can a man marry a single mom?

[Strickalator]

well i was perhaps to vaugue on this because the woman is someone i am interested in...she and i are both baby christians in the lord....

when she was married before 3 times all of her husbands...especially the husband that was the father of her kids were unfaithful and or abusive

her 2nd husbands the father or her two kids ...sexually molested the children and went to jail and now he is out trying to hook up with her again....and asking her friends where she is but they dont tell him....they only were able to keep him in jail for sometime...he has other abuse cases againts him from other children....

so is she supposed to be alone for the rest of her life? she made no sin within the marriage...it was the men who were unfaithful to her ....in fact dps

(department of social services) (or department of children servces)

took her kids from her saying she should have known he was abusing them and she went to jail for 30 days for failfure to protect her children....

and it is wrong because the father did these things in secret while she was at work....and the kids were young at the time

Edited June 18, 2005 by Strickalator

[Constant]

I beleive in MHO, that you should always try to work things out with your spouse. People can change BUT if they don't, take some time to be alone and be with your children. I would NEVER remarry if my husband and I didn't work out. I love only him and I wouldn't give my heart to anyone else. I made a commitment to him and to God and if for some reason I had to be alone for ever, I would do it.

[Strickalator]

i dont think god wants her to be alone at all....

[nebula]

Considering that marital unfaithfulness is Biblical grounds for divorce, I'm not so sure the one who was wronged in this way fits under the rule of not being allowed to remarry.

(Note I said "not so sure".)

As for this woman you want to marry, bear in mind she is carrying some pretty bad wounds on her. If you two do get married, I highly, highly, highly recommend you both go through counseling beforehand.

You see, those wounds she is carrying, if left untreated properly, will create problems in your marriage.

My parents are divorced. Believe me when I speak of such things; I know first hand.

Please, get some serious counseling before you do anything.

OK?

[Dad Ernie]

Greetings,

I agree with WIP and Neb et al. If your friend's situation occured BEFORE she came to the Lord, then now she is a NEW creation, old things have passed away, all things have become new.

However, there is an awful lot of baggage there, and beings both of you are new Christians, give it a year or two and grow in the Lord before you make any commitments. If you two decide to tie the knot, let it be for the glory of God and not your own flesh. In the meantime, show yourself friendly, but respect her as you would a virgin and keep your hands to yourself.

Blessings,

Dad Ernie

[Guest charlie]

when she was married before 3 times all of her husbands...especially the husband that was the father of her kids were unfaithful and or abusive

Others have already covered the scriptural aspects so I'm gonna cover the practical one, man to man, don't marry her.

3 husbands?? Why on earth would she even want a fourth husband? Why would all three husbands be unfaithful and or abusive? Was any of it her fault?

For goodness sakes don't rush into anything and don't let her pressure you into rushing?

I'm a divorcee who married a divorcee with a child so I'm not against divorcees but this just doesn't sound quite right; sounds fishy. Famous words to remember WARNING, WARNING...DANGER Will Robinson DANGER!