Agonizing Over a Problem With a Pastor

[Who me]

This is nearly a year old and hopefully the op has resolved her issue with this church.

Had I seen it when new my responce would be to talk to the pastor and his wife, to point out that there behaviour was wrong. Two thing would happen. Denial and being asked to leave, in which case say good bye.

or

Admitance and a desire to change. That would require great wisdom.

 

People have said we cannot critices the pastor!

Talk to your pastor to find out how they would love that to be true.

Are there times when we should be critical of an elder or offical of the church.

Yes, if they are not preaching the gospel or are preaching falsehood etc or as in this post there lives do not match there profession.

Red this article which talks about this sort of thing and Importantly how to go about critising them:-

https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/jared-c-wilson/why-you-should-criticize-your-pastor/