Teenagers and sex

[Nicks Girl]

I still disagree.

[Kabowd]

Again, Mr. Irish, I believe you have a misunderstanding of how the Statutory Rape Laws work. But that's not the topic at hand.

[Shelby]

I am in agreement with Deirdre. The law is good for what it wants to protect, unfortunately, alot of parents of daughters who make bad choices, usually lie about their age anyway, they punish the other kid for the rest of his life because of it. I would never condone that kind of activity, I think it is maliucious and vindictive if you know your daughter chose to make that choice and sleep with a guy older than her as well. It really is put on their record for the rest of their life possibly because they were a dumb teenager. But when an employer screens that person, he doesn't get an explanation of what happened, he gets, "criminal sex offender of a minor.

My 2 cents.

[darkest_red]

I hope you know this isn't about being a teen girl

I'm perfectly aware of what the topic is, I've read it

However, what a lot of people are saying is based on the feeling that all teenagers are all about sex, drugs and rock n roll which is why I'm arguing my point. I know some teenagers are all about that but you can't tar all of us with the same brush. Out of my friends, even the non christian ones, there are only 2 like that. The rest of us are the total opposite and are proud to be that way.

[Nicks Girl]

Thank you, Shelby.

[larryt]

I just got married a week ago and my start has already been very rough due to the fact that my wife had 3 sexual partners prior to getting married.  She feels dirty and used.  She feels like she is not worthy of a healthy sex relationship with her husband(me) just because she spent so much time messing around before we found each other.  I remained a virgin for almost 28 years and was never with anyone in any way prior to marriage.  This however has complicated the problem because now she feels bad because I waited for her and she didn't wait for me.  Sex is so much more than something physical.  It is so very spiritual and emotional.  The physical part is nowhere near the top of the list.  With all this said I can only say talk to her.  Don't start off by pointing out the fact that she messed up.  Let her know that you are there for her.  Tell her your concerns and the dangers of what she is doing.  Let her know that sex prior to marriage is not healthy not just because of the dangers of disease but also because of the emotional effects it has on individuals and their spouses.  We have gotton to the point in society where we think that our bodies are ours.  That we can do what we want and say what we want just because its "what" we want.  Our bodies are first and foremost a temple to be used to honor and glorify our Lord.  When you marry you extend that.  Our bodies are still first and foremost used for the honor and glory of God but also as a means of intimate expression between a husband and wife.  Using your body for anything less will only have negative effects down the road.  I hope your daughter can see that her activity hurts her parent(s), her body and her future emotional stability. 

On a positive note its definitely something that can be overcome.  It just takes patience and love and a lot of prayer.  I would maybe try to see if(if possible and your daughter is willing) she could talk to someone who has been where she is at now.  Let them tell her what sorts of problems this activity can cause.  I will pray for you and your daughter.

Greetings Chad,

Congradulations on your recent marriage. Keep in mind that Our God is bigger that any or all of our problems. Guilt and condemnation comes from the devil and he will work overtime to try to break up the family of anyone who is a believer and especially one that wants to serve God. I would like to describe some instances to you. Dinah in the OT first.

In Gen. 34 Dinah is raped by Shechem. In vs. 3

Ge 34:3  And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel.

It says that he clave, was attached to, her. From having a sexual relation there is a spiritual bonding.

Backing up to Gen. 2:24 God declares that the husband and wife are one flesh. Which is repeated in the NT by the Lord.(Matt 19, & Mark 10) And again by Paul.(Eph. 5:31)

In

1Co 6:16  What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

Paul warns us about fonication which he links to Gen. 2. The point is that it is not the marriage that causes the two to be one fresh but the physical union. From these sexual unions our souls are tied to one another. Shechem's "soul clave unto Dinah."

The remedy: You are the head of your house. You have the authority to break any curses, ties, bonds, anything that keeps your wife from being the person God created her to be. Pray out loud over your wife: Wife I love you. I forgive you for everything you have done in the past and might do in the future.(I hope you do) I hold nothing against you and I ask the Father to break any bondage to any person my wife has ever had in any relationship the does not give glory to You. (You may be surprised at the changes). This may seem simplistic but it is no more than putting your faith to action.

Pr 18:21