you wanted to get my attention from across a crowded room, you would have to call my name out out. You would call and I would come. The Lor dis the same way. We don't need formalized prayers so many times. Most times we just need to contact the Lord from our innemost being. Just by calling on the Lord's name, we can contact Him, and get Him. We can call on Him in the car, at home, in the shower, at lunchtime, during breaks in our day - anytime at all. We can call on Him out loud, or we can call Him in quiet, we can even call on the Lord in our being without saying anything. This is setting our mind on the Lord rather than on the worries of our day. The most essential thing in our life is to contact the Lord. Calling on Him is the most simple way to contact Him. We can call, "Jesus" or we can call "Lord Jesus." It doesn't matter, just as long as we contact Him.

The Lord knows what troubles us. He knows what is deep in our heart. He wants us to turn to Him in everything. Whether we are happy, sad, heavily burdened, or light of burden, He wants us to just contact Him. When we contact the Lord He gives us peace and rest, He gives us joy and happiness.

There are other ways to get out of your rut. You can change majors a hundred times. You can ask your boss for more stimulating work. You can do all sorts of things to occupy your mind, and to occupy yout rime. But ulimately all these things will fail. You will find yourself back in another rut. But contacting the Lord can make everything fresh and new, because the Lord is ever new. He is always fresh and new! Why not try just calling on Him when you get into your rut. I think you will find that regular contact of the Lord Jesus during your day - spending time with the Lord - will help to make your situation very light.

[serotta]

A.W. Tozer had a good quote in my devotional today:

The truth is that God always answers the prayer that accords with His will as revealed in the Scriptures, provided the one who prays is obedient and trustful

What precisely are you praying for? Are you listening for all possible answers? Are you resisting something? Not trying to make you feel worse, just trying to help you discern how to move forward.

No matter what, God wants you to be filled with His joy, so He definitely has something in mind for you.

[cymba22]

Who says you have to go to collage to get a Job?????

you could always get a low paid job and work your way up to managment

or join the military(at least you wont be bored enough to have time to ponder on wether you like it or not)

[Guest LadyC]

i may get severely criticized for this... but i have two teenagers and secretly hope they never go to college! colleges now are so full of anti-christian, extreme-left philosophy that i am afraid my kids will be brainwashed in such an environment.

my oldest does intend to go to college, after she finishes her time in the Marine Corp. i just hope that the military will instill her with the core values that she rejected at home so that she'll withstand the onslaught of moral and integral deviancy that is encouraged at colleges.

[Neil]

Have you considered going for a job and pursuing your studies via distance learning or nightclass in your own time? You can start it when you have decided what you want to do.

Have you considered taking a year out to "broaden your experience"?

What about vocational training?

Some of my friends have done this and it has worked well for them.

If you do not like the career path you are on, you are better to change sooner than later as the longer you leave it, the harder it will be. Do not fool yourself into thinking you will get used to it, as you never will.

I've been in that situation myself, in a job that I hated, but you just have to keep at it (after all, you still need to be able to pay the bills) and always keep looking for a new job. I used to keep a payslip in my wallet then which I would use to remind myself why I was there. Keep looking long enough and you will find something better.

[Russell07]

:il: :il:

Like God-Man said; Have you ever thought about changing your major on something that you would like to do more? Obviously, you dont like the career you have choosen, so, maybe pick one that is more "you"

God Bless you now and in the future!

Love,

Russell

[darkest_red]

Ok... all good suggestions but i cant change the course because i really have no idea what i would do if i wasnt doing this and i have been praying for months and really getting nowhere and this is seriously bringing me down.

Plus, of course, my CV would look really bad if i'd attended 3 colleges and only been at my last 2 for only 7 months (ish) each.

To be honest, what ive said so far barely scratches the surface but i really dont want to get into details because a lot of it is pretty complicated.

[Neil]

OK, so if you are going to stick at our course, it doesn't necessarily mean you have to do that as a job afterwards.

It is as much evidence of your ability and you can always change career later.

[Guest LCPGUY]

I vote for the vocational or technical training if that interests you. The military is also an excellent suggestion as you will have access to a ton of advanced training, benefits, etc. The military will also help in building character, maturity and integrity.

And keep praying for guidance, strength and peace.

Good luck sis,

John