Teenage daughter having sex with anther teenage boy in church

[Motherof3]

I have discovered that my teenage daughter is sexually active with another teenage boy from our church.  I feel I should approach the mother and inform her but don't want to come across as accusatory.  Suggestions?

[Guest Teditis]

It sounds as if you've placed blame on the boy as the instigator of the sexual behavior

when your daughter might be equally involved. If so, you need to reassess the situation

and understand that both children are in this situation together.

Why not just go to the boy's parents and tell what you know without blaming either child?

That way both sets of parents can monitor the children's time together with more scrutiny.

[marvalusxoxo]

both are equally responsible if they decided to act it out so then they must be adults enough to deal with the consequences. I don't know If this is a believing in Christ family but that would be a different issue and response to the issue at hand.

[RustyAngeL]

On 8/10/2016 at 5:09 AM, Teditis said:

It sounds as if you've placed blame on the boy as the instigator of the sexual behavior

when your daughter might be equally involved. If so, you need to reassess the situation

and understand that both children are in this situation together.

Why not just go to the boy's parents and tell what you know without blaming either child?

That way both sets of parents can monitor the children's time together with more scrutiny.

I"m not a mother but he is not your problem, let his parents deal with him, you deal with your daughter.  Then make an arrangement for both you and his parents to meet.  They are both equally responsible.

Then there would be some very serious consequences for your daughter.  Hopefully his parents would feel the same about their son. 

Blessings, RustyAngeL

[Bill S]

On 8/10/2016 at 4:41 AM, Motherof3 said:

I have discovered that my teenage daughter is sexually active with another teenage boy from our church.  I feel I should approach the mother and inform her but don't want to come across as accusatory.  Suggestions?

You should have immediately  informed the Pastor and and get both family's counseling by your Pastor. If you need affirmation on the problem see 1st and 2nd Corinthians. 

[Smallshoulders]

Could you go to the boys mother with someone from church leadership and work together on how best to parent the situation together. It sounds like it is something where you could all easily become offended and defensive which will then achieve nothing except pushing the two closer together perhaps. The three of you, you, his parents and church leaders need to work together with both young people, placing blame with neither of them but also not condoning either of them

Edited August 14, 2016 by Smallshoulders
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[missmuffet]

It takes two. How old is your daughter and how old is the young man? Do you know about statuatory rape? That involves having a sexual relationship with any female under the age of 16. I think you should have a meeting with his parents. I hope they would accommodate you with your concerns. One to twenty years in prison.