Kari

First of all, I have to agree that NO MAN IS WORTH EVEN THINKING OF ENDING YOUR LIFE OVER! Being single and 40 is not the story I would have wrote for my life. Hopefully, God does bring my future husband into my life. Rejection hurts deeply. I wish I could tell you I have never experienced a breakup but I have and each time I get down on myself and question will I never find the right guy. Please email me anytime and talk to God, he does care. Welcome to worthy and come here as often as you need for support

I hope you will feel more hopeful. I think you have got some good advice but I hope you felt validated and understood. Most importantly I hope you cling to God's promises when things seem dark or overwhelming.

I joined Worthy in December and although you posted this 2 years ago, I thought I should respond. Hope you feel God's presence strongly in your life now

Psalm 130:4 But with you there is forgiveness, so that we can, with reverence, serve you. Acts 13:38 “Therefore, my friends, I want you to know that through Jesus the forgiveness of sins is proclaimed to you. Ephesians 1:7 In him we have redemption through his blood, theforgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace Romans 7:25 Thanks be to God, who delivers me through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.

Although it has been a little over a month since you wrote this, I applaud you for reaching out on this matter. Afterall, your salvation is of the utmost importance. I do agree with Omegaman 3.0 that as Christians we are supposed to put God first. I know how hard this can be from personal experience as we are human and the desires of our flesh are very strong. I hope that God will bless you with a Christian woman to share your life with if that is his will.

Hi Firestone, Sorry that you sound discouraged. There is good news, maybe the holy spirit lead you here so that you could experience God's love through the fellowship, guidance, and support from strong Christians John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. God so loved

Hope that God will heal you completely Remember nothing is impossible with God! I will be praying for you!

Hi. I know it has been a couple months since this post but please read this with an open mind. First of all, I can only imagine how difficult it was for this woman to share something so private. God is love and therefore I am choosing to respond with love. Second, I respect how devastating it can be to realize you are infertile and I can understand how she may be feeling desperate. Third, the donor egg and the natural conception are not the only options. Does she want to be a parent? I wonder what she thinks about adoption. This is something that she should pray about with her husband. I will be praying for her and hoping that she feels God's richest blessings. Nothing is impossible with God

Hi. I realize that it has been a few weeks since you originally posted this and I do hope things are starting to get resolved. I would encourage you to DEFINITELY let your husband know how concerned you are and KEEP PRAYING

Little Lamb Seat Ivy, I did not have sex with him. I kissed him and yes we engaged in some petting. I made a mistake by moving in with him BUT HE KNEW MY STANDARDS BEFORE HE ASKED ME!!!!

Note: I, Omegaman 3.0, moved this thread from the seekers area, to the more appropriate advice aread. Kari does not seem to be participating anyway, and it can be read in the advice area, just as easily. Kari Posted: There is something that happened to me a couple months ago and I believe that I need closure. Last year about this time exactly I met someone online. I was crystal clear about what I value in a relationship who I was looking for, and what my boundaries were(I told him that I had made a decision not to have sex again until I was married. We meet in person and of course he seems very nice. He actually seemed very relieved that I didn't want to have sex outside of marriage. I was very open and honest with him about my past relationships, where I have lived, and my job. I'll admit I am a hopeless romantic but this does not mean I deserve what I got. He seemed so happy when we met and I realize this might sound like a lifetime movie but there was a passion in his eyes that made me believe he was glad he found me. (I understand that there is an excitement when you first meet someone that does diminish over time). Well no surprise he is texting and calling me. Couldn't wait to see me again and 2 months in to the relationship he is wanting to spend entire weekends with me. He confided in me that he had been married three times and two of his divorces were bitter. I won't get into details but I did not want to write him off just because he had bad luck with women. Of course, he knew his last 2 wives not even a month before he married them. Perhaps this should have made me think a little more. He was a gentleman because he waited to kiss me until we had been seeing each other about a month and a half. So the first time he asked to me to stay over I reminded him that I would not even entertain the idea of sex unless we were married. He said that I would sleep in his bed and he slept on the couch. About three months into the relationship he admits he had looked at porn, naturally upset I told him I would not tolerate that. He promised he would never do it again and insisted he did not want to lose me. Shortly thereafter, he started saying he wanted me to move in with him. My first instinct said NO! I wish I would have listened. I moved in 2 months later after we discussed that I did not want to have sex again until marriage and I did not want him to feel rejected. He had hinted at marriage before I moved in with him! When I first moved in he was very happy! Then about a month later that started to dwindle. He was becoming more and more frustrated when we would make out and I would want to stop before it went too far. I was good to him, believe me I am not perfect but I treated him well all things considered. We slept in the same bed but never had sex- I know it may be hard to believe. He was upset when I wanted to sleep in different rooms although I explained that I was not rejecting him and as Christians I wanted God to bless us and not give the devil a foothold. He had been saying when we get married.... (correcting me when I would say if we get married). A good friend of his told me he loved me very much. He showed me a text from another friend that stated "She's a keeper". No wonder I thought he might actually think I was worthy of him. About 2 weeks before the event that changed everything I sensed him pulling away and I didn't talk to him about it out of fear that I would appear insecure or even worse a drama queen. You have no idea how much I regret that. He remains good friends with one of his ex's relatives. He gets a phone call one day that his ex wife's step cousin was having trouble with her boyfriend and I thought that was too bad but never would have expected how much it would impact my life. The next week he finds out her boyfriend has dumped her and she has no place for her dogs. We drive to rescue her dogs while she figured out would she stay with a friend or her parents. A week later she is coming to live with us, he seems a little concerned. Well she arrives and he starts acting like a jerk, suddenly my boyfriend of 7 and a half months was showing me a side of himself that I didn't like. He sorta ignored me and I felt something was not quite right although he swore up and down that they had never been more than friends. Once again, I don't talk to him for the same reason I had all along. She leaves briefly and things seem better and then one morning he tells me he has to break up with me because he can bring himself to marry anyone and because that is what I want eventually our relationship is doomed. Was he wrong for even contacting me to start a relationship when he most likely knew all along he did not want to get married? People close to me have said that the main reason he asked me to move in was because he was hoping I would give in.

Thanks everyone for your responses I think it is worthwhile to have a serious but respectful discussion about this!

Good for your daughter. She saved the most powerful god-given gift she had!!! I sure wish I had, but I didn't. I started this topic to support people who have made the decision to wait until marriage to have sex as well as those who have had premarital sex in the past but have made an after the fact vow to not give in again until marriage. Our society seems to glorify sex and christians are vulnerable

Our society does not give sex the right level of importance. Not having sex outside of marriage seems so counter cultural and foreign. I am so dissapointed that people, some who even call themselves christians reject people who decide to keep sex solely for marriage.