dating/spouse yeses or nos

[Heavenunlimited]

Yes I wonder how many of them are christian in sincerity.  Also why women with kids?

[HisFirst]

9 hours ago, creativemechanic said:

Here's another interesting bit of advice I got recently. From a woman no less. I teach at a primary school,so a female teacher pointed out the nursery is a good place  to look for a woman(kids mothers) because the kids are now 3-4 years old and that's about the age that the fathers dump the mothers.

Tbh, I find this advice quite flippant.

There is a lot going on with single mothers. 

To advise someone to look at a nursery to find a future wife is quite puzzling.

I also work with kids and if a guy came snooping around, checking out mothers when he himself had no children of his own, would immediately send out signals of "child predator".

It's also blase to think that single mums will just accept anybody, so as their children can have a " daddy".

Single mums have a history with the other parent whether they are on the scene or not.

I speak from experience. I've been a single parent for 14 years.

I only have one teen left, the others are in their 20's and I've given them the exact opposite advice to what you received. Marry a woman (Christian), that does not have kids. Start your own family, free from previous relationships. There's too much previous history you have to deal with and not all men accept children that are not their own as their own. 

I know there are successful marriages that are a result  of marrying single mums/dads but for a single male/female with no kids?  Seek out other singles.

Edited February 7, 2017 by HisFirst

[Heavenunlimited]

Yes pretty strange.. Also to songle out singles as "less".

[creativemechanic]

7 hours ago, HisFirst said:

Tbh, I find this advice quite flippant.

There is a lot going on with single mothers. 

To advise someone to look at a nursery to find a future wife is quite puzzling.

I also work with kids and if a guy came snooping around, checking out mothers when he himself had no children of his own, would immediately send out signals of "child predator".

It's also blase to think that single mums will just accept anybody, so as their children can have a " daddy".

Single mums have a history with the other parent whether they are on the scene or not.

I speak from experience. I've been a single parent for 14 years.

I only have one teen left, the others are in their 20's and I've given them the exact opposite advice to what you received. Marry a woman (Christian), that does not have kids. Start your own family, free from previous relationships. There's too much previous history you have to deal with and not all men accept children that are not their own as their own. 

I know there are successful marriages that are a result  of marrying single mums/dads but for a single male/female with no kids?  Seek out other singles.

To clarify- they mean cause the women are young and recently dumped by the kids fathers ie available and  chances are vulnerable makeing them easy prey.

(Note I dont plan to follow that advice)

[HisFirst]

Just now, creativemechanic said:

To clarify- they mean cause the women are young and recently dumped by the kids fathers ie available and  chances are vulnerable makeing them easy prey.

(Note I dont plan to follow that advice)

I understand perfectly what she/they told you, and but it's still unsuitable advice.

 

[creativemechanic]

yep. amazing that i got it from a woman

 

[Heavenunlimited]

Probably not a christian woman?  And, shouldnt we consult God