Give it to me straight

[Guest prov31woman]

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Edited June 11, 2004 by prov31woman

[cymba22]

You make me sound so lacking

as for your problem....i think theres a filter thing you can get on your computer...you put his address on it and you cannot get in...i cannot remember the name of hand but give me an hour or 2 and i'll get back to you with it ok....other than that i think you've done the right thing involving your husband in this and praying about it....i think the more prayers you get for this the better as i personally think this is a satanic attack i feel i am correct in saying this is not your normal behaviour...you have obviously looked into the consiquences should you take things further and you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders....but next time your tempted....if you dont get the filter for the computer....remind yourself to think....would it be worth what you will lose?????

sorry i cannot be much more help....praying for you

[cymba22]

Here you go:-

http://www.watchguard.com/products/webblock.asp

get your hubby to put a password in so you cannot access whatever the address is...and get him to do the phone as well...the phone companies usually have somesort of system whereby yu can stop calls going to a number...like a childlock thing(hope you understand that :hug:

[Rerun]

We are all challenged with these feeling.. our cases may not be the same...but be assured we all struggle with it.

But you've got to understand these feelings probably will not be removed, unless prayer is made to remove them... even then it may take time.

[Guest prov31woman]

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[Guest prov31woman]

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Edited June 11, 2004 by prov31woman

[cymba22]

I think i can see what youve missed...re-read this part of your post again:-

I "do" all the right things

your doing the right things...but are you doing them with your heart or because you feel you have to....hope you can see the differance...but the most striking thing to me is....your doing something else....your trying so hard to be prefect...but theres part of you that doesn't want to be...why i do not know.....but when he gives you his new address...wipe it of...you have to force yourself(oh BTW i didn't mean to come accross as critical just...it was just an idea from what you've said)...by your computer or even on the corner of it....put a pick of your hubby and kids...

but there is such a thing as trying too hard ...now that doesn't mean give into temptations.....satan knows this is your week spot and its like an addiction....you have to either cold turkey or wean yourself of....either way it wont happen overnight.

I'm sorry if i haven't been much help to you....but going from your first post i think you could get him out of your life if you wanted to.....try to find out why you dont want to....and it might put things into percpective for you....

i really hope at least some of what i said helps

YSIC linda

[kittyjo]

Hi Prov31woman,

For what it is worth, here is what I got from your post...

This other man was there for you in a great time of need, he was a true friend... Is it possible that you put him in ranks with a hero type or in the league of 'your Knight in shinning Armor'? Do you think it is possible that you have over romanticized that time in your life and that is what is sparking your interest in the 'what could've beens'. Are you sure you are being drawn to him or to the unkown world of 'what ifs'?

When we question things, we are guided by God to His word... He is a God of WHAT IS... not WHAT IFS! And [your 'what-is'] what you have in your life, hubby, kids, etc. is sooo special, [much better than any 'what-ifs'] you are a very blessed person!

Another thing comes to mind is, what is this guy's motive for continuing this temptation? He doesn't sound like such a great guy, what are his intentions? I could understand old friends making contact and catching up, but not without the participation of the spouses and families... The secrets are wrong, but you know that already.

Quit fooling yourself with silly electronic devices to curb your curiousity about this man... Just end it! Tell him the truth and tell him bluntly that you need to end this NOW! No ifs, and or buts about it! Here's a psycho-babble word... Closure. Thank him for the help he gave you years ago, it was a stepping stone to your current wonderful life... but that is all it was. Tell him that you love your husband, your children and you are honoring your vows by saying good-bye.

Don't be lured by the 'what ifs', live for the 'what is'.

Am I rambling, does that make any sense? I hope so.

[Guest prov31woman]

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[traveller]

prov - you want it straight - ok. You're messing with true fire here. For one thing, will your hubby always be patient and forgiving? Is this worth losing him over? How about losing your children? Is it worth that? You are dwelling on sin here. Personally, I think you don't think you will have to pay the consequence. For every action we have a consequence to pay, even if we are forgiven. Now, for the most important issue: You are sinning against God. On purpose. You say you want to end it with him, but you don't really want to or you would. If you feel bad about it it is because of the conviction of the Holy Spirit. Yet, each time you go back to flirting with this man you are quenching the Holy Spirit. How long until you no longer feel the conviction?

I am so sorry to be so harsh, but you yourself know this is wrong. You risk losing all that is important to you. For what? Maybe you need to just get angry at sin. You've prostrated yourself, been on your knees, maybe you need to get mad. Or sell your computer. If you really want to lose contact with this guy, you can. Stop dwelling on the past and ask God to heal your old wounds.

Ok - I'm very seldom harsh to anyone and if I offended you, well, you know i'm right. Now, all that said - let's pray.

Heavenly Father, I ask that you heal my sister. I ask that you cleanse her heart and shelter her Lord. Father, you know her pain and her wounds. You know what she needs in her life. Please, bring her to a place where she can have the strength to turn away from this man Father. Equip her to repent of this and to walk away from it. Replace the memory of this man with peace Father. Strengthen her resolve, and grow her trust in You Father. Repair this marriage I pray. Father, heal her husband of his hurts and may they begin to trust one another again. May they be a solid family unit that loves and cherishes one another. Protect her from the enemy and deliver her from temptation. Open her eyes to her escape Lord. For you said that we would not be tempted beyond that which we can bear. That you will provide a way to flee it. Thank you for your faithfulness to your children Father. Thank you for your patience and lovingkindness. Thank you for your guidance. I ask these things in the name of Jesus. amen