How?

[Guest broLarry]

If possible, someone please explain to me how a man who claims to be a man of God preach Love thy neighbor in one breath and turn right around an attack that same brother with hatred and call him a lost soul. I will try to explain what I am talking about here and hope someone can explain the problem to me.

A brother in Christ as preached for the year two years that it is commanded by God to love everyone. But when someone disagrees with a statement he may make or ask him to explain something to them, he attacks them with hatred and show no love at all to the person. He curses them out and tells them he doesnt like them or he kicks them from a chat room. Someone please expalin this to me. Thanks.

[DaBronx]

Wow...OK... My 2 cents:

Sometimes when people get emotional they react in a way that seems hateful, or mean when they really don't mean to be... They are actually lashing out of hurt (or love)

If this is someone whom you felt close to let them know that their reaction was upsetting to you and ask them how they felt so comfortable speking to you in that manner... Let them know how you don't feel it was necessary...

I know it's easier said than done (believe me!!) but it is the Christian thing to do...

And if the attitude persists or if they do not want to be reasonable then leave them alone and in God's hands... He will deal with that person accordingly and later, when time has healed the wounds, you will be able to talk again.

But whatever you do... Don't grow bitter and don't hold any resentment towards them (easier said than done, I know!!) remember, we are all a work in progress and some molds of clay need a lot more work than others.

Lorry

[Gerioke]

Wow...OK... My 2 cents:

Sometimes when people get emotional they react in a way that seems hateful, or mean when they really don't mean to be... They are actually lashing out of hurt (or love)

If this is someone whom you felt close to let them know that their reaction was upsetting to you and ask them how they felt so comfortable speking to you in that manner... Let them know how you don't feel it was necessary...

I know it's easier said than done (believe me!!) but it is the Christian thing to do...

And if the attitude persists or if they do not want to be reasonable then leave them alone and in God's hands... He will deal with that person accordingly and later, when time has healed the wounds, you will be able to talk again.

But whatever you do... Don't grow bitter and don't hold any resentment towards them (easier said than done, I know!!) remember, we are all a work in progress and some molds of clay need a lot more work than others.

  Lorry

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We are called to love our brothers. That doesn't mean we have to like them. There's a certain bagpiper that has been a thorn in my side for a couple of years. I really don't care to associate with her but if she were in trouble and I was there to help, I would be there pronto. But I still don't like her.

[Aim_64bIT]

It sounds like P-R-I-D-E. Self-righteousness... It is a problem I have. For I have been indeed been blessed with knowledge, but I have become a chatter box because my glory is no so much in helping the little ones as in exalting myself.

Here are some are some verses I found in a R. A. Torrey's New Topical Textbook.

Proverbs 21:24 KJV

(24) Proud and haughty scorner is his name, who dealeth in proud wrath.

1 Timothy 6:4 KJV

(4) He is proud, knowing nothing, but doting about questions and strifes of words, whereof cometh envy, strife, railings, evil surmisings,

1 Corinthians 8:1 KJV

(1) Now as touching things offered unto idols, we know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth.

Here are some verses we could learn from.

Luke 16:15 KJV

(15) And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God.

Romans 14:1 KJV

(1) Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations.

1 Corinthians 8:11-12 KJV

(11) And through thy knowledge shall the weak brother perish, for whom Christ died?

(12) But when ye sin so against the brethren, and wound their weak conscience, ye sin against Christ.

Edited August 29, 2005 by Aim_64bIT

[Guest broLarry]

Wow...OK... My 2 cents:

Sometimes when people get emotional they react in a way that seems hateful, or mean when they really don't mean to be... They are actually lashing out of hurt (or love)

If this is someone whom you felt close to let them know that their reaction was upsetting to you and ask them how they felt so comfortable speking to you in that manner... Let them know how you don't feel it was necessary...

I know it's easier said than done (believe me!!) but it is the Christian thing to do...

And if the attitude persists or if they do not want to be reasonable then leave them alone and in God's hands... He will deal with that person accordingly and later, when time has healed the wounds, you will be able to talk again.

But whatever you do... Don't grow bitter and don't hold any resentment towards them (easier said than done, I know!!) remember, we are all a work in progress and some molds of clay need a lot more work than others.

  Lorry

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First I want to thank you all who have replied to my post.

I have wrote again to this brother in Christ and I did let him know how much his words have hurt me but not only me but his own testimory.

I will continute to love this brother in the Lord and do what I can when the time comes if he ever needs help, I will be there for him. But I can not understand why he continues to belittle others, babes in Christ, and how he can sleep at night knowing he has hrut so many with his words and actions. Surely he does know that one day like all of us will stand before God and give an account of our words and the things we did and did not do for Christ. This part truly puzzles me. Again, thank to all of you for your kind words in your replies. broLarry

[justme7]

brolarry:

i totally understand where you're coming from. i know someone exactly like this, and the questions that perplex me are how? why?

i have come to believe that these people are deceived. they have not put on the love of CHRIST. the truest testimony of any believer is a changed life. how can someone love the LORD and be unchanged?? i would not feel comfortable saying that these people are not saved, but do definately believe that they are somewhat deceived. it's almost as if satan has a stronghold in their lives. it is quite alarming to see uncalled for and extreme anger in believers. it seems uncharacteristic and rightly so.

i have probably been zero help. but, i have had the same question and came to the conclusion that the person i know must be deceived somehow.

[Guest broLarry]

brolarry:

i totally understand where you're coming from.  i know someone exactly like this, and the questions that perplex me are how? why?

i have come to believe that these people are deceived.  they have not put on the love of CHRIST.  the truest testimony of any believer is a changed life.  how can someone love the LORD and be unchanged??  i would not feel comfortable saying that these people are not saved, but do definately believe that they are somewhat deceived.  it's almost as if satan has a stronghold in their lives.  it is quite alarming to see uncalled for and extreme anger in believers.  it seems uncharacteristic and rightly so.

i have probably been zero help.  but, i have had the same question and came to the conclusion that the person i know must be deceived somehow.

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Justme7

I know exactly what you are saying here. This person I am speaking of claims his love for Christ and others but never shows that love to others.

He runs a chat room on another server and does wonderful Bible studies but the problem is that when someone new comes to the room, the first thing he ask if that person is a born again Chirstian which is proper to do I think. If the person says no or is not sure, he will give them John 3:3 'Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.', but he gets angry with them if they question anything he has to say.

He tells them they are going to hell and kicks them from the room. He always says they are playing games and they do not want to hear what he has to say and he doesnt have time for games.

He never wants to show any love for anyone but himself and he believes he is never wrong in his own mind for doing the things he does to others. This bothers me to no end.

As for now he is mad at me for pointing out to him his ways and tells me I am self-righteous for judging him. Judging him was never my intent to start with. I tried to explain to him he needed to show more love to those searching for answers instead of telling them they are going to hell and kicking them from the room.

I have broken all ties with this person for the time being untill we can work things out. I believe this to be biblical according to Amos 3:3 'Can two walk together, except they be agreed?'

Untill the time we can agree, I will continue to pray for this man asking God to open his eyes and hearts to others and show them the love Jesus has for each one of us.

Thanks for your reply to my post. God bless you, broLarry

[DaBronx]

I have broken all ties with this person for the time being untill we can work things out. I believe this to be biblical according to Amos 3:3  'Can two walk together, except they be agreed?'

Untill the time we can agree, I will continue to pray for this man asking God to open his eyes and hearts to others and show them the love Jesus has for each one of us.

Thanks for your reply to my post. God bless you, broLarry

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It's all you can do... you've tried patience, advice, rebuke... As a loving brother in Christ there's nothing else you can do.

[Guest broLarry]

I have broken all ties with this person for the time being untill we can work things out. I believe this to be biblical according to Amos 3:3