Denadii Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Senior Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 12 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 503 Content Per Day: 0.21 Reputation: 120 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/03/2017 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/20/1948 Share Posted September 8, 2017 Ladies. Here's one for you. No mens answers please. The Event. An event that supposedly happened between twenty and twenty five years ago. Unremembered by the husband, but remembered by the wife. Hubby was sick and supposedly attacked his wife, slamming her to one side as he roared out of the house. She got bruised, but he has no memory of the event.... The Question. How is a person supposed to repent of an event he does not even remember? If I did that, I'm sorry? Well that won't work. I don't remember doing that but I'm sorry anyway? No. Treat her like the queen she is...Yeah! But the supposed event still gets in the way because you never apologized for it or repented of it. I wonder how many men are in the doghouse for such things. Once he winds up in the doghouse for a not remembered event, there is no way out. What do you say? I've seen this situation twice now, in the last couple years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayin jade Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 44 Topic Count: 6,178 Topics Per Day: 0.87 Content Count: 43,795 Content Per Day: 6.20 Reputation: 11,243 Days Won: 58 Joined: 01/03/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted September 8, 2017 If she is carrying a grudge over something he doesnt remember that is that severe, they need counseling. If he doesnt remember hurting her, they need counseling. Regardless it sounds like both need to sit down and have a discussion about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.78 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 8, 2017 53 minutes ago, Denadii said: Ladies. Here's one for you. No mens answers please. The Event. An event that supposedly happened between twenty and twenty five years ago. Unremembered by the husband, but remembered by the wife. Hubby was sick and supposedly attacked his wife, slamming her to one side as he roared out of the house. She got bruised, but he has no memory of the event.... The Question. How is a person supposed to repent of an event he does not even remember? If I did that, I'm sorry? Well that won't work. I don't remember doing that but I'm sorry anyway? No. Treat her like the queen she is...Yeah! But the supposed event still gets in the way because you never apologized for it or repented of it. I wonder how many men are in the doghouse for such things. Once he winds up in the doghouse for a not remembered event, there is no way out. What do you say? I've seen this situation twice now, in the last couple years. You would have to assess the whole event. Why was the husband sick? What made him slam his wife to one side?This happened only once in their 25 years of marriage? If the husband said to her "honey I do not remember doing what I did but please forgive me if this is something that hurt you" this may heal the wounds. She should not hold a grudge unless the husband continued to be abusive and if that is the case she should leave him. The wife could have other issues and is using this as an excuse. They need Counseling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enoob57 Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 35 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 41,251 Content Per Day: 7.98 Reputation: 21,498 Days Won: 76 Joined: 03/13/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/27/1957 Share Posted September 8, 2017 I was checked at the door Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.78 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 8, 2017 1 minute ago, enoob57 said: I was checked at the door 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denadii Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Senior Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 12 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 503 Content Per Day: 0.21 Reputation: 120 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/03/2017 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/20/1948 Author Share Posted September 8, 2017 33 minutes ago, ayin jade said: If she is carrying a grudge over something he doesnt remember that is that severe, they need counseling. If he doesnt remember hurting her, they need counseling. Regardless it sounds like both need to sit down and have a discussion about it. That was suggested. The man asks though. "How do I discuss something I know nothing about?" I have to admit...It does sound like a one way discussion Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayin jade Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 44 Topic Count: 6,178 Topics Per Day: 0.87 Content Count: 43,795 Content Per Day: 6.20 Reputation: 11,243 Days Won: 58 Joined: 01/03/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted September 8, 2017 He should discuss her feelings. It kinda sounds like he is saying since he doesnt remember, then her feelings on this are not impt. Clearly its distressing her. They need to discuss it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.78 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 8, 2017 27 minutes ago, Davida said: Not surprised with that outfit! Lol! ....forgot to ask....do you have a Daniel Boone fetish or fan thingy? Mind you, coon-skin hat looks mighty fine on you! yep & brown goes as well as anything on blue-face. Don't ask Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sower Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 14 Topic Count: 32 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 5,264 Content Per Day: 0.97 Reputation: 5,878 Days Won: 1 Joined: 07/09/2009 Status: Online Share Posted September 8, 2017 One of the hardest things for me to do is give in to my wife in a confrontation, when knowing she has forgot what she said that started it. (And vise-versa) It's always a no win situation. I usually forget in these situations that I have no rights, as a forgiven child of God. What I'm trying to say, is asking forgiveness for something I didn't do would be divine. The only way for this to happen would not be from me,the man, but the new creature. God is light. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enoob57 Posted September 8, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 35 Topic Count: 100 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 41,251 Content Per Day: 7.98 Reputation: 21,498 Days Won: 76 Joined: 03/13/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/27/1957 Share Posted September 8, 2017 40 minutes ago, Davida said: Not surprised with that outfit! Lol! ....forgot to ask....do you have a Daniel Boone fetish or fan thingy? Mind you, coon-skin hat looks mighty fine on you! yep & brown goes as well as anything on blue-face. look at enoob a little closer and there's another color @missmuffetvote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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