Crying

[Guest kitkat]

I have a question. I hardly ever cry, but when I do, it's usually because something has upset me pretty bad. I spent several hours crying lastnight and I can't remember the last time I cried prior to that, because it's been a while.

If you have read the prayer request section, you'll know that I posted a prayer request there lastnight and I indicated that I had been crying for quite a while in my post and was still crying.

The prayers said for me in that part of the forum are deeply appreciated and you all are very sensitive and understanding to the needs I presented there.

Regarding what I posted, I felt that my need was very urgent and so I called my sister to have her pray with me, because she's a prayer warrior and has prayed with me several times in the past on the phone, but when I'm on the phone with her and I'm crying about what is going on in my life, she always gets on to me for crying. My response to her was, "I can't help it, that's my reaction to what is happening right now." So I felt like I had to turn off the waterworks to talk to her. This isn't the first time she has gotten upset with me or someone else about crying for whatever the reason might be, such as when my mother would contact her crying about feeling bad, etc.

Is is ok to cry? Didn't God make it possible for us to cry when we needed to, so that we could cleanse our souls? I'm mostly referring to women here regarding this, because women have more of a tendency to cry when our emotions run high then men do, but I think it could also pertain to men as well.

What do you think? Are we showing ourselves to be weak when we cry?

I will not be able to follow this thread right now, but I will be able to check it later on tonight.

Thanks for any and all comments and opinions here.

May God bless you,

Kat

:hug:

[Anonymous]

No it isn't (a sign of weakness). If it is, I don't know what to do, for sometimes I have no other release.

... Sorry.

[rockswillcryout]

It is absolutely okay to cry!

Jesus did.

Is it a sign of weakness? Maybe - but what's so bad about being weak?

That is why, for Christ's sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong. -2 Corinthians 12:10

[Botz]

When my father lay dying and my tears splashed on his arm,he looked at me and said 'there's great strength in tears.'

[Guest LadyC]

AMEN botz! that's what i was about to say.... tears are NOT a sign of weakness, they're a sign of STRENGTH!

when rana was a little girl, i used to marvel at her ability to let things roll right off her. nothing seemed to bother her. she never cried.

as she grew older, i saw what a bitter young woman she became, and i realized that nothing ever rolled off her like i thought, she just bottled it up and internalized it. her inability to cry, IMO, is the reason why she turned away from God, turned away from family, and turned to the occult, and sex, and hanging out with the wrong crowd. she was so afraid to be hurt that she built a wall around her, and began to self destruct.

there is healing in tears. and while i'm at it, let me say that God gave us, especially women, the ability to be compassionate beyond measure because we're able to heal through the expression of our sorrows.

[BobTriez]

Crying gets a bad rap....but fact is ? It's a God given emotion....and it is beneficial ( releases some endorphines & dopamine or something in your brain; helps you deal with a stressful situation better ).

I've cryed before...Some might call me a "girly-man", but that's ok.....as someone else pointed out above, Jesus cried....and if it's ok for Him, it's good enough for me!

Don't ever be ashamed of crying....something would be wrong if you didn't cry....

God bless,

Bob

[Guest LCPGUY]

Absolutely nothing wrong with crying, for either men or women. I know I cry, and several of the Saints here on Worthy know that because I

[Guest jkfaith1210]

I heard the reasons you cry are as follows.

1. You are very happy.

2. Your cold heart is melting through the love and the healing power of God.

If any of you guys know more reason, please let me know.

Edited July 23, 2004 by jkfaith1210

[Guest Rootabagga]

Amen to all the previous posts and I agree. I know that growing up crying was seen as a weakness in my family. We were taught in a round about way not to cry and to "buck it up". Now today at 32 yrs old, I have a very hard time crying. I can count how many times I have cryed, 3 times, in the last 15 yrs. Those times were very emotional and stressful, the birth and downswing of my first child when she wasn't expected to live after only being 4 days old, the realization that my children were still being mistreated by my ex- husband and there was nothing I could do about it, and the last time was 3 yrs ago when I finally "crashed" after my father died. I do not see crying as a weakness now but I can look back and see what those thoughts do to a person. It causes someone to build a wall up sooo high and so strong that even when you get to a point that it is "ok" to cry, you can't. Just keep in mind that if Jesus did it, then why can't we? "Jesus wept" the shortest verse in the Bible but also the most powerful one.

[Guest LCPGUY]

I heard the reasons you cry are as follows.

1. You are very happy.

2. Your cold heart is melting through the love and the healing power of God.

If any of you guys know more reason, please let me know.

Welcome to Worthy JKFAITH!!!

Bro John