Romans 8:28

[lazardous]

Thankyou my friends in Christ for offering your prayers, and your advice. I will try and answer the questions put forth.

If you don't mind me asking... what do you mean by "she won't forgive herself"? Did she end the adulterous relationship? Or is she persisting?

She feels that what she did was so horrible that she will never forgive herself for what she did as long as she lives.The affair is over.

It may not be "normal" to forgive adultery but did Jesus ever say to "forgive others, unless it's adultery"? In John's gospel, Jesus tells the woman caught in adultery to "leave her life of sin". How can she leave it except to do the opposite of committing adultery... that is, being faithful?

I have forgiven her and expressed that to her .

It sounds like your wife has already made up her mind. If she is Christian, she should know better. The Bible is very much against divorce and she should seek to be reconciled, first'

I have explained to her that the bible is against divore. The problem is her parents, who are christians, have told her that divorce is okay. In fact her mother has told her some people divorce just because.She is not seeking any other advice. Our minister has told her that divorce is wrong and he would not remarry her because it was not a scriptual divorce.

Firefighter 7-7, you are in my prayers to. Thankyou again . I really believe God is going to work this out. I was driving down the road recently, talking to God, and he told me very clearly "It is my battle". I have put it in his hands. There is nothing I can do other than leave it in his hands. No better place to leave it.

[Bocan]

That's some pretty weak reasoning by her mother... basically, "it's okay because everyone is doing it". I'll pray for you and your wife. Sometimes, all we can do is trust that God will help.

[enoob57]

The fire of our Father's testing is of the nature that all that we hold before Him will be burned away... and what remains will be the proper order of Life in Him! When Christ came and restored the ability of the Indwelling of His Spirit within us... He basically gave us His Life and we are to make it our Life by refusing ourself- the old inhabited nature... Everyone says yeah, yeah, yeah but in the very real since isn't that the despair? The harm or cost of self? That is why the way is hard and few that find it - we cannot even hold ourselves before Him. This reality becomes a pure and undefiled heart that lets go of it's self and lays upon the bridge of faith paved with the substance of Hope in our Father. Just as Christ in the garden so now we also must journey with Him through this narrow passage into the door of Christ into eternal life... I, like OldShep, know your pain and this is the substance of His advice ->let go of self and Spiritually dissolve yourself into the foundation of His Word and you shall have the victory of His Good Pleasure!

Isa 40:31

31 But those who wait on the Lord

Shall renew their strength;

They shall mount up with wings like eagles,

They shall run and not be weary,

They shall walk and not faint.

NKJV

Prayed....

Love, Steven

[Floatingaxe]

Stand on the word. Declare God's promises out loud, which is sowing the word, and they will come to pass.

Romans 10:17

So faith comes from hearing, that is, hearing the Good News about Christ.

Mark 4:24

Then he added, “Pay close attention to what you hear. The closer you listen, the more understanding you will be given—and you will receive even more.

[lazardous]

I know I have said it before, THANKYOU, to all for your prayers, encouragement and love you have shown me. You do not know me yet you have stood with me as I go through this trial in life.I told my son the other day that I was thankful I am going through this trial. To some that may not make sense, but I have learn so much during it. It is a very weak reason to say "everyone is doing it". If we as christians do not show the world, what then. I have been speaking God's word outloud and the strength I get from that is aesome. I have been soaking up his word like never before in my life. Thanking you for standing with me through this. I am still amazed at the love I have felt from "Worthy Christians Forum"!!!