Give it to me straight

[Guest kitkat]

What I see is that Satan is trying to use this man to break up your marraige. I think kittyjo was right about your perception of this man as being a knight in shining armor to you.

We are all tempted by the opposite sex at times, especially people we've known or been close to and bonded with in some manner in the past.

Since your feelings for this man are so strong and you have to secretly email him, to only suffer guilt from it, then I would say run from that as fast as you can before you get yourself in too deep.

My husband and I have mutual friends and some of them are guys and some are gals. Some of the guys are flirts and I do occasionally correspond in emails with them with my husband's blessings, but only as an acquaintance and friend and I always tell my husband, he reads the emails and of course, I have no feelings for them whatsoever like I do my hubby, only as friends.

I think as long as you have this man in your heart like you do, that some of the blessings of God may be withheld from your marraige and your life as long you continue to have anything to do with this guy.

If the temptation is SO strong that you simply cannot keep from contacting this guy and he always somehow locates you, it would be better for you to throw your computer in the trash than to continue on like this. Like the Bible says, if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off.

I know what you're struggling with here. I understand totally what you're going through, BUT continuing on like this can't possibly have a good ending and you can bet Satan is involved in keeping this man interested in contacting you.

If you have a good marraige and you love your husband and family, cut this guy off, no matter what you have to do. Good husband's aren't easy to find these days.

It is good that your prayer life is what it is and that you're reading the Bible like you are. I think you're on the right track. Still, praying and reading your Bible everyday cannot justify what you have in your heart for this man. I'd say get out of it ASAP, RUN from it if you have to.

God Bless,

Kat

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[refugepsa91]

I have never felt like I am good enough. All my faults just glare in my face and I have a hard time seeing myself in the light of being clothed in Christ's righteousness.

Courtney

Courtney,

Theres another problem you have to get over k?...STOP trying to see yourself through your OWN eyes...see yourself through your husbands eyes...and through your childrens eyes. Try to just imagine the love you have for your children is the same love Jesus has for you. If we try to see ourselves through our own eyes we will always be lacking...always. We need to see ourselves through our loved ones eyes and it opens up a whole new perspective...they love you...think of hurting them...how would that feel? Not real good would it...well that is exactely what you will be doing if you go through with anything or keep contacting this man (whom I see as a lecher if he knows you married with kids).

Traveller hit the nail on the head...pray, pray, pray and then some more...stop all contact immediatly!!! It will be the biggest regret of your life if you follow through with this anymore...sounds like you have already been at rock bottom...do you really want to go there again?

Now heres a :hug: cuz we love you :il:

Love and Blessings,

Angel

[tsth]

Oh dear! I do hope you HEARD what Traveller said to you.

She most certainly told you the TRUTH!!!..........in LOVE.

In His Love,

Suzanne

[Guest prov31woman]

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Edited June 11, 2004 by prov31woman

[cymba22]

courtney......stop being so hard on yourself and judging yourself....but most of allSTOP BLAIMING YOURSELF for the abuse......it wasn't your fault....you did NOT do anything wrong....deep down you are very angry and youve worked so hard at shoving it into a deep corner somewhere......and its resurfacing as affection for another....do yourself a huge favour....go into a room with loads of stuff.....that you can throw....as painful as it will be...try to remember...get mad...real mad....let the anger out.....and then you can forgive.....but you haven't moved on from the abuse and while you can speak about it...you've never had chance to actually deal with it......

linda :hug: :hug: :hug:

[refugepsa91]

:il: Courtney,

The next time this other man contacts you maybe your husband should contact him back....its great your trying to bring a good word to this man, but maybe the better idea is to have your husband correspond with him if he contacts you again.

You sound like a wonderful person girl....and your husband loves you very much...cymba is right you sound too hard on yourself. Work on that.

Love and Blessings,

Angel