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I guess that's true..... Really, our rules are about two things: 1. loving God 2. loving others And instructions on how to do that

I will also add - If you help someone and they misuse that help, that's entirely on their conscience for taking advantage of your kindness.

That's rough. If she's lying to you, I'd cut her off. I've had to cut people off before who wouldn't stop asking me for money..... once in a while? Sure. Every single day? No. I had to actually drop a friend entirely cuz she wouldn't stop asking for money and it was getting suspicious. It is hard though. I've been on both sides of this equation. At one point I had a spending addiction and had to keep borrowing money because I'd have spent my entire paycheck on fast food two days after payday. Understandably, people got tired of my begging and stopped helping me. Honestly, that was the best thing for me.... I needed to hit rock bottom in order to get motivated to defeat the addiction.

I've never attempted, but have been suicidal to some degree or another for many years. I moreso felt like a coward for being scared to actually face death tbh. It's an extremely difficult situation to be in and those who are in so much pain that they want to die deserve compassion rather than browbeating. It's really just wanting the pain to end, and seeing no other way for that to happen.

I see it as therapists simply discovering that the Bible is correct about forgiveness being good for you.

Forgiveness doesn't necessarily mean you have to let that person back into your life if they are abusive or toxic

Apparently only Christian songs are allowed to be shared here, so I will stick to only sharing those This song is very clearly written with faith in mind, even if not explicitly stated. The artist (Owl City) is a Christian, and has sung hymns and stuff as well. I love the lyrics "It's another werewolf All dressed up in sheep's wool And changing when the moon is full Will You show me the way?"

So the topic came up over on the Twitter about how expensive baby formula is and how people should just "look the other way" if they see theft of it happening cuz the fact that a baby is getting fed is more important than a stores profit. I work at a grocery store. I think it's awful how overpriced formula is. And it's even more expensive if it's a special diet formula, such as a hypoallergenic variety. But in my comment I did also say that I can't condone stealing. And now people are jumping all over me, lol. I just believe stealing is never right, and as my dad always taught me..... It's never right to do wrong to do right. If I did see someone stealing formula, I would probably offer to pay for it myself if I happened to have the funds at the time. But that's me. ...... Thoughts?

If fiction is "unwise" because it doesn't directly correlate to faith, then let's hope you don't play chess, checkers, board games, go to zoos, or enjoy anything at all that isn't directly connected to glorifying God...... gosh, that would be a miserable life. What I do understand is a caution not to let such things rule over our lives and become idols. Anything can. And enjoying things vs letting them become an idol can sometimes be a thin line. I know I've been guilty of it more than once in my life.

Ok, I have to go to work like in 10 minutes, so I'll make this post as quick as I can. Fiction is my life. I'm always diving into some kind of fictional story. I watch anime, I used to read a lot as a kid, I play video games......I even do roleplay of my favorite characters online. I guess in one sense it's a way to pass the time, but I just....connect well with fictional characters and worlds. Fiction lets you do and explore things you could never in real life. And we tend to respond to fictional characters as if they are actual people, we can even admire them in the same way we might admire actual people. Some even develop crushes on fictional characters. I also find that allegories are a good way for me to connect to God and Biblical truths. At least, that was the case in my teens. Reading an allegorical series (I forget the name, but it had to do with knights) helped to jumpstart my relationship with God and helped me to develop a closer relationship with Him. I read, watch, and play fiction. I've lived thousands of lives.

Here's a site if you want to know more: https://idpwd.org/ I figured I'd make this thread for disabled people and those who love someone with a disability to talk about their challenges and life. If you want to. Though I have mental illness, I don't consider myself disabled as I'm still able to work and do things I need to do. I had a stepdad who was, though. In 2001, we were on a family vacation and he began having a hard time walking. One night he couldn't get out of the van, and we had to call an ambulance. A disease had settled in his spine, and he became paralyzed from the waist down. He was also bedridden, which, turns out you need to be able to move around because your body isn't designed to lay in one place all the time. So being bedridden led to other complications and the development of other chronic illnesses. My stepdad spent, I think, the first two or so years of being disabled in the hospital up north near where we had been vacationing, and was eventually flown back down to where we live to stay at the local hospital. We eventually made room for him at home, set him up a space with a hospital bed and a computer so he could play video games to pass the time. He was still in and out of the hospital on an at least yearly basis, if not every few months. We had just over 10 years with my stepdad before he finally ended up in the ICU with many many complications and we made the decision to pull life support because living on a breathing machine is no life to have and he didn't want that either. Disability can happen to anyone at any age. The years we did have with my stepdad were good ones, and he had the chance to be a parent. My stepdad was very smart and practical and I learned so very much from him. I was 19 when he passed.

I actually meant to say something about this in my previous post! Yeah, I like it when they do that.

Yes, chronic mental illness is tiring to live with. :/

I like music with deep lyrics. Relient K is one of my favorite artists not just for their past punk style, but they also have some very clever lyrics. And they talk about some deep topics. But sometimes I do just like the sound of certain songs--otherwise I wouldn't be listening to Japanese music.

I tend to prefer the more personal style, I think. One thing my church does that I like, is we have sheets with fill-in-the-blank options. During the sermon, we get to fill in the blanks. For me, at least, that makes it easier to focus. Otherwise my attention wanders a lot and then I can't tell you what the sermon was about. I also have to use fidget toys to stay still, otherwise I just wiggle around a lot and pick at my hair and nails to a problematic degree. That might be a little off topic, though..... I've been in sermons where something the pastor said, I just knew God intended for me. One time, at a youth Bible study (I was still under 20 at the time), the speaker pointed at a few people in the crowd and said "God forgives you". I was one of the people he pointed at, and while it definitely wasn't intentional on the speaker's part.....it was exactly what I needed to hear at the time, and I just got this sense from the Holy Spirit that it was meant for me.

I grew up in a very strict home with music. My church also only did hymns--or "Southern Gospel", on occasion. We had some Southern gospel musicians come and basically have a concert at church, once in a great while. My mother was staunchly against modern music in general. She pushed classical music very much, and had us learn about the different composers. I don't think classical music is bad, but....a lot of it just isn't for me. (Though I do enjoy piano music.) It doesn't grip my attention. As a result, I didn't have that much of a relationship with music--outside of taking piano lessons for five years--until I was 17 or 18. That's when I began to listen to Christian contemporary music and such, and I discovered bands like Casting Crowns and others that typically play on the Christian radio.....then I began to discover ones like Skillet and Red. I'm fond of hard rock and had a bit of a metal phase. But I like most styles of music. I listen to secular music fairly often, too.....much of it, these days, is from anime, or it's Vocaloid songs. I still like Casting Crowns. Their theology seems solid. Disciple, too, has solid theology, and their songs are pretty rich with scripture. They go much harder than Casting Crowns though, lol.

I haven't been truly suicidal in a decade. I used to cry every night and pray to God that I wanted to die, I didn't want to live like this anymore, but I didn't see any other way out but death. However, my mind dipped into suicidal ideation territory again as recent as June of this year. It wasn't to the point that I truly longed for death, as in years past.....but I felt like no one cared about me and no one would miss me except for my mother and my job, and my friends just tolerate me but all I do is make them uncomfortable.....so why not just die. It was a temporary mindset, and I felt better after a few weeks. But it was scary how fast and apparently easily my mind went back to that place.

Hi. As someone who is mentally ill and has been suicidal before, here's what I have to say. Ask your friend if she has a plan. Be upfront. You can be suicidal and not necessarily be in danger of carrying it out. People will not be baker acted (forced into a mental hospital) unless they have made a plan and are in danger of carrying it out. Second. Be sure to check in often. Let her know that you want her around and value her--actions speak louder than words. Third. If she suddenly seems much happier, that's a warning sign that she may have made plans to kill herself very soon.

I have had a lot of ups and downs this year, some periods of depressive episodes and anxiety spikes. But right now I am doing alright. Lately, the past couple months, I am dealing with some very vague, generalized anxiety that usually comes on at work and sometimes at home or other places. My NP (the one who prescribes my meds and monitors my mental health on a monthly basis) thinks it's my diabetes causing it. I'll also ask my main dr about it when I see him in December.

Yup.

I used to be a right wing libertarian. Libertarianism is sometimes described as "socially left, fiscally right". For instance, a libertarian would support the legalization of things like gay marriage, regardless of whether or not they personally approve of it. I was libertarian, socially left, for years--now I am also fiscally left, meaning I tend to agree more with the economics and fiscal decisions of the left than I do of the right. I had something else to add, but my brother just threw something at me and made me lose whatever I had been typing and now I've forgotten what my addition was going to be. Edit: now I remember So, I learned that I'm left leaning from taking a well done political test. It said that I'm a centrist, but that my ideas lean a bit more to the left than they do to the right. Basically, I agree a little bit more with the left than I do with the right, though I still have ties in that direction.

Then don't talk like you know what we're about, when you clearly don't.

If you're unwilling to actually learn what the other side has to say, then you cannot be intellectually honest and give commentary on what their goals are. You also cannot possibly know what the issues are, be informed on them unless you're familiar with the ideology of both major sides.

That's not what this is about. I just think that you're not giving a fair assessment of the other side and what they actually want. Maybe left politicians want power, but that's politicians in general. I don't think your average everyday person is the same. For the record I'm far more inclined to vote independent than democrat. I think both main parties are corrupt beyond repair.