Crying

[Shelby]

In a argument I was having with my husband a couple weeks ago he told me I was out of control, because I was crying. I said "just because you are uncomfortable with me showing my emtions doesn't mean I am out of control, it means I feel my feelings and know myself enough to be able to express myself. I am able to hold back when it would be weird, but with my husband I never expected to be that way. I was rasied with crying being bad. I can't tell you how many times I heard, "quit crying, or I'll give you something to cry about". For most of my childhood until I was about 20 I was invincible I thought. No one could make me cry at home. I would hold it in and get so mad. But now I understand that anger only comes from pain, so I feel my feelings now, and I deal with them immediatlely so as to not hold them in. My husband is now just understanding that it is not control that I need, it is more tolerance for my way of dealing with issues.

(Unfortunately now since I learned this gift of feeling, I am a very empathetic person. I cry for commercials!)

[Orr v'emet]

(Unfortunately now since I learned this gift of feeling, I am a very empathetic person. I cry for commercials!)

Interesting you make this statement. For a period in my life, I was feelingless. I hated being this way so I prayed God would break the walls I had built around my heart and Lord if he didn't answer my prayer! I can cry at the drop of a hat. If I hear a story about an injured or mistreated animal or someone that's dying or whatever, I am a ball of emotions! It doesn't help that I am a social worker, in a hospital...I'm just adding fuel to the fire I think. Sometimes I wish I were a little more hard-hearted but God made me the way I am for a reason and to Him I am beautiful so that's enough acceptance for me.

[Guest kitkat]

-I have a question. I hardly ever cry, but when I do, it's usually because something has upset me pretty bad. I spent several hours crying lastnight and I can't remember the last time I cried prior to that, because it's been a while.

----Crying is "WIMPING"OUT????-WeLLLLLLL, "IF" it is I must be the BIGGEST---WIMP-on the Planet--I cry at the drop of a "hat"-specially over animals--horses-dogs--cats--& even "Some"people--that are hurting--or have-been hurt-specially by {ME}- ------I went on a CRYING -JAG here a lill-while back--I read a post-by "Someone"on these boards that I cared for ---Deeply---because I mis-read the post--but that wasn't the point--I "Thought" they had been "Deceived"-& were "LOST"Not saved-any longer---being led-astray---& this person had been a Main-stay for me--from encouraging me--advising me to just take it easy-don't get discouraged--even sent me a PM after ONE of my MANY acts of "Stupidity"which is what I call my "frequent"

outbursts of{SIN} Chewing-someone out--because I didnot agree with their point of view-------------------------

-The simple message of the PM{are YOU all-right??}-That is pure-love-UNfeigned--

-anyway--I just burst out CRYING--Uncontrollaby--I could NOT STOP--DEEP--Gut-wrenching--from the very depth of my soul-& Spirit---CRYING---Groaning--words I couldn't even speak-forth--ALL I could say was--{LORD-JESUS--JESUS}--I tried sending a PM to them--but couldn't type thru the tears & sobs---Patsy came home from work & found me CRYING--& boy was she surprised--& concerned---as to WHY I was crying like a crazy-man---{do-crazy-men-cry?}All I could do was point to the message I had tried to type & told her haltingly thru the tears & sobs to finish the PM for me-& send it-------

-ONLY after a reply to that PM was I able to stop CRYING--which had been going on for several hours---"That"was the strangest & FIRST time anything like that I have ever experienced---Sooooo--IS crying "Wimping-OUT"?? I dunno-for sure---but I think NOT----

Shadow, you have so much love in your heart for so many things, animals, your brothers and sisters in Christ, the needs that they have and the needs of those that aren't Christians and those you think are being misguided, etc.

No, it's not wimping out if you cry. You have a heart of gold and love and I for one can always feel the love that you reflect. A lot of men don't cry and I think at times, it would do them a lot of good to just sit down and have a good cry, when the going gets rough or when they feel overwhelmed or emotional about any situation. You're not too proud to admit when you're wrong and you're not too proud to cry. That speaks the love of Jesus so much.

Many (((((((((HUGS))))))))) to you kind sir.

God bless,

Kat

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[Guest kitkat]

Shadow - :hug:

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KitKat - Bummer about your sister. Tears are wonderful cleansers. I don't know what kind of pain she's bottled inside her that she is so anti-tears.

But like others have said, God created us with tears for a reason! Think of it like we need tears to water our souls the way the Earth needs rain.

Nebula, she has had some bottled up frustrations in her life, including feeling like at one time that out of all four of us girls, she was the black sheep of the family.

Other issues have been there as well that have caused her to be resentful somewhat, but within the last five years, her walk with the Lord became much closer than before and she's really dedicated to following Him. I admire her for as much dedication to God that she has. Even though I don't see eye to eye with her about not crying, she has become a much better person than she was before. Hopefully, God will show her that there's nothing weak or wrong about crying.

God bless,

Kat

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[Shelby]

For me it is mentally cleansing sometimes to just let it out!

[Guest kitkat]

I think the only time I ever think about whether it's ok to cry or not, is when I'm right in the big middle of a good cry and my sister snaps at me about it. I don't understand that.

From my experience in having a very good friend who hates it when I cry, for him, it just makes him feel so uncomfortable. Maybe that's why your sister snapped at you. Some people just don't know what to do when someone they are with cries - it makes them feel helpless and they don't like that. Perhaps your sister felt helpless and just didn't know what to do, so that's why she lashed out at you.

I know I do that sometimes when I'm in a stressful situation - I say something completely stupid or irrelevant, or something that might make the person feel weird. (It's a lovely gift I have! ) Perhaps it will help if you told hjer you don't need her to do anything, but just be there with you.

You know, you may be right about that as far as my sister goes. I never thought about it that way before. I'll keep that in mind and maybe I'll just ask her about it sometime and see if that is it.

Thanks!!

God bless,

Kat

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[Guest kitkat]

Thanks to everybody here that contributed and posted in this thread. Every response made here meant a lot to me and helped me a great deal. Thanks for the opinions and scriptures. God bless you all.

Kat