TonyT316 Posted September 20, 2020 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 8 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 13 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 17 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/26/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted September 20, 2020 I was wondering if God (fearfully and reverentially towards His' Name) considers overseas online relationships in terms of boyfriend and girlfriend to be real if they have never met in person? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnthebaptist Posted September 20, 2020 Group: Non-Conformist Theology Followers: 6 Topic Count: 118 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 4,361 Content Per Day: 2.30 Reputation: 2,109 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/25/2019 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/03/1953 Share Posted September 20, 2020 8 hours ago, TonyT316 said: I was wondering if God (fearfully and reverentially towards His' Name) considers overseas online relationships in terms of boyfriend and girlfriend to be real if they have never met in person? God would see the relationship in terms of what it could lead to, perhaps. If you have such a relationship and are looking for approval, I don't see anything wrong with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted September 20, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.77 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 20, 2020 12 hours ago, TonyT316 said: I was wondering if God (fearfully and reverentially towards His' Name) considers overseas online relationships in terms of boyfriend and girlfriend to be real if they have never met in person? I think it online relationships could be dangerous. Especially in our world today. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post LonerAndy Posted September 20, 2020 Group: Senior Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 19 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 693 Content Per Day: 0.42 Reputation: 396 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/28/2019 Status: Offline Popular Post Share Posted September 20, 2020 14 hours ago, TonyT316 said: I was wondering if God (fearfully and reverentially towards His' Name) considers overseas online relationships in terms of boyfriend and girlfriend to be real if they have never met in person? Well... yes and no. Any relationship, is a relationship. I have a relationship with my boss at work. It is a "relationship". The problem with an online relationship, is that unless you are exceptionally diligent, the truth is that other person could be lying to you about everything. I could change my name to Tina, and tell you I'm an 18-year-old from Australia. How would you verify that? So, I had a roommate who was from Bangladesh, and he wanted a wife, who was still in Bangladesh. Well, she didn't just take his word for it. Her parents, called up his university that he claimed he had a degree from, and verified it. They called his parents, and talk to them. They called his job where he worked, and verified that he worked there. They even called one of his neighbors, and asked if they had any complaints. Was he parting and drinking, or doing drugs or something in the neighborhood. And they required other things on top of that, to verify who he was, and what he was really like, and that he is who he said he was. We don't do that here in the US, and it causes problems. Because truthfully, how much about this other person, do you really honestly know as a concrete fact? Anyone online can say anything. I had this happen to me. Now thankfully it wasn't a romantic interest, or it likely would have hurt really badly. But I had an online "friend" who I used to play online games with. This was over 10 years ago. And over the course of 6 months, I started noticing that she would describe herself one way on one day, and completely different way on another day. And after awhile of hearing her say completely contradictory things about herself, I questioned her on it, and she said "I like to role-play when I'm online". That's when I realized how difficult 'truth' is online, and how easily one can lie about who they are. Because I to this day, have no idea if any of those things she said was true. I don't know even know if she was really a girl, or maybe guy, maybe she was old, or young, or married or single, or had kids, or anything. And by the way, this is also why you should never lie to anyone. Because after I knew she was just lying, I never had any reason to talk to her. Why talk to someone, when you can't take a single thing they say at face value? If she had said it was a warm sunny day, I would have wondered did she mean, where she was in reality, or where she was in her fictional "role-playing" world? Or where she was in some video game? How would I know? Now I don't mean to imply that online relationship can't work. They can. I know people who have met their wives online. I know people who used international dating sites to find a wife, and marry them from another country. But you need to be intentional, to make it real. I know men who flew half way around the world to meet the parents, and propose to their future wife. Here's is my only real advice on this... if you are just playing around, and you don't intend to marry this girl.... break it off. Relationships are not play things for your amusement when you are not serious. And if you are serious, then you need to start planning out your next steps. How are you going to meet this lady? How are you going to verify who she is? How are you going to take her out on a real date, meet her parents, and take this seriously? You are at one point on this path, and the marriage is at the other end of the path. What are you going to do, to start walking the path? What is your next step? I don't know what that step is, and no one who isn't in your situation can tell you. But you have to move forward, or you need to break this off, and find someone you can move forward with. Now I'm not saying rush it. I'm not saying jump off the cliff without checking for a parachute first. But you need to move. 4 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teddyv Posted September 20, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 4,265 Content Per Day: 2.91 Reputation: 2,302 Days Won: 1 Joined: 05/03/2020 Status: Offline Share Posted September 20, 2020 I'm assuming that you mean a relationship of a more romantic nature? I know of several couples that met online and subsequently married. I don't know if any were overseas as that would certainly adds a more difficult element to moving a relationship along. Yes, there are legitimate concerns one has about verifying one's identity. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Billiards Ball Posted September 21, 2020 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 5 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,502 Content Per Day: 0.66 Reputation: 662 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/05/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted September 21, 2020 On 9/20/2020 at 1:12 AM, TonyT316 said: I was wondering if God (fearfully and reverentially towards His' Name) considers overseas online relationships in terms of boyfriend and girlfriend to be real if they have never met in person? Sure does. I've never met Jesus in person, but love Him and have a relationship with Him, via letters. Trust Jesus now for eternal life! Call on His Name to forgive you and wash away your sin through His blood shed on the cross! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnR7 Posted September 21, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 49 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,907 Content Per Day: 1.29 Reputation: 614 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/03/2018 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/06/1952 Share Posted September 21, 2020 On 9/20/2020 at 1:12 AM, TonyT316 said: I was wondering if God (fearfully and reverentially towards His' Name) considers overseas online relationships in terms of boyfriend and girlfriend to be real if they have never met in person? Long distance relationships are a special challenge. I corresponded with my wife for three years before we got together and got married. You really do not get to know someone until you meet in person. We have been married for 23 years now - so it looks like everything is working out. Of course all relationships and marriages have their challenges. We need God's help to overcome and live a life of victory. I always prayed if a relationship was not God's will that he would slam the door on the relationship. He always did, but not this time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JohnR7 Posted September 21, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 49 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,907 Content Per Day: 1.29 Reputation: 614 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/03/2018 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/06/1952 Share Posted September 21, 2020 19 hours ago, teddyv said: I don't know if any were overseas as that would certainly adds a more difficult element to moving a relationship along. Getting a visa and citizenship presents a challenge. My wife never passed her written driving test but she passed her citizenship test. Pretty much shows where her priority is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeauJangles Posted September 21, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 43 Topic Count: 229 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 10,900 Content Per Day: 2.92 Reputation: 12,145 Days Won: 68 Joined: 02/13/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/14/1954 Share Posted September 21, 2020 On 9/19/2020 at 10:12 PM, TonyT316 said: I was wondering if God (fearfully and reverentially towards His' Name) considers overseas online relationships in terms of boyfriend and girlfriend to be real if they have never met in person? You may not know what penpals are. Whether forum oriented, or email communications, or optimally, live chat, the most you could expect would be a sense of familiarity. Many times to the unfortunate, this can lull a person into a false sense of that feeling one truly knows the other individual. Tragic deceptions have occurred and they do so more often than not. Needless to say, disappointments including potentially a heartbreak run extremely high. Personally, I cannot recommend them. A lot of men get taken for financial gain, and countless women are devastated by phoney Casanovas. 19 hours ago, teddyv said: I'm assuming that you mean a relationship of a more romantic nature? I know of several couples that met online and subsequently married. I don't know if any were overseas as that would certainly adds a more difficult element to moving a relationship along. Yes, there are legitimate concerns one has about verifying one's identity. I'm not saying romance online is impossible. But, it's difficult to ascertain true sincerity. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeauJangles Posted September 21, 2020 Group: Royal Member Followers: 43 Topic Count: 229 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 10,900 Content Per Day: 2.92 Reputation: 12,145 Days Won: 68 Joined: 02/13/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/14/1954 Share Posted September 21, 2020 44 minutes ago, JohnR7 said: I always prayed if a relationship was not God's will that he would slam the door on the relationship. He always did, but not this time. I had done the same and because the door appeared to remain open, ten years down the road I fully realize I lacked discernment in the original onset. It turned disastrous as a result. This wasn't even an online relationship. I'm happy to know the one you had online worked out so well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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