I just need to talk about this...

[Believer1997]

I know I don't even deserve sympathy for this.

My cat had been peeing on our beds (my children,s and mine) and on my couch regularly and I was really frustrated. This has been going on since I adopted her. She slept with me every night,though she is the independent type and kept to herself during the day. She never liked to be petted much, only very rarely and would run away quickly afterwards.

She peed on my couch again saturday morning and tried to do it sunday but I caught her in time to stop her. I was tired of it and placed an ad online and right away many people answered and I kept changing my mind about wanting her adopted out. Finally, a young lovely girl called me up and I talked with her and agreed to give her the cat. The next 48 hours I was thinking of calling her back to cancel. The girl is starting veterinary studies in college in the fall and loves animals. I feel she will be loved there.

Anyways she came and got her Wednesday after I had called her to change my mind again.

Bottom line is: This is a nightmare! She is gone, and I miss her, and I feel selfish cruel inhumane for not having invested money and time in a cat behaviourist, or just accepted to live with her pee issues. The only cat lover person I know around here told me to do a ritual with my cat everyday to "comfort her spirit" (needless to say, the lady is part of a spiritualist church!). All my other friends have always thought me stupid for having a cat in my home, let alone dealing with a peeing cat.

I just now read that kittens adopted before 12 weeks are not properly done with weaning (emotional and social) from their momcats. This may explain her problem because I adopted her when she was 9 weeks old.

A real nightmare here!

This is my 3rd cat adoption gone awry: 1st cat was in college, I adopted her as a kitten and my roommate told on me at the housing administration and I was threatened with eviciton. I gave the cat away to an old lady whose husband had just died. 2nd cat was an adult female (2 years old) from the SPCA who was ill and with serious behavioural issues (pooping on different spots of the home, and hating kids) so I treated her (over $250) in the 10 days I had her and returned her to the SPCA where she was adopted right away by a nice lady. Now this one cat.

Makes me wonder if there is something wrong with me. In each case, I ended up being a transition home for the cats and I tended to spoil them and show them so much affection. Maybe I am destined to be a kind of "foster" home for them, rather than a permanent?

Anyways, I just needed to talk about it.

Thanks for listening/reading.

God bless.

Forgive me if I have you confused with another member - but, did you not say that you were not supposed to have a cat in your current home and were in danger of eviction if it were discovered? If this is the case, perhaps in the future, when you are able to have a pet, it will work out.

I have a thought 2Christ... I just looked up on a local website here and there is a program at some shelters that have their funds cut which allows for people who wish, to volunteer and pet the animals and walk them and take care of them for a few hours a week - this may be something possible for you to do, also. It would allow you to care for animals and help the shelter at the same time. Just a thought! Until you can have a pet again - it may be an option! Blessings!!

[fromIslam2Christ]

Forgive me if I have you confused with another member - but, did you not say that you were not supposed to have a cat in your current home and were in danger of eviction if it were discovered? If this is the case, perhaps in the future, when you are able to have a pet, it will work out.

Indeed pets aren't allowed but some tenants including myself had pets and I informally assured the owner before moving in that my cat wasn't going to be any trouble. Having the carpeting ruined by my cat would then put me in trouble and at risk of eviction.

To be clear, I wasnt in danger of eviction for my cat, but in danger of eviction for my cat ruining anything here yes.

[Believer1997]

Forgive me if I have you confused with another member - but, did you not say that you were not supposed to have a cat in your current home and were in danger of eviction if it were discovered? If this is the case, perhaps in the future, when you are able to have a pet, it will work out.

Indeed pets aren't allowed but some tenants including myself had pets and I informally assured the owner before moving in that my cat wasn't going to be any trouble. Having the carpeting ruined by my cat would then put me in trouble and at risk of eviction.

To be clear, I wasnt in danger of eviction for my cat, but in danger of eviction for my cat ruining anything here yes.

I'm glad for that - my cat just ... showed up as a kitten almost 16 years ago and is still ruling the roost. She is becoming a bit senile and has arthritis and has never liked small children or other pets... it was very clear early on that she is a bit of a loner and is not particularly social with many people. ALL cats, imo - have very unique personalities. When the time is right, you'll find a good 'fit' for you and your family.

[~candice~]

Oh sis, I'm not a cat lover, but anyone who has just given up something or someone they love needs hugs!

[LeonaWithHumility]

2Christ, no guilt, please. You gave her to a home where you felt she would be treated well and that was a loving thing to do. Hopefully the new owner will be able to break her peeing habit, and that's also a good thing. Don't stop yourself from trying again with a new kitty. They're kind of like cars - most of the time you buy a good one, it runs well, gets good mileage. etc; but once in a while you get a clunker. Keep trying, you're sure to be rewarded!

[fromIslam2Christ]

I have a thought 2Christ... I just looked up on a local website here and there is a program at some shelters that have their funds cut which allows for people who wish, to volunteer and pet the animals and walk them and take care of them for a few hours a week - this may be something possible for you to do, also. It would allow you to care for animals and help the shelter at the same time. Just a thought! Until you can have a pet again - it may be an option! Blessings!!

Actually I had the same thought! After I get over this, I will definitely look into this.

Don't stop yourself from trying again with a new kitty. They're kind of like cars - most of the time you buy a good one, it runs well, gets good mileage. etc; but once in a while you get a clunker. Keep trying, you're sure to be rewarded!

Thanks Leona, it gives me hope!

[Massorite]

Thank you all.

LadyC, you are right. I think I havent yet found the right cat for me.

Isaiah: Wegies are pure breeds right? I checked them and they are best for outdoors and large spaces and I need more of an indoor cat. Also, I checked with pure breeds and it seems to cost quite a bit of money.

.. when there are sooooo many cats out there needing a home!! Sigh...

Nebula: Asking God to guide me in this is something I haven't done, which should have been the first thing to ask. You are so right!!

Massorite: Yes, I also think cats in shelters have been through a lot of trauma and also we rarely know their history. It is true that before adopting them from shelters, one has to be ready to deal with trauma and all...

lady pear tree: Thanks your words made me feel better.

Logos: Thansk for the prayers.

I think this time, I will take as much time as needed to select my cat and listen to God,s voice more.

God bless you all!

I am blessed by your reply to all.