WAKE UP!!!

[irishcowboy]

if I go to a funeral, it is to be supportive of some one that has lost their loved one.

as for me going to them just cause i knew the person, i usually do not. for that person is no longer there, they are either with the Lord, or they are not, and nothing i can do at this point will change that.

one of my best friends died when i was a Jr in High school, no, i did not go to his funeral, for he was not there, he was with the Lord, this i know for sure.

my wifes mother died, i attended for my wife, mom was not there, she was also with the Lord.

there have been many i have not gone to, and only a few i did go to. the bodies never look like the person, so you are not even seeing a good image of their shell. I prefer to remember them as i knew them....

I have lost 4 customers in as many months, all of which i was close to personally as well as professionally. i did not attend any of the funerals.. why? they were not there, they went home, and are no longer in pain, they can walk with out aide they can FLY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If i go to a funeral, it is to help others that are grieving, and if everyone else has some one to help them thru it, then i dont go.

mike

[Can Do (Phil 4:13)]

3 EB, I am so very sorry for your loss. I lost my best friend once and it hurt like I never believed possible and SHE led me along the path to Salvation. I used to see her in the shops, but it wasn't ever her or going to be and it often caught me offguard. I'd see clothes I knew she'd like or a little trinket I'd want to buy her and then I'd remember... One thing I can say to you, is that YOU DON'T KNOW if, in the last moments of her life, that she DIDN'T give her life to Christ! Your friend spent her time with Christians, you said. Well, at least have the faith that your love reached her before she went to Eternity. Stand firm upon the love that you shared with her, the times you spent together and trust that your beloved friend walked WITH Jesus into His Heavenly Kingdom

My heart is with you and I am praying for you.

With forever love

YSIC

Faithie

[darkest_red]

Is it bad that I didn't go to her funeral?

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No, it isn't bad. Some people find funerals helpful to go to, a chance to say a final goodbye and remember the life that is now lost but not everyone sees it like that and it isn't a bad thing at all.

I only go to funerals if I am very close to the person or feel a special connection to the person. In my life I have only ever been to 3 funerals, 2 friends from church (both very strong believers and amazing people) and my gran. I found them helped me to realise what they meant to me and helped me to say 'goodbye' that bit easier. The biggest thing for my grans funeral was that she wasn't saved and the thought really worried me. However, in the address by my vicar (sorry, can't think of the actual name) he said that she had once said she wished she had faith. He said that he saw that as 'knocking' and then went onto say the bit about knocking and the door being opened. I didn't know she had said that... maybe there is a similar thing with your friend? If not, it is not your fault. You did your best to lead her towards the light.

It isn't bad that you didn't go to her funeral and you shouldnt see it like that, in the same way that some people feel bad if they don't cry at a funeral. It affects people in different ways. Not everyone wants to go to the funeral and that is fine, it doesn't mean you cared about the person or missed the person any less.

Sorry, I've rambled.